3 failed ivf for family balancing

[nurse2003]

Hi
I introduced myself a while back.
I have 2 beautiful boys, age 7 and almost 5.
Saying I dream of a girl is an understatement. I lost my mom when I was 2, I have never experienced any side of a mother/daughter relationship, the longing for pink, and hair bows and dresses is indescribable. I never imagined I wouldn't have my own little girl....
A year ago we made the decision to go with IVF with PGD to family balance. We have now had three failed IVF's and lost 5 female embryos and have none left, and said this was the last try. I am beyond heartbroken. I had no fertility issues with my boys so we all thought our chances of success were extremely high!
We just found out today but i'm clearly in no place to decide whats next....
we had talked adoption before ivf and even applied only to be told they stopped taking applications, just feels the universe is against me....
Need to grieve and then soul search, do we play russian roulette? or maybe do one of these swaying plans? I would love to see stats of success....

Thanks for listening
Chantel

[Wanting-a-girl]

So sorry

If you are going be okay with another boy then I think you should try and sway at least that way you know you did what you could...

Are you able to adopt from a different country?

[nurse2003]

I need to take some time to soul search and see how I really feel about it all, of course I would love any baby, but it doesn't get to the core root of the big empty space in me.....I don't think financially we can do another country adoption....

[alreadyneedivf]

so sorry--I would definitely sway if you are okay with a boy. I hope you figure it out and we are all here to help!

[nuthinbutpink]

So did you just do one fresh cycle and go back for frozen embryos? Or are they 3 full cycles?

How old are you? Where did you cycle?

[nurse2003]

i'm 32....cycled in Syracuse, NY....1st retrieval, 2 fresh transfers, then a frozen transfer with 2...took break, retrieval in April, low numbers, decided to to one more retrieve....6 embryos and only had 1 girl...transfered her...no go

[Wanting-a-girl]

Do your soul searching and then decide what's best for you... If you have another boy I'm guessing you will still have the emptiness

Is there a foster adopt program where you are?

[nurse2003]

We haven't talked about fostering recently but hubby didn't feel he could do it, thought he'd be too attached and I worry about the boys getting attached too....my 5 yr old was convinced mommy was having a baby girl this time....there was so much karma around this cycle it wasn't even funny, feeling numb

[GT77]

nurse2003, where did you cycle in Syracuse?

[matti]

I´m so sorry nurse2003, If you decide to sway for a girl, then you need to be ready to have a babyboy. I did sway for a girl with my second child and it didn´t work for me. So now Im gonna try ht. I hope you find your way and a peace of mind.