2nd Failed Sway - IVF/PGD for 3rd and final baby?
Hi all,
I am almost 20 weeks pregnant with my second boy and second failed sway - the first was Shettles and the second was 8 months of diet abstaining, intermittent fasting, ph-balancing, supplements, timing and letrozole.
While I do have gender disappointment, it's less this time knowing how much I love my current son. I joke with my husband that this second child must have survived a tsunami to exist so I can't wait to meet him. We already have a name picked out that we love. And I truly love that my current son will have a brother close in age. But MAN, did I think this was a girl. Completely different TTC journey, pregnancy, 20 weeks and still gagging. Vomited all through first trimester, leg hair stopped growing. Nothing like my first. Go figure.
But neither of us want more than three children and I know the longing for a daughter is only growing as my fertile years are passing. I will be a few months shy of 35 when this child is born.
Husband has agreed to look into setting up an appointment with a fertility clinic to discuss freezing embryos in hopes to complete our family. But the more I research online, those who have experienced IVF/PGD act like anyone who is remotely fertile would be INSANE to pursue it. The cost and temporary pain isn't the concern, but what to do if we don't get enough strong female embryos and what will we do with the male embryos? I always thought I would donate to science but my husband is in the medical field and says he's uncomfortable not knowing how further developed our embryos would get... with the information he knows, I understand the discomfort there. And if we do pursue this, how soon can I look to an egg retrieval after birth?
So all of that to say, am I insane to pursue this? Are there happy stories? Looking for hope. We had bloodwork done due to having trouble conceiving this time around and my ovarian reserve looked slightly above average for my age, which was promising. I just know that I can't play russian roulette again with a third baby. The thought of experience that GD for the third time, no chance at a daughter and three sons, is honestly too much to take on. I want to try to have a daughter or know that I tried EVERYTHING, and choose to be joyful with my two sons.
Any advice, personal stories or truthful feedback welcome. Thank you for your time!