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January 16th, 2019, 03:03 PM #11Swaying Advice Coach
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January 16th, 2019, 03:09 PM #12Swaying Advice Coach
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there is something to this. Some people WANT the IG approach and get very irritated with me for bringing up all the buts and wells and except-fors and stuff. They want to go into their sway feeling like everything is totally proven and that they'll have a guarantee because it brings them peace of mind - and for the people who it works out for, I'm sure it's great to have that courage of the conviction and then having it all work out. But for those of us who it doesn't work out for, and then they just come out of nowhere like smug pirhanas, it's a lot less fun. I just saw too many people who basically lost years out of their lives chasing sway tactics and then when they finally started to relax even the tiniest of things when they got opposites, being told "this is your fault, you gave up too easily" - that's just not something I could ever be on board with. Especially when you look aroudn the world and see people who didn't do any of those things getting boys and girls without ever even trying to!
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January 16th, 2019, 03:10 PM #13Swaying Advice Coach
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January 16th, 2019, 03:11 PM #14
Lil you sound like such a sweet person and it's obvious you really care about others and their happiness.
I also was on ingender before here and was swaying their way- I didn't get pregnant ( lime, tbm and o+12 will do that) and then found gd and got pregnant with ds2 not long after ( my first sway was a mix of ig and gd so not a good mix haha).
I too found it such a desolate place and definitely not open to new ideas or swaying tactics so I just couldn't see any value in it because I just saw so many people with failed sways it was heartbreaking. Their gender disappointment board was so active and the heartache was unbearable at times.
I know that any mention of this site gets shut down very quickly so maybe you could reach out to the few you feel connected with to swap emails and then you could share this site with them xxProud Mum to two gorgeous boys
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January 16th, 2019, 03:31 PM #15
Thank you Kitten, you’re right I do! I just can relate so much to some of you girls here. I mean we are all here because we desperately want the same thing.
A few months ago I commented on an ingender post about ‘men deciding the gender’ I thought to myself ... ‘don’t comment Lil... don’t do it...step away’ but damn I commented, just a little about lifestyle etc and some interesting theories I had ‘read online’ told others they should have a quick google search and I’m sure they would come across some interesting ‘essays’ well... ended up getting myself told off a little by a girl mum, because I’d offended her. I decided after that that it wasn’t worth it. Like a previous poster said, people will just go with what they are comfortable with.
Swaying can be such a heavy weight for some of us... the pressure, the hope, the anxiety. I truly admire anyone who gives it a go.
Lil
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January 17th, 2019, 11:13 AM #16
I swayed with IG back in 2010 (hello eggwhites up the hoohah) thinking back on their tactics I can't believe I went along with it!! Desperation I suppose. I didn't know about this site until a few years later, and even tho I had another failed away, I came back again because atomics ways make a lot more sense (and I don't fear for my life!) And there are no hard and fast rules to follow. Honestly I found it to be very unfriendly on IG. My posts would be taken over, I'd be ignored and they would 'talk' amongst themselves. I literally would say something and someone else would say the exact same thing after me, but they would be thanked or agreed with not me! I had a nosey back over there a few times but I'm actually too scared to comment lol
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January 17th, 2019, 12:22 PM #17Swaying Advice Coach
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OMgosh I'd forgotten about that - yes very cliquish. I was there for like 9 months before anyone even really acknowledged my presence (and u know me I had about 5000 posts by then, LOL)
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January 18th, 2019, 06:45 AM #18
Saw "lime tampons" and it made me lol. With my first pregnancy I was actually going to mix lemon juice in with DH's semen and put the mixture in my vagina. Last minute (after he already supplied the sample but before I added lemon juice), I chickened out/came to my senses and didn't add lemon juice but inserted the plain semen, got pregnant with a girl anyway 😁
I was never a member of ingender, and honestly don't even remember where I read that lemon juice semen sways girl, could also have been babycenter which I used to read.born 2017 after girl sway: AI + Clomid
born 2019 after girl sway. : AI + j&d (no Clomid)
Due #3 Nov 2020: AI + breastfeeding
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January 18th, 2019, 07:09 AM #19
Oh, and just to add -- I wouldn't be above putting lemon/lime juice in my vagina if there was evidence it worked. But I'm pretty sure lemon juice theory is just based off of shettles theory (female sperm survive harsher conditions) which has been disproven.
While on the subject of Shettles: my girl was conceived in ovulation day. My boy was conceived two days before.born 2017 after girl sway: AI + Clomid
born 2019 after girl sway. : AI + j&d (no Clomid)
Due #3 Nov 2020: AI + breastfeeding
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January 18th, 2019, 01:17 PM #20Swaying Advice Coach
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Yes that's the thing, I think people sometimes imagine I have some burning need to differentiate myself from this style of swaying - but I don't. I wanna do whatever gets the most people their desired gender the fastest and with the least amount of pain involved. If I thought any of this stuff worked I'd be doing it. It's that I haven't seen it work, and also have seen it create massive amounts of human misery, up to and including causing failed sways that I don't recommend it.
ps - it causes failed sways because so many people can't get pregnant doing it, so they go on for too long not getting pregnant, so people give up swaying and basically end up in such a panic that they sway blue just to get pregnant.
just didn't want anyone to think "atomic says lime causes failed sways" - I don't know that it does, but it DOES prevent conception hugely, and in turn the stress from seeing BFN after BFN causes people to give up on swaying and some of those people would have gotten their DG if they had had a way to gently relax over time rather than being told "do all this stuff or your sway will fail"!!! Questions?? Check out the NEW and improved Complete Index !!!
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