Originally Posted by
ksmom
First off I'm so sorry you're getting hurtful comments like that, both from family and strangers. I remember all too well the comments I got from random people when we were expecting DS3. It really amplifies the GD especially when you've swayed. While having 2 kids is fairly easy, I didn't find adding a third to be too much. Really by that point you're used to dividing your attention and the third gets thrown in there somewhere with all the busy activity. It was a little hard at first when DS3 was a baby (but it was that way too when DS2 was little) but now my youngest son is 2.5 years old and my oldest two are 7 and 5 so they can help out. We definitely want a fourth as well. If you can do IVF for your third, then by all means do it. I wanted a girl for our second, got a boy and was OK then swayed pink for our third after chickening out of HT and had another boy. Now we're doing HT for sure for baby #4.
I've found it's true what Atomic says about boys needing to come in pairs. My oldest two are like two peas in a pod and I wouldn't trade them for anything. Best of luck to you! :)