Moms of 3+

Hi all, we are considering TTC this summer. Our boys will be almost 4 and 18 months at that point, so would be 4 and 2 if we conceive quickly. I don't feel done, but lately I've been feeling really nervous about having 3 kids. I'm kind of neurotic and anxious, which makes me not a very laid back parent (I really need to work on this). Im worried that the third baby would send me over the edge. On the other hand, maybe it would be the kid that makes me go with the flow more. My parents have 4 kids and said that going to 3 was the hardest transition. My grandparents have 8 and also said that going to 3 was hardest. The research seems to fit that- parental happiness is lowest after having the third child. Can any moms of 3 or more share their experiences? I know that no one can make the decision for me, but I like hearing from other parents.

I am curious to know also. I want three myself


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My experience with 3 kids is that it is by far the easiest! My oldest was our hardest. I too used to be a bit anxious, especially about being somewhere on time. It has gotten WAY better with 3. I guess I prepare them more, start to get ready earlier, my oldest are 6 and 3 and they help more, and I've calmed WAY down! My 3rd baby is tender hearted and could NOT handle how uptight I used to be. Makes me kinda sad for my oldest, although he says I'm the best mom ever [emoji4].

FX and GL to you! Feel free to ask me questions anytime!



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I'm wondering the same , I have 2 and now moving to have a third
I'm more anxious about having them close in age , I had a 5 1/2 years age gab between my DD (7years old)and DS (a year and a half)


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I'm curious about the transition to having three as well, I'm so on the fence about having another. The article talking about the two girl family being the happiest (know this isn't necessarily true for all families but what the research found at the time) keeps playing in my mind. I'm concerned that we might be ruining a good thing by introducing a third.

I personally found the transition from 2 to 3 easier than 1 to 2. My boys are 2 years and 4 months a part and I found it challenging having 2 small children at home. We went HT for our daughter and the gap is 3 and a half years. I found the larger gap easier but also having 2 boys- 6 and nearly 4- being able to play together and entertain themselves when I was preoccupied with feeding my daughter etc. Also my eldest started school and my youngest boy was still in childcare a couple of days so I got lots of one on one time with my daughter or mainly just had the 2 at home at once. I do have friends that have 3 that have had a much different experience but all had close gaps with all 3 (2 years or less a part) So maybe the key is a larger gap with the third?

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My experience with 3 kids is that it is by far the easiest! My oldest was our hardest. I too used to be a bit anxious, especially about being somewhere on time. It has gotten WAY better with 3. I guess I prepare them more, start to get ready earlier, my oldest are 6 and 3 and they help more, and I've calmed WAY down! My 3rd baby is tender hearted and could NOT handle how uptight I used to be. Makes me kinda sad for my oldest, although he says I'm the best mom ever [emoji4].

FX and GL to you! Feel free to ask me questions anytime!



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My oldest was my hardest too. My second has been easy, until recently (he's almost 1). Plus now they're starting to pick at each other- I see a lot of fighting in our future. I definitely get that guilt with my first- a difficult baby combined with a high strung mom can make things really tough. I feel like I have a special bond with him, like we made it though something hard together, if that makes sense? XX, will you get the early blood test to find out gender? Congrats on your BFP!

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I personally found the transition from 2 to 3 easier than 1 to 2. My boys are 2 years and 4 months a part and I found it challenging having 2 small children at home. We went HT for our daughter and the gap is 3 and a half years. I found the larger gap easier but also having 2 boys- 6 and nearly 4- being able to play together and entertain themselves when I was preoccupied with feeding my daughter etc. Also my eldest started school and my youngest boy was still in childcare a couple of days so I got lots of one on one time with my daughter or mainly just had the 2 at home at once. I do have friends that have 3 that have had a much different experience but all had close gaps with all 3 (2 years or less a part) So maybe the key is a larger gap with the third?

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I had the hardest time going from 0 to 1, probably because my first was a surprise and a difficult baby. 1-2 was much easier than expected, although I agree the days can be super long and monotonous with 2 small kids at home. I think you're right about the age gap making a difference. If I did conceive this summer, my oldest would still only be 4.5 when the baby is born and over a year away from going to kindergarten. It seems like a lot to take on, but I also don't want to wait because I wanted to be done having kids by 30 (I'm 28). I guess I'm the definition of a boy mom, overthinking everything! Haha.

0-1 was hard for me. Going from 1-2 was super easy. My oldest needs constant interaction while my second is SO independent and a self-starter. This made it easy going from 2-3. When my oldest two are home, they play together.



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Greydore- Thank you! We will wait until the anatomy scan between 16-20 weeks. I'll have a great idea from my NT scan that I'll have done between 13-13.5 weeks. The hospital I go to has the top of the line US machines that provides much better imaging. All of my boys showed very clearly their boy "parts" during my NT scan. While the techs couldn't confirm due to fetal age, it was completely obvious. I did the NIPT and genetic testing last time and know my risk for downs is extremely low until I reach 40 years of age. While anything is certainly possible it wouldn't change the outcome for us.



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