Need advice, not ovulating I think :(

So I'm 40, I have 3 kids last one is 16 mo. I've been ttc girl for 4 months, but husband had been out of town working so missing a lot of bd times. Had to do 3+ Days bf ovulation. So I started using opk test the last 2 months and I have only tested once a day and it would get dark but never pos. I never had a problem concieving before so I'm new to this. Should I try one more month using opk and waiting or try the clomid route and see my ob. I have ewmc so we have tried the night I had the most but I know this month I'm out again unless divine intervention! I will try charting next month I'm just horrible at it! Has anyone had this issue???

I'm short on time and scared it may not happen :(

Hi Traci. I don't know much about not ovulating Hun sorry but have you tried using a different brand of OPKs? I know quite a few ladies (myself included) have bought cheapo ones in bulk from eBay and they just didn't work. I bought a chemist one which worked great or I've found the Clear Blue digital ovulation test (WITHOUT the dual hormone indicator) fantastic for detecting O. Another thing I do is use the Fertility Friend app on my phone to record down all my cycle details and this helps you to detect O. Plus taking your BBT helps to pinpoint O. You've still got plenty of time too by the way. I had my 3rd child when I was nearly 41 so don't give up just yet. I'm now 44 and hoping for one more (yes...I must be nuts as a few people have told me...lol). Good luck and I hope you get your little girl.

I didn't know they didn't work I awesome they all would.
That gives me hope, thank you so much. I really would love this last child and I feel so blessed to have my other children. But love a dd!! I have to relax when I don't see a + opk or preg test. How long would you wait to see a me. Il add charting this month. Maybe that will give me a little more detail

I would try at least another cycle on my own before seeing a doctor or Ob if I was you. Try some different OPK test strips first, the BBTs (more accurate if you take your BbT vaginally than orally) and record it all on Fertility Friend app. You need to take BBT at same time every morning. I usually set alarm for 6.45am so I get it accurate. You mention that you are still getting CM so still sounds like you are Oing - maybe just dodgy OPK strips. Good luck.

Are you getting your period regularly? If you are getting a period then you are probably ovulating.

The cheapie ebay OPKs are useless, you can get positives with them but it is very easy to miss them if you don't test really often. I have tried OvuPlan tests which work better and a lot of people on here like the clear blue fertility monitor ones but they are quite pricey.

I have ordered some Wondfo opk tests from Amazon which are supposed to be good but I won't know how they compare until next cycle.

What purple said. If you are getting regular periods you are almost definitely Oing.

I almost never (like 2x in 6 years) get positive OPKs, not even with proper Formosa Medical Wondfos, the best OPKs available. But I definitely O. There are a significant minority of us who rarely get true positives. I do get 1-2 days of OPKs that are clearly much darker so I consider those my positives, and they line up with temps and ultrasounds confirming O.

Wow!! I feel so much better. Yes I have regular periods every 31 days. I did get darker lines so when I temp next month Il take it that that's maybe my O. I missed it this month :( I was waiting for the pos opk. So next month il give it a shot. I can't say thank you enough I was so worries I was premenopausal!! I was gonna try vitex but maybe il wait a month. Has anyone tried vitex?

I was on Vitex for several cycles in 2014. If you click on my chart/link below in my signature you can look through my past charts, I always note in the title the cycles I was on Vitex. It really helped lengthen my naturally short LP (from 10 day average up to 14 days) but it also delayed O by 1-2 weeks whenever I started or stopped taking it, just that one transitional cycle but still highly annoying, so I dropped it. Plus I am on fertility meds now which can't be mixed with V.

That helps a ton, I'm gonna hold off this month on vitex I did make ob apt got clomid next month just so I have it scheduled. But I'm hoping with temping il be able to pin point more accurate O. I'm contemplating Ivf I really would love a healthy dd to complete our family but so nervous on such a huge step.

I think you'll do great on the Clomid! Very strong pink sway tactic combined with diet/exercise and one attempt.