Is it wrong not to tell anyone?

[wildwooddays]

There is definitely no reason you need to tell anyone, that is your business. BTW, I can't believe your SIL said that! My sil swayed and did get a girl and brags about it now which is annoying enough.

[spinningmadly]

I didnt tell anyone except on here and dh. Also I haven't told anyone the sex yet except on here too yet lol. Although I will tell people I know I'm just not saying and I don't hear any gender comments.

[Violet]

Well, I feel smug that your SIL had twin boys. I wish that was my case. My DH has 2 brothers as well and MIL wanted a girl. Well, my SIL said those same words and got the elusive girl. I think it is more painful to the first DIL and to have the first boys/children. Was that you? I felt too on the spot and like my babies were a disappointment. (I think the words from my DH saying "I think my mother is disappointed" didn't help). You know, if I were in your shoes, I would not find out the gender. But that is just me. And it is for more reasons that being able to tell people that we don't know the gender and pull it off without looking disappointed.

[my4leafclover]

My sil has the only 2 girls out of 10 and she is now pg with a boy. she waited to tell the family she was pg until she knew the gender because she didn't want o deal with the comments. I may do the same.

[dreamingpink77]

I wouldn't tell it to a single soul! Especially cause of your sister in law. I have the same situation here, mother in law wanting a girl badly and I know my sister in law would LOVE to have a girl so she is the preferred grandchild. I didn't tell anyone I swayed pink and def not them. Good luck with your sway, I hope you have your so much desired daughter!

[Ipadmad]

Your sil is quite an arse saying that, beggars belief.

Only DH and my sister knows. I wouldn't tell anyone else personally.

[hotdogz&boyz]

What is with sister-in-laws??? Lol. Mine is the exact same. My MIL is flat out crazy, so I don't much care what she thinks of my children. She mostly ignores them anyway. But she desperately wants a granddaughter...she had two sons. And my SIL has said MANY times how she will give her a girl and how that will make her the "favorite daughter-in-law" (haha, not a title I want anyway, I don't have any love lost for my MIL). But I think it's so presumptuous to assume they can say those things and not sound like a complete Witch-with-a-B! (and I am the most horrible person on the planet because I can't wait to see the look on SILs face when she finds out we are having a girl before they even have any kids...they are waiting for another year or two).

But anyway...we also didn't tell anyone we were swaying. We didn't even tell them we were trying, much less swaying. I just did it quietly and figured whatever happened would happen. My DH was totally on board, he had the easy part (just some supplements). But he supported me and listened to al of my "theories" about what to do and how to do it. Lol. Only my mom, dad, brothers, and best friend know we are having a girl. I *think* my friend has a suspicion we swayed. She never asked or said anything, but I think she knows. She considered doing it with her third and ended up not doing it. She did have her third Boy (fourth total, her first she gave up for adoption because she was a teenager when she had him). She isn't a judgy type though, so I don't mind if she knows. But I don't know if I will tell folks "how we got a girl" if they ask. I dunno if I am ready to admit to swaying. It's not that I am ashamed we did it...but I would fear someone wouldn't do the research on it and try, get an opposite, and blame me. Lol. I don't know if I wish to head down that road. I might cop to "less intentional" factors that played a role in my sway (breastfeeding, being sick, losing weight, having a kid who slept like crap). But maybe not stuff like diet, refresh, and supplements. I think it's really not any of their business, so I wouldn't be concerned about telling folks. How you conceive a child is highly personal...so I doubt anyone would hold it against you if you kept the details to yourself

[PolishPrincess]

I think I shared this b4 but MY fabulous SIL told me that her second would be a girl because I "already have three boys so statistically I will have THE girl" well guess what....five grandsons total for my parents....I think how people can get competetive about this is so sad....I hope I remember this all when I am a MIL and I will hold those bundles of blue (if God willing I become a Nana) and treasure them just as much as any pink bundle. Just my two cents. Oh and PS Don't tell anyone I did the last time I was on the diet and when we decided to take a break people admitted to me how crazy they think I am. This time it's just me, my computer and my cyber gal pals.

[mumof6]

nope absolutely not!
no one knows we are ttc number 7, there would be lots of judgement from that alone let alone if they knew we were swaying girl and of course what if it was another failed attempt?
best to just keep quiet then there's no nastiness or judgement from anyone in regards to gender or ttc.