Originally Posted by
2blue1pink
I swayed, because I wanted a third living child no matter what, we planned for it to be our last but I was overly confident it would work. We ended up with DS3, and it was my 4th c-section (we have a dd that died that was my first c-section, then the three boys). I talked DH into having one more, knowing it HAD to be IVF, because I'm at the point where I did not want to risk a 6th pregnancy and 5th c-section (my pregnancies are all high risk) for another boy...I would have rather moved on and learned to live with not ever having a living daughter, than possibly a 4th boy. It took two cycles for us to get ONE embryo to be tested, and luck was on our side as it was a healthy XX and I'm now 30 weeks pregnant with her.
Even the best sway can fail and leave you with a sway opposite. Only you can decide if you are okay with that very real possibility. IVF can drain you of a lot of money and time and is no guarantee to be successful, but at least you know going in that you are not going to end up with an opposite unless you make that choice.
At age 30 and with normal fertility, your odds of having a successful IVF even in just 1 cycle are relatively decent.