Originally Posted by
lad
I think this may also come down to location. We live in the southern United States, where people have more traditional gender expectations, and while pregnant with my little boy I only heard positive things. People constantly told me how much easier boys were, how sweet they were, how well they treated their moms and would even stop me to say things like, “You’re glowing! Must be a boy—girls steal your beauty, but boys makes you glow!” It also seems like when you have a boy, you get inducted into this “boy moms” club. It’s all BS of course. Kids are totally individual! Honestly, I think girls are currently in vogue in more liberal parts of the world, whereas in more traditional areas, boys are still more desired (all of my friends from the south want boys, all of my friends from the north want girls). I’d be curious to see what others think of this theory!
The biggest thing that has helped me to feel better about my GD (for a girl) is to think about all the kids I know. When I think of families with both boys and girls, I’d just as often prefer to have the boys as my own children as I would the girls! My cousins for example are a family of two older boys and two younger girls, and the boys are absolutely gorgeous and gentle and lovely, and the girls are selfish and immature and unappealing. But in other families, it’s the complete opposite! My own little guy is more beautiful than I could’ve imagined, hilarious, and easy going, so sometimes it drives me bonkers that I keep thinking about having a daughter. Honestly, I think my hang up for a girl is wanting the relationship I had with my mom—we were super close, and she has a terminal illness.