GD....years down the line. the story.
I have great neighbours and I feel thier story would help so many as it did me a few years ago.
They are coming to retirement age and are so loving and friendly. She had a long conversatin with me about how she always wanted a daughter although welcomed thier first son with open arms. A few years later another son was born and then there were no more children.
They lived a 'boy' life, years and years surrounded by blue with 'boys' toys, games, parties.
Thier sons grew up, flew the nest and married but both remained devoted to thier parents, thier closeness touched me so much.
soon the first granchild was on the way...a girl. Then another grandchild...a girl. and another..a girl...2 more girls later and there house was filled with pink and she thought she would never say this but the desire for a grandson...for blue boys toys was intense. Then...the final grandchild..a boy. They brought the tiny blue bundle to show me. The tears in thier eyes was amazing.
I was at the time expecting DS3 and was struggling to visualize my forever 'boy' life.
She taught me that true happiness comes from the love of children, whatever the sex and that boys too can grow up to be close to thier mothers.
And importantly to try not to focus on what you 'think' will be sadness to follow. Noone knows the future..noone can predict your desires in the future.
She helped me focus on the happiness that having an all blue family brings and to live for today and enjoy every moment as you never know what the future holds....only then, when I was in this place I unexpectedly welcomed my daughter and my life turned another corner.
Lifes corners are what shapes us, you cant predict them, you cant be upset for what they 'may' bring. All you can do is focus on the straight path you are on NOW and make it the best few steps you have ever made.
