Do you think getting the desired gender takes away some of the bond you have with the other gender?
Hi, I just wondered if anyone else worries that if they got the desired gender, if it would change the bond/relationship you have with your other children and if you would feel guilty.
I have 3 boys and can see the difference in relationships between my OH's Mum and him, and his mum and sister. She hardly has anything to do with my OH (he isn't that interested) but see's her daughter about 4 times a week and goes on holiday with her.
My Mum probably has similar relationships with me and my brother, she enjoys football etc. and they share interests so sometimes it actually felt like he was favoured - but she see's my children more than his ....
I just worry that if I do get a daughter, if my boys will eventually feel pushed out (even if I try my hardest for that not to happen) compared to if I never had a girl. Id hate to have different relationships with them as I think sibling rivalry is something everyone goes through at some point, but would hate for them to feel like I preferred the girl over them.
What do you think?