today is my day

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today is my day! after the weekend of attending a family party whereby an uncle asked if were going to buy a girl! I thought I have had enough!! Society believes that a 'perfect' family is a nuclear family with mum dad and 2.2. kids of both genders. I have never been one to conform to society so I believe that my family of mum, dad and four indiviual children who happen to be boys to be perfecto!

I may not get to buy dresses (however I could for people less fortunate than us, or for my nieces), or walk my daughter down the aisle but I get to walk my son down an aisle, you tell me the difference. There are vast differences in male and females however i am mother of four boys and I am proud to say I am a 'boy mum'!!!

my husband suggested a while back that i seek grief and loss counselling, but i feel we are all on a journey and it was okay for me to be sad for awhile that i would not have a daughter however all of the time and energy I was putting into these feelings when I was missing out on what was right in front of me, my beautiful children.

today is my day of acceptance. i hope you can find peace also. :pickuphappy:

Well done babe. I am also at the same place of total acceptance. I reached it when I was pregnant with my third son. It was liberating. I'd still like to have a daughter tho, but will be very happy with another son. Either way I'm happy and very blessed.

Beautifully said!

love this and well said...your boys are perfect and were made for your family.

I'm really glad you've found peace with the special family you have. Whilst i feel gd threatening my again now that i have become pregnant again i know that i will not fall as low as i did before and once the dreaded waiting is over i am hopeful i will find peace with whatever i have.

Being a boy mom is special, its the ladies like us that raise the next generation of men, husbands, fathers yet all we seem to get from other people is negative comments - i just don't get it. People who know my boys comment on what nice, polite little boys they are but everyone's first reaction is OMG 3 boys.

In fact i'm sure i'll manage my gd. First and only person i told (a friend) other than my dh that i was pregnant and her response was i'm really happy for you and i know you'd love a daughter but what are you going to do if its another boy, my response was "love him" without thinking and as easily as that - i know i will be ok with another son i fought gd head on with ds3 and won, i couldn't not love another - i only hope other people will back off this time round as all of the comments ruin what would be a special time

This a wonderful post and I am so happy for you! Congrats on having a beautiful family:awe:

I really hope to get to that same place one day!

Beautifully written!! I too found that inner peace and worried it wouldn't last, but here I am over 2 years later feeling so grateful!