1st M/C after 1st pink sway attempt :(
I hate that so many of us have been through a M/C, but reading all of your stories has helped me to cope with mine. I wanted to share my loss story in hopes that it will help others, and help myself grieve as well.
First, a little background. We have one DS, almost 3 now, and were wanting to add a baby to our family. While PG with DS1, they found a large cyst on my left ovary @ 20 weeks, and I had to have the ovary removed at 21 weeks. It was a rough pregnancy from there on, but we both came out healthy in the end.
It only took us one month to conceive our DS, but with only having one ovary the second go around, my obgyn said it would probably take longer. Hard to keep track of how many months it took since we decided almost a year ago to start, but took almost a year total going through 3 different sway methods. 3 months shettles, 4 months IG, 3 months GD, but did not attempt every month.
We wanted to sway pink in hope for a balanced family, and like so many of you have said, to have the best of both worlds. I purchased a personalized sway here and got PG in Oct. 2012. We DTD on a Sunday night, after getting my +OPK that morning. On Friday, I was unbelievably sick. About 2 weeks later, I noticed my hormones were all over the place, I started having abdominal cramping, and brownish discharge. I thought I would get my period soon, but wanted to take a PG test to see. Almost exactly 2 weeks after attempt, it was neg. I waited 5 more days, and still no period, so took another PG test that said pos.
I contiued to have abdominal cramping and brownish discharge/CM until I started bleeding 1 day before M/C. My doctor continually told me this was normal for some women, but I just felt like something was wrong. My friends and family have said it was mother's intuition. Doesn't make it any easier though. My doctor also told me that she would not rely on a sonogram before 8 weeks, and couldn't tell me anything about the pregnancy before that. So we waited...
One day before my 8 week appointment and 1st U/S, I started bleeding. Heavier than light, but not enough I would call moderate. I called the on-call doctor for the group, and she advised me to take it easy that day and try to make it to my appointment the next day. If the bleeding got heavier, be ready to go to the ER. The bleeding only go slightly worse over the next 24 hours, and I was able to make it to my scheduled appointment.
I should've been 8 weeks PG and was only measuring @ 6 weeks, and there was no heartbeat, but it was in the uterus. My doctor was fairly confident I would M/C and tried to warn me for what was ahead. About 3 hours after my appointment, the M/C started. It lasted about 6 hours, and I have said was the most horrible day of my life next to the day my mother passed away.
The bleeding I did not think was very bad, but perhaps I was just expecting that. What I was not expecting was the pain. I was expecting cramping, like during a period. For me, it was more like labor contractions. After all, that's what your body is doing. I fought drugs as long as I could, and after about 5 1/2 hours, the pains subsided. I called the doctor, and she told me to take 2 Advil and either take a warm shower or use a heating pad on my abdomine/lower back to take the edge off and help my body complete the M/C.
I opted for the shower since I felt all gross and hoped it would make me feel better. I put a small stool in there to sit on since I felt shakey, and was just very ready to be done with what I was going through. I figured at this point I would still need to pass the placenta, I just wish my brain had figured that out before I did it. I passed it while still in the shower. I had to get TP to pick it up and flush it. That image will haunt me for the rest of my life!
I took the next day off work of course and just rested. I had already told people at work I was pregnant, b/c I had had morning sickness and just couldn't hide it nor miss work. It was terrible having to tell everyone the bad news. I hadn't told my family I was pregnant yet, and my Grandmother was visiting us when I had my M/C, and that was how I had to tell her.
Yes, it was a horrible experience I wish for no one. But trying to find that silver lining, DH and I feel that if it happened, it happened in the best way we could have asked for. There was probably never a heartbeat and I was only 8 weeks along, we were able to see the dr before the M/C, my Grandmother was in town and able to take care of DS so DH could take care of me during M/C, I didn't have to go to the ER, I didn't have to have a D&C (at least not yet)...so many things that in a time of tragedy I am thankful for, it could've been much worse.
Thank you for reading my story, and I apologize for the lengthiness of it, but I just had to get it all out there. We will try again, probably asap, which according to dr is after 2 reg periods. We have not decided if we will sway pink again yet, but I will continue to hang around GD. You are the best group of ladies on the people, and I am so glad I found this place!
