Hello from an American in the UK! :) Hope to someday sway for a girl!

[suregena]

My husband and I have only just had our first, a son, last year. He is 14 months old right now. Recently, we've been getting that itch again--you all know it. When you see a newborn and you feel really emotional just looking at them, everything baby-related just push all your buttons! Thankfully it's not just me and my husband has the same feeling. We'll probably try when we can. I am breastfeeding so not yet because I haven't even had my period still! I am wanting my son to wean on his own but I do know that if my cycle returns sometime this year and if we decide to go ahead and start the process, that will no doubt affect my supply, anyway. But, I digress...

I have three brothers and my husband has two brothers. His mother was always resentful and bitter she never had a daughter. We knew our first would be a boy, as well, which we were happy and fine with. But we did make it officially clear by finding out on an ultrasound because his mother was constantly saying, "And hopefully it's a girl!" and there was NO WAY I was going to listen to that my entire pregnancy. Ugh.

Anyway--I had a feeling there was more to sperm-meets-egg then there seems, and I didn't ever fully believe that some people just have girls or boys. I knew there might be something more to it than that. My grandmother had four girls. All of her daughters went on to have a total of 9 boys and 2 girls (me included in the 2! My only girl cousin is four months younger than me so we're practically like sisters.)

So, just nearly buying one of those books about it to look into it, I read in a review of the book that "you can find plenty of online forums and websites with the stuff that is in this book for free."
I thought, "Oh. Well, duh!" so did not buy it. I started by finding Ingender and read through it all, my mind melting/being blown simultaneously, but I was getting very annoyed by the constant errors and I was never even approved to post, anyway. I saw this place mentioned--and here I am! Phew! Good thing, I am bursting with questions! (Okay, not too many... maybe...)

My husband is on board--to a degree. He refuses, period, to give up coffee/tea. He said he MIGHT be okay doing just tea and no coffee (black tea.) He works 12 hour shifts 4 days in a row... so you can see why the thought of giving up his coffees and tea freak him out. But he's happy to take the supplements and mostly eat the diet (though if we ever visit his mother, who is recently widowed, for meals, her being very traditionally British, that could make meal-times awkward...)

On top of that, we're both vegetarian. I have a feeling the diet will be strangely unvaried, but I'm a stubborn girl... I can do it.

Anyway, rambling aside...

The reason we want to try to sway for a girl is because we don't really want 4 kids. We may have 3 tops, but definitely two. We figure if we try this now, we may be able to find our balance sooner than later... and I am so glad to have stumbled across this now.

Well, that's us in a nutshell!

[Dark Angel]

Hello! I truely hope that your sway works out for you so that no matter how many kids you have, you never have to stress over the GD. GL! xo

[Zivic-Bubac]

Hi and welcome!
You'll find so many info here and great support!

[TTC5]

Welcome!!

[begonia]

Welcome! Best wishes with your girl sway!

[nuthinbutpink]

Hi there! Welcome!

[Freya]

Welcome, and GL with your sway. You can have plenty of pink dust from me !

[atomic sagebrush]

hi and welcome! I LOVE questions so ask away!!

[suregena]

hi and welcome! I LOVE questions so ask away!!

Oh, I'm sure I will be asking plenty! Mainly because my head is so full of info now that I keep finding myself, even while sitting at work, thinking about whether or not a cut off is better, whether or not I really *understand* how to do a cut off, whether or not we should go frequently with a cut off, whether my husband's coffee intake or tea intake will make trying to sway pointless, trying to think of "meal" ideas for two vegetarians that are only the foods that are ideal, etcetera... heh. There is a lot! I've even been thinking lately if this will make it take a very long time for me to conceive once we do finally do this, or if I have to mentally prepare myself for the possibility of several miscarriages. My first two pregnancies ended in miscarriage (7 weeks and 6 weeks), though I got pregnant both those times the first month trying. My son was conceived immediately after the second miscarriage, so I never got my period back (in fact we weren't trying again yet and I was starting to get very annoyed my period hadn't returned as I just wanted to "start over" after my yet again second miscarriage... only not realizing my cycle hadn't returned yet because I got pregnant!)

Obviously it won't be a while as I am still waiting for my period to come back due to breastfeeding, and I'd like to watch my cycle for some months to see whether it goes back to regular or not when it does return, and then I'd like to start the diet a couple months before to give my body time.
So not sure what/when this will happen, but I'm figuring out the plan now and trying to learn as much as I can!

My husband was half-asleep a few weeks ago while I was nursing my son in the morning, and he shocked himself as he nearly mumbled, "Don't forget to feed his little sister!" Man, wonder what THAT means? :P

[Iris_star]

hi hun and welcome good luck with your pink swaying im not far from you down the road in hx xxxxxxxx