Originally Posted by
pink_bean
I was the same but I still kinda hoped my first woukd be a girl and was disappointed when he was not but I got over it quickly. The bad part for me was my GD came back even worse when he was born. But I had a very difficult birth and pretty sure I had ppd that I never got treated for. I also think I had a very idealized version of the perfect baby boy that I imagined and bonded with while pregnant and my real baby was nothing like the fantasy version.
My second baby I didn't let myself imagine how he mightbe and I fell in love with him for who he was right away. Don't get me wrong, I love both my children unconditionally. Motherhood and having only sons has really humbled me but also made me very strong. I would've loved to have a daughter, that was my dream although I always wanted a son, too. But I actually imagined having a daughter and even once wrote a list of everything I would do differently with my daughter than my parents had done with me.
I don't really care about sharing all the same interests with my children or getting mani/pedis or having a dress up doll, although don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with any of those things. I just wanted to raise a little girl who felt loved enough to do anything she set her mind too. Also, my husband is amazing. I never had my dad around really, it would've been nice to see the father/daughter relationship. But for whatever reason it wasn't meant to be. I din't think girls are cuter or better behaved than boys, I just wanted to experience raising a girl.