September Babies Continued

[Thorz300]

They don't think it is Autism. He plays and interacts just fine with his brothers, he wants to be just like them and near them always. He doesnt have any weird habits that I've noticed no spinning or fiddling or lining toys up. He throws lots of tantrums, but mostly because he is so frustrated with not being able to communicate properly. He is ALWAYS on the go, very very curious about everything and likes to take everything apart or brake things just for the sake of it.

[Wanting-a-girl]

Well that's good! Social is a big thing! Anyways sorry to bring this up but it was your ds3 that heard you say your gong to the store and he went and buckled himself up right? That shows really good understanding I think!

[Thorz300]

Nope that was DS2 he is 4. He is still in a 5 point harness car seat so he can get in all on his own bit he can't get out yet.

[Wanting-a-girl]

Ooooo I see... My ds3 is basically just understanding, comprehension and speech...

If I were to take him to the mall he wouldn't walk with me I would have to chase him around...

He is very impressive tho cause he is very smart! He can count to ten ahe knows the alphabet... He will guide me to things he wants... I've somewhat taught him he can't run off from in front of the house... I'm still working on that...he is ridiculously affectionate...

Ds2 at this age was already diagnosed... I already had several black eyes from tantrums... He was non stop screaming... Not one word in his vocab..l 0 understanding... All he would do is sit in a corner and flip the corner of rug... Or spin a spin toy that my mom bought him

[Thorz300]

Oh yep my ds3 is the same way with running away if I let go of him for a second he is off like a light and he is so super fast!! It is so hard to take him anywhere! Sound like both of our DS3 are similar, maybe he does have a slight bit of autism and just hasn't been diagnosed. I know there is a spectrum. How was your ds3 officially diagnosed?

[divakotka]

Thorz -- I wouldn't worry about Autism just yet. A lot of what you told us about your DS3 sounds just like a little boy who is acting fine in every way, except that he is speech delayed and this does impact some of his abilities to do other things. My DS1 was the same way. He could barely get any words across (also maybe 20-30) until he was a little past three years old and started preschool (once a week for 2.5 hours). That made a huge difference for him and lowered his frustration level and tantrums a TON. I think that kind of behavior is perfectly normal when the little guy can't communicate but desperately wants to be a part of everything. If he makes eye contact, cuddles, and engages with you, your DH, and his brothers in other ways, then I wouldn't lean towards autism. But it would be good to give him some support in the form of speech therapy.

And what 2-yo boy does NOT like to run away from his mommy?!

[Thorz300]

I'm pretty sure it isn't autism too but never can be 100%. I just pray he gets into this preschool when he is 3. It will be completely free and 4x a week for 2.5 hours (he will even ride a bus to and from the preschool) I feel bad for wanting him to go so badly like I'm trying to get rid of him or something, but he is just so so so so difficult, I really need him to start being able to communicate.

[Wanting-a-girl]

My ds3 isn't diagnosed yet... I have a big dr appt assessment in December...

They sound very alike to me! Which makes me happy to hear that your drs don't think it's autism and gives me some hope... Like I said if it was just speech I wouldn't worry but the understanding is a red flag to me from my experience... I did a course thing when I was waiting for speech therapy for ds2 cause there are huge wait lists here it was called more than word and it's based on a book that has lots of great tips for turn taking games and other things that I would think you could utilize

Its hard to say if he's on the spectrum to me it sounds like he could be just from my 7 years of experience... But the good thing is that even if it is or isn't you are getting assessments and thearapy for him and in the end that's all that matters


There is a huge difference than kids running wild and kids just not having understanding... Of course any kid likes to run off but when they literally never respond to you when you say come here then that is an issue/red flag ... Ds1 liked running off but he thought he was funny... He had a sense of danger which my others didn't... Ds3 would run onto a road no hesitation when a normal almost three year old would not and you could yell stop or no to them and they would stop to look


Autism is tricky in that it never looks the same believe me! I went on for 18 month actually thinking ds3 was normal and then he just stopped progressing he fell behind ... He didn't regress he just didn't progress

I'm not saying yours has is either... I'm just saying keep paying attention to everything... It doesn't even matter if he has it cause your already doing what you need to do... The diagnoses doesn't do a thing for you... I get a whopping 200 bucks a month for ds2 disability ...

[Wanting-a-girl]

Honestly the whole eye contact... Affection thing is a load of crap... My classic autism guy gave me both all the time and he's very severe altho getting better

[Thorz300]

Oh that's the thing, he doesn't understand danger at all and if I tell him to stop or come back, he acts like he doesn't understand or hear me, I might as well be talking to myself when it comes to commands about stopping or coming to me. Sometimes it's a game to him though when it's nap time or dinner time, he runs away and laughs.