Thankyou dear ladies.

I just came off IG, where I've noticed quite a few users who are not so nice towards people who have GD any different than the 'usual' kind. (Which is wanting a different gender after having so many of the same).

So anyway, I just wanted to shout out a BIG thankyou to NuthinButPink, AtomicSagebrush, Hobbermittens, Cniss, Aurora, ButterflySpirit and all you other fantasic, amazing ladies who make this website the kind, loving, NON-judgemental place is it! I'm super glad I joined this place almost 2 yrs ago, because IG is really starting to go downhill.

I love you all :awe:

*Edited because I wrote this in frustration and now looking at it the next morning I realise I was a bit harsher toward the IG posters than I intended to be.

:hugs:

Yeah I saw that post :/ not nice... GD does come in all shapes and forms but some refuse to see and or acknowledge that

To be honest, I see many of the same users on IG as on here, many people use both places. I don't feel that IG is a more judgmental place, but it does have more users, so more people to read the posts and more people respond. Of course you have some women who get hurt by the fact that some people don't ever want a certain gender AT ALL, ever, and see it as an attack on their own children. They are here on GD too.

The more users you have, the higher the chance of someone posting negatively about the less PC types of GD. Gender dreaming is not full of angels while IG is full of awful judgemental people. In truth they have a large amount of shared users. IG can be annoying because of the website problems, but to say that it is a judgemental place while this place is so wonderful is just wrong IMO. If you post something on IG you get way more answers than if you post something here. I feel I get more support there, simply because I get more replies.

Personally, I think that if a woman is SO afraid of having one single boy, while she already has several daughters, she might just be pleasantly surprised by having a son, and there is nothing wrong with telling her this!

Claire33, I did not mean to say that all of the IG users are judgemental people, I only said there are quite a few (I meant that they recently have been increasing. IG used to be alot more understanding IMO).

There is nothing wrong with telling a poster that having a boy is not bad - that's not what my problem is. My problem is that there is something wrong with insinuating that she's 'wrong' for wanting all of one gender - and shaming her for it. That's what made me sad.

And most of my fav posters come on here much more frequently than they do on IG, which was I posted this post :o. No, not everyone is an angel on GDreaming, I didn't say that either. But I definitely stand by my opinion that there are alot more people who are more accepting of all kinds of GD on Gender dreaming than on IG.

Claire, no nothing wrong with telling her that boys are wonderful etc etc but there is something wrong with having a go at her just because she would prefer another girl when she has two of them already. She is being attacked, and I never found any thing even remotely close to gender bashing at all. If she had two boys first there wouldn't have been a problem.

GD comes in all forms and that should be respected. It's not exclusive to those wanting the opposite gender they have.Sadly this is not understood.

I find it interesting that in a group of women, half of which are pregnant, some that are frustrated with things going on and others going through stressful periods, that there isn't actually more "bitchyness", flaming and arguements. We are really lucky to have a place where we can come and be honest about whats going on without fear of judgement.

I hope this thread doesn't get derailed because i think what Myloves was trying to say is that she is greatful for being here with all of these wonderful ladies and i am too.

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Originally Posted by Cinss

I find it interesting that in a group of women, half of which are pregnant, some that are frustrated with things going on and others going through stressful periods, that there isn't actually more "bitchyness", flaming and arguements. We are really lucky to have a place where we can come and be honest about whats going on without fear of judgement.

I hope this thread doesn't get derailed because i think what Myloves was trying to say is that she is greatful for being here with all of these wonderful ladies and i am too.

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Hear Hear! I totally agree, GD is a very supportive, positive and intelligent forum where we can discuss things openly without fear of it becoming a mud-slinging free-for-all. :hugs:

Myloves, we love you too :heart:

And I agree that the tone of this post was heartfelt and grateful. And I'm surprised too Cniss, with how hormonal pregnancy is alone, not including gender desire and disappointment in all shapes!