Originally Posted by
atomic sagebrush
:) gut instinct here, it seems a little bit "martha" to say, OMG I have to now postpone and come up with a plan to relax myself and change my personality!!! (remember Jeannie trying to change her name to impress Charlie SHeen??) You can't change your personality, it's more like you just mellow out a little bit and it's not something that you MAKE happen. You can't make it happen. It just happens. What you can do is try to practice acceptance and that can help.
Be like Sloane - say, this is who I am, it's ok, things are cool, life is good, no matter what I can't really lose here. If you're really obsessing over it, and you ahve the time to spare because you're young enough, flip a coin and just do what the coin says (no reflipping if you don't like the outcome!!!)