Doubting the possibility of success

I'm a really bouncy and positive person but I'm getting days here or there where I suddenly have a feeling of doubt. It's unnerving for me. I feel like I'm trying so hard to alter my diet and lifestyle and don't know how long I'll have to persevere, or even when we'll be able to actually TTC as I've no cycles yet due to BF. Then I think that after ALL of that and probably months of LE I'll end up with another boy anyway :(

I'm assuming that eating less protein could be causing my lower mood as I think it's involved in serotonin production. And I had a tummy bug so I lost like three pounds in a day, which is way too fast for me as my BMI is only about 19.5 now. So I ate a few more calories the following day to try and compensate but then worried I was giving my body mixed messages!

In summary, is anyone else having days where they're feeling a bit resigned to their fate and struggling to see the point?

Yes!!! We all do I think! It can seem like all this work is for nothing and that it's not fair that we have to go to extremes to sway in the odds of a girl when others don't do a thing in regards to swaying and get girls anyway. It's a process of ups and downs and it can be hard to stay focused but there have been so many "successful" girl sways recently that we just need to try to look forward to how we will feel if we are one of those successes too!

This is the best place to vent and share though, we're all struggling with the same feelings and can at least be a place to vent and offer support along this journey that is swaying. 😊💜

Yes, I feel that way often. I feel that way about getting a BFP and I definitely feel that way about getting a DD. It is sometimes hard to be motivated and positive but like mum says, this place is fantastic to come for support when feeling low. Sorry you had a tummy bug recently - hope you have recovered from that and you did the right thing in giving your body more nutrients the following day, especially if still BF.

Thank you! I don't feel like it too often but my darling boys were irritating me yesterday and it just made me frazzled. I guess I also feel like I tried so hard to do this two years ago and got DS3.

Me ! I only just started properly this month as my cycles just returned after ds4 and there are days when I feel I'm completely not cut out for this and what is the point in all this struggle when I know I am not going to get a girl at the end if it. It's something that happens to other people. Something that's nice to dream about but will never be me. Like winning the lottery.


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Yep. A lottery dream is exactly what it feels like!

I have only been doing LE for a few weeks and have had a few of these moments(mainly when I am thinking about a cheeseburger or fried cheese sticks). I just try and think about a favorite moment I have had with one of my boys. It seems to calm me, because after all, if we didn't already have amazing children we sure wouldn't want to be having more!

And that makes it so much harder to stick to the sway, knowing that either way I'll get a boy. Only thing that is keeping me on it is the knowledge that when I hear boy for the 5th time, I'll know I at least tried and that this is just how it's supposed to be. No regrets.


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You're right about the lottery comparison but just like the lottery, we have to be in it to win it, and swaying is our ticket! 😉

You're right, no point sitting around hoping to 'get rich'. At least we can say we bought a ticket. Or maybe, ttc is the ticket and swaying is like buying 2 or 3 tickets, improving your chances but still not a sure thing lol


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