So upset....

Hi girls I just feel like I need t talk to people who understand how I'm feeling so sorry if this is a long post...

My husband and I Hav spent the last year ttc and had ala few losses so I'm so blessed to actually be preg but j just can't stop thinking about whether or not this baby is our longed for girl... I just Hav such fears that a, it won't b healthy and b, it will be another boy ...

I Hav a friend who just had a girl after a boy and she used to understand how I felt and now I feel kind of alone in my desire of a daughter and the pain it causes no one really understands now and I just feel so alone as everyone just keeps sayn... As ling as it's healthy which is obviously what I want by I'm sick to my stomach that it won't be my precious daughter to finish off my family...

So sorry for the length of the post xx
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I can totally understand, Dazie. I'm not sure how many m/c I've actually had (4, maybe 5 or 6 (had a couple of months where AF wasn't quite right)), but for right now I would be over-the-moon-happy for *a* child. Either gender. Either way, I've be very nervous throughout the whole pregnancy that all will remain well for me and baby.

There's also the added layer of concern as far as the gender - there's no way for me to know how I'll feel once I get the chance to find out. If it's a girl, great, but will be even more scared something will happen! If it's a boy there's still a chance I could still be a little disappointed that I didn't hear pink even though a little boy would be dearly loved.

If I do (ever) have a little boy, I'm wondering if I could actually bring myself to try again for a little girl, only to go through the emotional turmoil again. For now, I'm taking each day as it comes and working through how I am then - I'll try and work through the rest as and when I come to it. Hang in there, Dazie... :hug2:

Hand so much bunnywabbit I feel so ungrateful coz all I want was to get preg and when I wasn't I was thinking I'll just be happy to get preg and now here I am pregnant and over the moon and now all that's gong thro my head is will it be a wee girl when I hud just b so grateful I gt preg ...

I'm sure this is so heart breaking for u I didn't realise u didn't Hav any children... I really really hope that it's ur turn for a bfp soon huni xoxox

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Thanks dazie, I'm doing okay, really. I'm just more and more aware I have very little time to work with so just hoping for a sticky right now.

It's very natural what you feel - unfortunately that's the way humans are. I could very well be in this boat several months down the road x

Aww I'm sure it's just so upsetting.. I won't forget how I felt when I was ttc... It was just so had seeing hose positives and then having nothing after them...

I really hope that u get ur little bundle very soon and hopefully we'll both get a beautiful daughter each xxx

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It's only natural to feel this way, especially when you want something so much and put so much effort into trying to get it Hopefully you will have your desired gender, but most importantly a healthy baby.

We understand. I have had a hard time getting pregnant and all I really want is a healthy baby, but I still want a boy. If I can get prego and its a girl I will have to grieve and cope with the loss of a long held dream.
Their is nothing wrong with wanting a child of a certain gender, its perfectly normal. I know that once I am prego and past 13 weeks I'll be a nervous wreck about the gender as well.
Big hugs mama, we feel your angst!

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Originally Posted by Adia

We understand. I have had a hard time getting pregnant and all I really want is a healthy baby, but I still want a boy. If I can get prego and its a girl I will have to grieve and cope with the loss of a long held dream.
Their is nothing wrong with wanting a child of a certain gender, its perfectly normal. I know that once I am prego and past 13 weeks I'll be a nervous wreck about the gender as well.
Big hugs mama, we feel your angst!

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This is the exact way I feel too. It's good to know that no one is ever alone in this journey, and there's at least one person who understands what you are going through.