I know that answer is so different for all of us.
For me it came after my 3rd cycle that didn't work.
I feel like ever since then..God has been sending me little reminders of how truly grateful I should be, how truly blessed I am. I am glad to get these little jolts of reality every now and then so that I don't stay stuck in the past. Its funny because for the last year HT was an obsession, a focus, something to think about, post about every day, numerous times per day, now I find

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Do any of us really know what comes next in life...we don't! We plan, we think we are prepared and yet we are not.
Yesterday I was at a birthday party and learned that a woman within the circle of my friends - her husband died suddenly, young and left behind 2 beautiful children and a wife. How does she go on? God knows, I think at times I couldn't go on without a daughter? that just seems so unfair of me at times. One would think that puts life in perspective. At times, it does and at times

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Sometimes it takes something going wrong to realize what's really important in your Life. After 3 failed HT attempts in my quest for a girl, I could barely get out of bed for days , was saddened and truly unable to see all the good the universe has given me. since that last cycle I had a health issue that scared me enough to realize that my desire for a dd is just not as important and not all consuming as it was. Is the desire still thee - yes, will I sway- yes but I am beginning to come to a place

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After 3 long cycles of IVF and getting one 24 chromosome normal girl for FET, my journey has ended. I have gotten the dreadful BFN on HPT. I am going for beta tomorrow with little hope that some divine intervention will take over.
At this point, I have been sobbing for 2 days. 1 day I just stayed in bed the entire day. Why me? why didn't this work. Talk about a blow to your self esteem. Here I had this normal embryo put into an optimal lining and nothing. Now all I get to do is walk away

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..that is how I feel this morning....after waking up at 1:30 in the morning with anxiety and being up for 3 hours total before going to bed..tossing and turning...crying...going online.....I am just numb today. I know some of this may be PMS but so much of it is old feelings of 2 failed cycles creeping in...wondering if this is it? is this the cycle that will bring me my dd or is this the cycle that breaks me ...that ends up being a failure and I have to walk away with nothing? I just don't know.

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