Do you let on about your desire for the other gender when you already have the other?...
Hi, just wondered if you let on to others about the desire for the opposite gender of what you already have?
My OH is very aware of it as we will be going down the ht route, and Ive openly discussed how much I want to have a girl, I have also done the exact opposite of what I said I would not do, and that is point out all the bad points of having all males and being the only female in the house. I try hard to not put down having boys as I know its only because I don't have a girl, I should focus on the positives.
Anyway, he is the only person I have ever said to about actually wanting a girl so badly that I would save up for ht for a shot at it.
I possibly hinted to a friend about my dissapointment at our 3rd child being another boy by saying 'thats it, def. won't be shopping in the pink aisles as this is another boy and I will not risk having 4 boys so we are done' ...... but Im sure she knows deep down I want a girl or would presume that.
My mum said today 'so no more then' and I said 'nooooo' lol and she said 'if you could guarantee it was a girl' ..... no idea where that came from as I am normally very anti talking about it as she knows I think its rude anyone commenting about wanting a girl in case it offends the boys. But last weekend I let slip when she was over and the boys did rough and tumble so I said to my OH 'god 3 girls would be easier'! So I think my odd comments stick in there minds...
Do you tell people about your desire, pretend you 'mildly' want the opposite gender but aren't really that bothered??
I would love to open up and tell my mum about our intentions but I don't want anyone finding out, or to always wonder what her real opinion on HT is, so for my sanity it isn't worth saying.
Its the pity that you just know that others are thinking when the boys seem to be boisterous and other girls are playing quietly and nicely