Maternal Dominance Hypothesis and Priviledged Daughter Hypothesis

[daydrmbelievr]

How incredibly interesting!!! My DH kids that I am OCD because I want to be able to understand everything that is going on around me, and to be able to manipulate it as needed.
I have two sons, and both were conceived when I had high stress jobs in very male dominated industries. I was making a higher salary than my hubby at the time, and I always tried to be the "alpha" in our relationship.
I am really hoping that mellowing out and being a happier, less stressed person will help me get my pink

[Hitmebabyonemoretime]

Ya I'm a Martha. But not with my day to day but with DH. I don't directly try to control him but I get stressed out and irritated (maybe even disappointed) in him/by him - all the time it seems.



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[missxo143]

This is a great essay! Thank you!

[stephk]

Hitmebaby - I can totally relate to that!!

[Makai]

This is so interesting! It will be neat to see how this theory progresses over time. I think I fit the profile of a boy mom when it comes to anxiety and worrying about every little thing, and then some.

[Auzair]

Great atomic i recently started reading you here


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[Dynazyme]

To do daily exercises really helps me a lot to be more relaxed and to stop Martha habbits.

(actually is it common in the USA to call sb "Martha" or "Mary"? Never heard about this bible story.)

[atomic sagebrush]

To do daily exercises really helps me a lot to be more relaxed and to stop Martha habbits.

(actually is it common in the USA to call sb "Martha" or "Mary"? Never heard about this bible story.)

No, it's not common at all. I think I probably made it up LOL. I was trying to think of any story that had two dissimilar women in them that many people around the world were familiar with, and who were the right type of people that I think of as being boy/girl mom types. That story and the Ferris Bueller movie both stuck out in my mind as being good examples that many people might be familiar with.

[LacePrincess]

A little late to finding this fabulous set of essays....

But - OMG Atomic!! I am DYING laughing because I am so true-blue that's it's ridiculous. Under 'Boy mom prototype' you might as well paste my picture in the dictionary, because I am THIS ALL OF THIS. I am a Martha dammit! I even have diagnosed OCD. SNORT!!

Ah but I am at a stage where I am making myself let go and LIVE. Just ....leave it all in the hands of God. Healthier and wiser and less miserable all around. It's not easy, but I sure am sick of missing the forest for the trees and missing out on REAL HAPPINESS because I'm so obsessed with the nitpicky unimportant stuff and catastrophizing everything.

I'm doing better, but it's a two steps forward, one step back thing for sure. Ironically if we conceived naturally now I'd probably end up a girl mom, I'm being so zen these days, LMAO. But I'm out of time to sway so we're going HT. But I hear that being relaxed helps IVF anyways, so I'm doing my best to leave it in God's hands and accept that I cannot control what happens. I can just go for the ride, hang on and ride it out, and believe that one way or another things will happen the way they were meant to be.

[LacePrincess]

Hehehe it's funny. My personality really HAS changed. I know how I obsessed years ago, and now I think about TTC and just go 'meh, too lazy to do all that work and planning again'.

Then I took that test and scored very high for boy if I ticked off my personality traits from years ago. And then I did it again ticking off how I tend to feel about things now. And scored 85% girl! hahahhaha!

Awesome but I'm still not risking it, LMAO. Good to know that my trying to be more laid back philosophy really has changed me. Either that or I'm just burnt out exhausted and beat up from life with 3 boys, LMAO. Frankly I'm not even OCD much these days because it's too exhausting!