Frustration...

I'm new at this forum and have started reading through all the info about swaying pink. I LOVE my 2 sons, but I desperately want a daughter. That was my DG even before I had any kids. I've been through a GD with both my pregnancies and the last one was pretty bad. It didn't help that 2 of my friends were pregnant at the same time, both with girls (like me, they both already had a boy). I never, ever want to experience another pregnancy with such disappointment. I've decided not to find out the gender if I ever become pregnant again. I know that I want a 3rd baby and if I was told I can only have a boy, I'd still want him - but I really hope for a girl.

I've found a lot of talk about avoiding stress (because of testosterone) and not trying too hard - I'm overwhelmed with all the info found here and I'm afraid that if I don't do it by the book, my sway will fail. I'm thinking of going for the Sway Plan Service, to take off some of the stress. I'm trying to make myself feel very relaxed about this all and not trying too hard (when the time comes for the 3rd). At the same time I'm afraid that if my sway will fail, I'll blame myself for not doing my best (see, no wonder I have 2 boys!), like I did with my youngest. I tried the timing method, but it failed because I hadn't paid enough attention to pinpoint my O day - I ovulated earlier than I thought I was, so "the timing was perfect for a boy" according the the Shettles method.

This is so difficult, I hate having to put so much thought into this. I envy my friend who is now pregnant with her 3rd, because she can just enjoy it and not having to stress whether it's a boy or a girl - she has both.

Just wanted to clear my head...

All this information is really daunting in the beginning, but the more you read through it and ask questions about anything you are unsure about the easier it all becomes. Hopefully you have a few months up your sleeve before you ttc? And start the diet because the longer you are on it the better. So in a few months all of this info will become kind of second nature to you, you just have to learn it by coming on here regularly. A personalized plan would definatly be the way to go if you think it is going to be too much for you and stress you out.

Attachment 6313 to GD you have come to the right place!
I just want to start of by saying don't beat yourself up about the timing aspect. Shettles method of saying you had a greater chance of making a girl 3 days prior to O and the day before and of O for a boy has been totally debunked.
He thought he saw male and female sperm, but what he saw was actually sperm in different stages of maturation called Capacitation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
The high tech experts can only tell with a special dye the difference between the sperm.

I have to tell you that when I came to GD I too was overwhelmed with info, but eventually settled on the sway I thought was best for me. The biggest thing I had to let go of WAS timing because I believed my boys were conceived with the hardcore shettles method, in the cold (one in the dead of Winter).. with multiple orgasms and right next to ovulation! and I didn't know Shettles was wrong at that point.

I am so glad I finally let go of timing.. I conceived my daughter like right on ovulation!

Atomic is one amazing woman and she will help you..She is a wealth of info, has never ending patience, and seems to never get frustrated. You can totally trust her to help tailor a pink sway that it suiting to your needs and lifestyle.

So again, welcome! Believe in yourself and your sway and you'll be OK!!! :)

:luck:

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Like Butterfly, I was a believer of the Shettles method as well, and it took some time de-program. I made all 3 of my kids on O day itself, 2 boys and 1 girl, and my girl was a sway, and the big thing was maternal condition, i.e. the diet, and imo lowering testertone. That can be achevied in different ways--such as Saw Palmetto or drinking Peppermint tea (I drank Peppermint tea) there is of course more to swaying than that, so take a deep breath, look around, and feel free to ask questions :)

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Originally Posted by auroara78

Like Butterfly, I was a believer of the Shettles method as well, and it took some time de-program.)

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That darn man caused SO much trouble and so many opposites! LOL ;)

I know lol, before I found this website all I could think about at work was when we TTC a girl I'd have crackerjack timing and make sure our attempts were 2-3 days before O, I kept telling myself there was no way I'd ever have sex again exactly on O day :giggle:

Thanks so much!!! I feel better already and have just signed up for the Sway Plan Service... :)

It is daunting in the beginning! I've been here a month and after the first week I nearly threw in the towel - my OH even asked "Wouldn't it just be easier to have another boy!?" But the more i read and asked the more I understood. I'm signing up for dream member tomorrow, but I think I'm finally getting my head around it.

Mind, I've chosen to fully research my sway before I start as I;m typical obsessive boy mum and just need to get the plan together so I can tick off boxes during my sway instead of incessantly researching it.