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Hi guys

I don't even know what to think or feel anymore. Dh is scared about no5 (which i completely understand) im just so eager to be pregnant again so i would be closer to getting my girl. Part of me is researching HT options but being in Australia makes that more difficult. Can anyone recommend any clinics in the Asia region? I think America would be more expensive not that I think dh would agree but I'd like to have a read.

We've been doing the supplements and ive been trying LE. I think i may just need this month to trial everything and then go for it next cycle. I dont know. I just hate how i feel sometimes i really wish i could turn it off. I think theres too much pressure this time because it will be the last child and part of my thinks thats why I should go the HT option. Will just have to take some me time i think and think things over.

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Hi there, I just wanted to stop by and put in my 2 cents worth. I understand all the craziness you are feeling at the moment, but maybe just take a step back for a month or two and just breath. Think carefully about ALL your options before you start on any plans to make baby no5, regardless of if it is HT or otherwise.

I have been there, so I know its not easy. I swayed with DS3, and I knew it was no guarantee (and to be honest I fell pregnant so easy it was a pretty rubbish sway anyway!), but getting pregnant with no5 *may* not get you any closer to your girl. Speaking from experience, as soon as I fell pregnant with DS3, fear just kicked in, rather than joy. I was just thinking, oh my goodness, what if this is another boy. Of course it was, and he is here and beautiful!

For me, I am only having baby no4 if it is a girl. I feel happy and content with my three beautiful kids, but I would like a daughter so HT it is for us. I am in Australia too so I know it is not easy, but it is possible, and there is loads of help along the way. I am about to cycle at HRC. I did toss up Asia, but for me, they weren't that much cheaper than US, and if I am going to give this a crack, then I am going to give it the best darn shot I can, and I believe that is at HRC. I know there is a clinics in Phuket and also SART in Bangkok. You could contact them to find out prices, and options. Look in the completed cycles section, I think there is a list of the International Clinic cycles, which as all the ones in Asia. There is not heaps, but there is some.

My DH only wanted 2 kids, and wanted to do HT with number 3 as he did not want to be in the position we are in now - going for #4. But he made me wait 2.5 years after my DS3 and has said given that it is still so important to me, that he is happy and excited to give it a go. It is actually kind of gorgeous watching him get so excited about having another one. It is actually me that is the one pulling him up and reminding him that this might not actually work. It is a gamble. Just like swaying is. But at the end of this gamble, I won't have another child unless its my daughter.

Give yourself some time. Some times we feel like we must rush, rush rush and make a decision. I know fertility is like a ticking clock, but one more month will not make much of a difference. Look at your options, talk to your husband and make the best decision for you. I am certainly not anti-swaying, but if this is totally your last child, then make sure you don't jump into anything before you have at least look into HT. It may not be for you, but at least you will have comfort in knowing you made the best decision you could.

Hang in there xx

Thanks so much. Just what i needed to hear. I just did some research on Gender Selection Australia and how they work Dr Potter and its just so amazing and unbelievable at the same time. I think id be in a constant flow of tears going through the process because i know it would be a girl. My husband is the same he doesn't want another unless its 100% a girl and i know i can't promise that as much as he can. It just sucks.

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If HT is ever an option, do it sooner rather than later!!! Don't sway and think "well it will be there later" because odds of success with HT don't improve with time. If it will cause your family insane levels of hardship, it may be wiser to take some time to try and get your heart and mind right with the family you do have rather than to force a sway if you really, really are not ok with an opposite.

The only people who I ever really think should sway instead of going HT (aside from those of us who cannot afford it, of course :p) are people over 35 and esp. over 38, esp. esp. over 40. Odds of success can be quite low the older you get and it may be akin to throwing money away to pursue HT.

Thanks Atomic. As much as I would love HT i just can't see where I am going to get that sort of money. DH was initially supportive but hes backtracked this week as O is approaching. Some time to think is what i need the thing is i just keep coming back to the same conclusion and i hate myself so much for it.

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