we are supposed to start ttc in august... this is our last chance... im so scared... i feel like i am just screwing everything up already.. :( does anyone else feel like this
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we are supposed to start ttc in august... this is our last chance... im so scared... i feel like i am just screwing everything up already.. :( does anyone else feel like this
I feel this way every single second of every single day. We really want a little girl. But honestly, in the end, all that we NEED is a happy and healthy nine months that results in a beautiful, healthy, baby regardless of gender. God has got this and already knows how our sways are going to play out. Take it easy and do the best you can so that you feel like you did all you could.
I feel this way too. I feel like I've read 'too much' and the overload of info has distracted me from the actual reason I'm doing all this - to get a baby. But I am desperate for a girl so I worry I'm stuffing it up but I know stress is bad for a pink sway! I feel like everything I do is wrong even though much of it is right. Most disheartening is my newly screwed cycle and inability to lose ANY weight after 2.5 wks.
Everyday, Sister! This is our last shot too and some days, I think my dream of a girl is over before it's even started.Quote:
Originally Posted by akgirl74
I felt like that a lot of the time a few mos ago. I took a break from things and it's made me feel better. While feeling "defeated" is good for a girl sway, we cannot let it consume us. It may be that you need to take some time off from even logging on or reading about anything "sway" related and just try to distract your time w/other things like movies, books, shopping (lol...works for me!), etc. That way, it may settle a bit more in your brain and you'll have a clearer perspective w/out feeling like you're going to burst w/all, etc. HTH...It's a day-to-day battle for me but taking a break helped a lot.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sassy
Good advice...whether one believes in God or not, at some point, we all have to make peace w/our sway and trust that we're doing all that we can do and that try as we might, we cannot really control things. I like to think that our kiddos actually pick us to be their parents. True or not, when I get too worked up about things, I try to think of that and it gives me some peace.Quote:
Originally Posted by Legacy_19
XXX to you all!:HH:
Yes, this swaying stuff can be so overwhelming. There is so much to consider. I feel like I just can't get it all "right".
Good luck to you all!
Hmm, I don't feel this way. I think I felt completely overwhelmed to begin with when I found all this swaying stuff, but that was in April and we decided not to try until September so I've had lots of time to do my research, to plan what parts I think we should do and to just 'be' for a while. I know what our plan is and I hope I won't have to think too hard about it when the time comes. I don't feel too much pressure about getting it wrong or right because there's no girl 'recipe' and nobody can know whether doing something differently would have changed anything - and I would be happy with our 4th boy if our sway 'fails' (in fact, it's pretty much what I'm expecting!).
{hugs} to everybody feeling overwhelmed.
I was like you, zani, very overwhelmed for about a week and then I got my head around it. Only thing is according to the other thread it's better if we are overwhelmed!!! So at least you ladies can add that as another positive to your sway!!!!
I'm not overwhelmed but I'm not confident either, just chilled out .... man!
:bigsmile:
That is normal when starting any endeavor, esp. one with as much riding on it as this one!
I totally agree with what the PP said, you can't let it consume you. Even if you have to put it on the back burner and let it simmer (mentally) for a month or two.
Wishing you the very very best of luck!!!