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    Hello Atomic

    Hope you are doing great! i am here today because i need your insight on this : Hubby and i are gonna do our one attempt in 10 days and by then he would've abstain for more than three weeks...Do you think that is too long for abstaining? will there be any viable or good spermes? The reason why he abstained so long is because i had a miscarriage almost a week ago (i was 4 weeks and so) and since we did not want to wait for next cycle to try, we just decided to BD at positve OPK.
    My husband is going to turn 35 next month.

    Thank you for your time.

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    Yes, I think that is too long for abstaining.

    I would have him "clean the pipes" once and then resume abstain.
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    What do you think about him releasing first on the day of attempt then we BD 1-3 hours after that release?

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    That's fine, but it does really cut odds of conception considerably to do that and may not even help your sway.
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    So the best option for you at this point would be having him release for example today, then abstain for the next 7-8 days before attempt? wouldn't that be the moment when the sperm count is at his highest? am so scared that am not sure how to go about this anymore, and really sorry to disturb you with this.
    I even thought may be we could just go with the BD every 4 days but then am not sure if that's gonna help somehow with my sway since only one BD is recommended. am soooo confused...

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    None of the frequency patterns have worked.

    i'll say it again - NONE of the frequency patterns have worked.

    You guys, I hate to see you get so uptight and scared over this one thing again and again. It doesn't matter. Do FR. Do abstain. I don't care either way because neither one of them worked. All I want is for you guys to do one attempt. And I like to see you guys drop the frequency fairly early on because you need to get pregnant fast doing diet and one attempt rather than go on and on doing stuff like FR, abstain, the hurry up FR with the release 1-3 hours before, whatever, because that stuff does not work.

    But to answer your question, no, the sperm count would not be the highest 7-8 days of abstain because the body stops making sperm. Plus, more of the sperm is old and bad, and incapable of fertilizing anything. People mistake a higher amount of semen for a higher amount of viable sperm but the two are not connected that way.

    We have good results with e4d if that is less stressful to you. It does not violate the 'one attempt' rule (particularly when done in the every 96 hour pattern) because the sperm from one batch is all dead and gone before the next batch is deposited. e4d is still one attempt really.
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    So to make sure i understand this, When you say it's the one attempt that works, you mean one attempt during the fertile window correct?
    Thank you sooooooooo much for taking the time to reply to me and having to say things that you probably already said so many times, it's really appreciated. I will go for the e4d

    Thank you thank you!!!!

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    Yes. One unprotected attempt in the fertile window.
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