Wow. Thanks for the slap in the face.
DH and I went to a birthday dinner last night for a friend we haven't seen in a while. He has a 6-year-old DD and twin 2-year-old DSs. The last time I was at their home I noticed that there were no pictures of the boys anywhere, but dozens of beautifully-framed shots of the girl. I just put it down to them not having time to get new photos taken etc. Anyway, last night this 'friend' said: 'It's a wonder my DD's little finger doesn't hurt as she has me wound around it so tightly. She's so perfect and wonderful'. I said: "That's lovely that you have a daddy's girl. I hope your wife gets at least one mama's boy to even things out" and he said: "She can have both of the boys! Who wants boys? They're dirty, smelly and destroy everything. You have two, you poor thing! I have my DD, thank God for that!"
I was floored. I have been working so hard on my GD - I'm totally smitten with my DS2 - and was in an OK place. To add insult to injury, the couple sitting opposite had a PP and were SO smug about it. "Of course we were done after two kids, we got it right the first time!" - I just felt lousy, and like a failure somehow.
It truly feels - where I live at least - that NOBODY wants boys. Girls are 1000% preferred and the pitying looks/comments when I take my two beautiful boys out are wearing very thin. I feel so sad that they have been born into a society that views them as second best from the moment they're conceived. Even the dads around here seem to openly favor DDs. Boys are definitely seen as the consolation prize : (