To find out or not to find out, that is the question!

Tomorrow I have my u/s scan and then appt with my ob/gyn.:nails:
Soooo,shall I ask her to tell me baby's gender ( better say to confirm it) and then feel miserable for the rest of the pregnancy and/or burst into tears in front of her?
Or the better idea is to live in denial till November and then face the innevitable? At least I wouldn't have to fake happy face when I hear again it's a girl.

This is my last pregnancy and it's very unexpected and my first thought when I saw BFP was: OK, I'm going to enjoy every second of the journey!
But here I am again torturing myself with some owt "evidence"this MIGHT be a boy, tho I know it's another girl. :tissue:

After this baby, we're done having kids, yet my family is not complete and it never will be since I will never have a son.

I've learned my lesson: I could have 10 more kids, and they would be all girls.

I think wait this time round. I never felt that way before until I contemplated swaying for number 4 and that's what I promised myself I would do. X

I'm totally know how you feel. I'm too have 4 DD, this time again, I'm trying to sway for my boy (last baby). Just did my 13 weeks u/s scan today and the Dr. said it's 80% boy. I was trying to sway this baby for 1 year (I'm 40 years old), and got my unexpected BFP when my husband was sick during the week of my ovulation. Was going to skip that month. So we dtd 5 days before my Ovulation. I'm just prepare myself this is going to be my 5th girls. So you never know. Good luck.

I think it depends how you are after baby is here. For me, this far I have never had any ppd even though I really wanted a girl the last 2x. I just fell in love and that was it. I did however, get very depressed when finding out they were boys while pregnant! I obviously don't feel the same attachment until they are here and the guilt of how I felt before hand was terrible so this time I had every intention to wait!
However, my nub shot was very promising to me to be what I was hoping for and then my hubby secretly video'd my anatomy scan and I went through frame by frame and again didn't see anything I didn't want to see...so basically I felt I knew what it was and it was what I wanted, so I found out!
If it was leaning more towards not being what I wanted, I would have waited. I could leave that little bit of hope in my pregnancy and enjoy it more (not a fan of pregnancy, so gd and that are not a good mixture!)
If you are fine once they are here, then I would wait as you feel it may not be going your way. Yes, it may be the greatest surprise ever and yes, the torture of waiting is terrible but it's your last time to enjoy a little hope and not spoil your pregnancy with dissapoinment.
That's my 2 cents! But obviously you have to go with your gut, although I think its tricky when you want something to go your way sooo bad!
I really hope this is your boy!

I would wait. I am in the exact same position as you. We are waiting.

Do you for sure know it's a girl? I went back and looked at your nub pics and they look very boyish.

I would find out!

I would find out too. I would not be able to wait 9 months.

I would have to know! Number one to find out if my sway worked plus plan for the appropriate gender stuff. Do I continue to save DS's clothes or just the neutral ones and finally clean out his closet? Plus the months of working around my disappointment of not getting the desired gender. I think I am ok now, but later on I may not be.

We have already decided to not find out even before we started swaying - with 3 boys so far we found out.... even paid for special early scan to find out with ds3!

This will 100% be our last and I know if I find out I will be gutted and upset the rest of the pregnancy but if we found out when he is born ( and have a face/ personality) I will be much better.


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