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    40 and going for a girl with ivf/icsi/pgd

    Hi all. I'm a 40 year mother to 3 wonderful young men ages 11, 13 and 18. My previous husband is their father. I have been married to their Step-dad for six years and have been talking to him about trying for a girl for 5 years. He is 54 with a vasectomy and already has a son and a daughter ages 27 and 24. He has finally come around to the idea and is very excited about it so we are doing ivf with icsi and of course pgd for chromosomal testing which will tell us if they are girl embryos or boy embryos. I've been reading and researching all of this and I'm a bit worried about my age. I don't feel forty but I don't think that matters in ivf. I have seen and read about all of the women who haven't had one child because of infertility and I sometimes think that I may be asking for too much. However, I have been thinking about a girl for a long time and it just is not going away. We were going to do ivf last year but we stopped because we were almost going to have to move back to the mainland (we live in Hawaii) So we were already set up with a fertility clinic in Honolulu. After the job opportunity changed to a move from Oahu to Maui I called the clinic. I'm a year older though but very optomistic because it feels right and all is seeming to be moving along in a unforced manner. I see some of you who are mothers of 3 boys in this forum so maybe you have some insight to share. I'm a bit concerned that possibly I get few embryos and they are all boys. I keep manifesting several snow babies (looking to do a FET frozen embryo transfer to increase pregnancy rate) and enough girls to get pregnant. I would love twin girls as well. We will see. My cycle has started. I starts stims around December 1st and egg retrieval is around December 12th.

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    Hi there. Good luck to you! What was your pretesting like? What is your AFC, FSH, AMH? What protocol and dosage of meds did they put you on? I encourage you to become a Dream Member so you can access all the other people that are currently cycling. We do Cycle Diaries for each person so we can follow along with you in the member section!
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    Thank you for your response. I don't have any pretesting results. I am doing the Antagonist protocol and I don't have my baseline til next Friday. I should know then I guess. I'll sign up as a member tomorrow. Thanks for your advice.

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    Hi Hun, did your clinic not run blood tests, scan you etc before giving you your protocol? This is your pretesting for them to see how you might respond to the cycle. Which clinic are you using? Wishing you good luck x
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    Hi, welcome, and good luck!!

    You may want to look into donor eggs or embryos as they may be the best way to get your DD.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kittybear View Post
    Hi Hun, did your clinic not run blood tests, scan you etc before giving you your protocol? This is your pretesting for them to see how you might respond to the cycle. Which clinic are you using? Wishing you good luck x
    They did take my blood but I didn't get the results because the ivf coordinators have changed and been really busy. I did have an saline ultrasound and all is normal. I have 8 follicles on one side and 9 on the other. I got the head ivf coordinators contact and I will ask those results. I'm going to The Fertility Institute of Hawaii with Dr. Frattarelli. Thanks for the good luck wishes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kittybear View Post
    Hi Hun, did your clinic not run blood tests, scan you etc before giving you your protocol? This is your pretesting for them to see how you might respond to the cycle. Which clinic are you using? Wishing you good luck x
    My clinic is The Fertility Institute of Hawaii with Dr. Frattarelli. The took my blood so probably but the ivf coordinators I've had have been either too busy or distracted. I finally got the head ivf coordinators contact and will ask her for these numbers. I only know I have 17 follicles. A bit frustrated with the idea for coordinators but I know the clinic is really good. Thanks for your good luck wishes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nuthinbutpink View Post
    Hi there. Good luck to you! What was your pretesting like? What is your AFC, FSH, AMH? What protocol and dosage of meds did they put you on? I encourage you to become a Dream Member so you can access all the other people that are currently cycling. We do Cycle Diaries for each person so we can follow along with you in the member section!
    Help please. Where do I go to become a dream member?

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    Quote Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush View Post
    Hi, welcome, and good luck!!

    You may want to look into donor eggs or embryos as they may be the best way to get your DD.
    Thanks. This is my first ivf so I will see how it goes but I am open to doner eggs. Thanks for the input. I know I sound like I don't know much cuz I don't in this area yet but DD is desired daughter right?

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    Quote Originally Posted by nuthinbutpink View Post
    Hi there. Good luck to you! What was your pretesting like? What is your AFC, FSH, AMH? What protocol and dosage of meds did they put you on? I encourage you to become a Dream Member so you can access all the other people that are currently cycling. We do Cycle Diaries for each person so we can follow along with you in the member section!
    I'm on the oral contraceptive Antagonist protocol. I don't have the other test results. I'll get them. I am a dream member now so I'll check out the ivf cycle diary.

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