What I want you to do is not necessarily eat more than you are (if you can't!) but focus on eating more than you were eating when you got your girls.
Try to eat protein and carbs at every meal and snack. Your eating patterns are at your discretion, you just want to avoid eating anything that's just straight up pure sugary carbs like candy or bananas unless you are eating protein at the same time. Also try not to get really hungry between meals.
Dinner vs. before bed, I leave at your discretion. I like you guys to have that bedtime snack, so if it's a choice of one or the other I'd be inclined for you to keep the bedtime snack.
Foods are not "blue/pink" friendly the way you're thinking of them. Most foods can be a part of a sway diet, it's the overall nutrient content of your diet that matter and not magic foods. Yes, you can have cottage cheese, chicken, and pastry and buns. BUT pastry and buns have a lot of calories for not a lot of nutrients, so you may be better off keeping them to a minimum and focusing more of your food on the healthiest options like fruits, veg, and meat.
Anything that is pure carbs (such as pastry and buns) needs to be with protein if at all posible.
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