Thought this might be a fun poll, or at least a way to explain why we want daughters so much in addition to our sons. :)
Thought this might be a fun poll, or at least a way to explain why we want daughters so much in addition to our sons. :)
I look forward to having a proper and close mother daughter relationship, something I didn't get myself. I don't care about frilly dresses, ponytails and barbies, I just want to create a good mother-daughter bond.
Thanks for starting this thread peonymama. It is an interesting question.
I think I am most looking forward to a feeling of completeness. I love every one of my boys so much, but I wanted one more baby and I feel like this one will be the icing on the cake. She is my fairytale happy ending.
I will no longer have to wonder what it is like to raise a girl and wonder if it is different to raising boys. I will no longer have to wonder how it feels to have a mixed gender family. I will no longer have to look at other families of mixed genders with envy. I will no longer have to wonder what it will be like for my DS's to have a sister or me and my DH to have a DD. I can walk into a baby store and look at the pink things without wondering if I will ever be able to buy them for my DD. I can hear the birth announcements/gender announcements of my friend's babies with genuine happiness, without looking at life through a gender lense. And, I can look forward to having another girl in the house to do girl things with.
I have always hated annoying comments from people about having all boys. I know there will still be comments from strangers that I "got the girl" but I think I will be able to cope with them better.
I so totally agree with zibibbogirl. I really hope that I'm the lucky one I can experience that one day......
I look forward to not only being a "mother-in-law." It sounds like a silly reason, but two of my aunts are currently doing the "mother-in-law" thing...and despite being fabulous ladies who don't meddle and are fun, they still feel left out and "isolated" from their daughter-in-laws. Could be crappy luck and both got rotten deals for daughter-in-laws. But I don't get to pick who my sons love and could end up being "just" the mother-in-law. I desperately want the opportunity to have the mother-daughter thing. Me and my mom are very close and I desire to have a similar relationship with m daughter (if possible). And I just want to know what its like to have a girl. I always thought I would have one and now it seems I am questioning if that will happen.
Honestly just having a little sister for my boys and have a little variety in the family. I'm not into frilly stuff.
If I listed everything I'm looking forward to experiencing with dd, then I'd be here all day :D
But some of the important things are:
-Having a little girl to love, cherish and adore the way I wasn't growing up. Never was appreciated that much growing up, and neither was my sister. Our brothers were spoiled to death because my family wanted boys. Now that I have my own little girl, I can appreciate her and love her just the way she deserves.
-Watching my Dh interact with DD. My dad was never there for me growing up, and I've always had a hole in my heart where my father's love should have been. Having a DD and watching Dh dote on her fills that empty feeling I used to have.
-Giving my sons a sister. They are so sweet and gentle with her, I just love watching them play with her. My Ds1 used to ask me over and over, 'when am I getting a sister?' before DD was born.
-I rose above any GD. Well, mostly. I'd still love to give DD a sister, but I will never feel the GD I felt with my boys ever again. Never again will I sit and wonder what's it's like to have a dd. She healed me in that aspect.
Clothes, shoes and other cute girly stuff are just bonuses to me. Actually I was pretty tomboy growing up so I don't mind at all if DD turns out to be tomboy :o
hotdogz&boyz - interesting point. I really dislike my MIL, but she's nothing like your dear aunts (she's bat-shit crazy that even Dh avoids her).
I think if we raise our sons to be loving, kind individuals, then hopefully they will love girls who are also loving. :awe:
I look forward to rubbing it in a couple people's faces.
And all of the other lovely things people mentioned of course.
this made me LOL! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Sugaree