Not sure what to do now

I said in a previous post that I just want a healthy baby but a sister for my daughter would be so great and I would just love another little girl. However, I am on CD9 after a chemical pregnancy. My temps have been higher than usual until today, the finally dropped back down, I assume my hormones are leveling out now. Does that mean that the extra progesterone is out of my system?

I am just not sure how to sway now. My sway obviously got a little messed up because once I thought I was pregnant, I was taking prenatals and started eating very healthy.

Plus, I have been spotting for the past 8 days so there has not been any sex. If I ovulate in the next week or so, I want to go for it because I just don't have a ton of time to spare.

I have been drinking RRL tea but then I just read it may not sway girl. Otherwise, I am just not eating breakfast and I am watching my calories. I just am not sure what else to do.

My husband: He drinks a TON of coffee, sits at a desk all day, exercises and is generally healthy besides eating icecream each night. He is not taking any supplements.

We BD'ed this morning (CD9) and now I am not sure if we should keep going every day or what. FR does not seem to be much of an option as he is in full time school as well. He does not have a high sex drive and neither do I (we typically have sex once a week).

I think I conceived my daughter was a 7 day abstain on the day of ovulation. But it was also summer and I was drinking more and was more active. We even used preseed. I don't know! I was so surprised to have a girl after my husbands extremely male dominant family.

So hard to decide, I know it can be so random but I want to feel like I have a chance!

Anyone? What would you do? I realize it won't be the best sway but is there anything I can add? I can't decide about frequency.

I just re-read the information on frequency and it looks like it is too late for us to do either. I am on CD9 and I assume I will ovulate on CD14. I should not have BD'ed this morning.

I think you can still do CFR. I am still a newbie with this stuff so you might want to read up on that and see if it makes sense for your situation. I understand the pull between wanting to get pregnant fast but also wanting to do the best sway you can. Good luck.

Can you post your chart?

I'm so sorry about your chemical. :( A recent m/c does sway girl though. RRL, however, is more boy sway if it sways at all, so you should consider discontinuing it.

Preseed is very strong boy sway so you need to drop that. If you need lube you're better off using KY Sensitive or Sylk, but any lube might block any chances of conception too.

If your hubby can't do FR, then I agree CFR is the way to go.....so let's say you are 3 days before O, you would have DH release two (or three if he can) times per day, then release and dump once on O-1. Then BD when he's up for it again. Continue to BD through O after that. It's ok not to do anything for frequency too, it doesn't sway as strongly as diet and it has to work for you and DH.

Get back on the LE diet but don't sweat missing out on a few weeks. If you're really nervous you can skip this cycle just to get on track with the diet, but being as your chemical would sway girl you probably don't have to. However, you should be prepared to have a weird first cycle, either delayed O or anov is possible, sometimes it can take your body a cycle or two to get back to normal.

HTH! :)

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Also, I just don't think the frequency part is going to work for us. I haven't told my husband about this (although I usually share everything with him) I just don't know if he will believe in this :) I am wondering if I got lucky with my girl the first time or if we do follow some of the typical girl swayers lifestyles at all (some information above). I know it can be all about luck though cause like I said my first girl was conceived with preseed, my husband was lifting weights at the time but we did abstain and conceive on day of ovulation. I was taking whole food prenatals and ate a mixed diet from the boy and girl side. It was summer, we both were drinking more and just more active. Does family history come into play at all? His side and his father's side are mostly boys.

Gosh the more I think about it, the more I think about how much I want another girl. I was breastfeeding up until a couple months ago, my daughter is 2.5 years old. I am trying to think about what other info I can add to give you a picture of it all. But it probably doesn't matter. It's just hard to know how to sway.

Thank you for responding.

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Sure, you can still sway without frequency! The diet part is the most important factor anyways. It's awfully hard to say why you were able to have a girl first, could be DH's exercise, could be your diet at the time, could've been your body composition, etc. Impossible to know.

I do believe that there is a genetic predisposition factor, yes. I have 3 boys, my DH's family has all boys at least 3 generations back. It's rather new info that the woman can sway, and it seems diet plays a big part. In any case you really need to be ok with an opposite since nothing we do to sway can guarantee your desired gender. But it doesn't hurt to try!