Urgent advice needed!

Ok so some of you will remember me - I've been swaying since last November - been on a break for a few months as it didn't happen and hubby said he didn't want a third. He's now agreed, reluctantly, to give it a bit more time (I'd say 6 months maximum). Really want best chances of a girl so...last night, we were attempting pull out so that we just had the one attempt but kept his sperm 'fresh' and accidentally he didn't quite manage it (he thinks it was a 'half load'!!) so I got a nearly positive opk this lunchtime, pretty sure it will be positive tomorrow and I usually ovulate pretty soon after the positive so guess I will ovulate weds - what should we do? Follow E4d and attempt weds night (possibly too late) or add an extra attempt? I REALLY don't want to mess up my sway after all the effort I have put into it over the past year.

Add the extra attempt.

We are playing a kind of 3D chess here, if you're familiar with that expression, where we are taking several things into consideration. You have been swaying for a long time (and while you may have been off part of that time, most of the time even when people are off they're still doing some diet related things, you're on a time limit, and it wasn't even a proper attempt and you're still some time from O anyway!. Plus, if you start getting too particular about swaying hubby is going to change his mind again!

All this adds up to you needing to have another attempt at pos OPK. No doubt in my mind this needs to happen!!

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

Add the extra attempt.

We are playing a kind of 3D chess here, if you're familiar with that expression, where we are taking several things into consideration. You have been swaying for a long time (and while you may have been off part of that time, most of the time even when people are off they're still doing some diet related things, you're on a time limit, and it wasn't even a proper attempt and you're still some time from O anyway!. Plus, if you start getting too particular about swaying hubby is going to change his mind again!

All this adds up to you needing to have another attempt at pos OPK. No doubt in my mind this needs to happen!!

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I was only off the diet for a few weeks about three months ago - rest of the time I've been on - not quite as strict as I was at the start but definitely very different to when I conceived the boys, still at lowest ever weight, including coffee and wine, limited meat, fast of about 15 hours overnight and back on exercise 5 times a week for past three weeks or so. Hubby is now saying he thinks it was a 'full' load (sorry TMI) but I'm not sure as not much came out when I went to the toilet (sorry again TMI). I'd love to conceive this month but it's my last chance at a girl so don't want to have any regrets either.

Then there is NO reason not to add in an attempt! You really need to go for it. I understand not having regrets but for all we know this may be the perfect month to tTC a girl and next month will only be worse!

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Then there is NO reason not to add in an attempt! You really need to go for it. I understand not having regrets but for all we know this may be the perfect month to tTC a girl and next month will only be worse!

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Thanks so much for the prompt responses - OK, I will add in the attempt at pos OPK. Fingers crossed x

I'm so so down, got my period a day late, was so hopeful. We had a perfectly timed attempt and the 'half' attempt two days before. I feel like it's just never going to happen and with the two boys we conceived first month so it is so hard to keep getting the negatives especially as time is running out for us and my husband keeps saying it's meant to me but it doesn't feel meant to be to me. Other than a slightly short LP, my cycle seems fine despite being at a low weight - ovulation is now very regular each month (almost to the day), period is regular. The thought of never having a daughter is making me so very sad at the moment and my youngest son is so desperate for a little sister, I'm really struggling. I just don't get what's going on x

I’m so sorry to hear this. I don’t have any advice, I just wanted to send you a hug.

I often read quotes by various people, and this is one that I often think of:

“Just because it’s not happening right now, it doesn’t mean it never will.”

Some months just aren't "the" month but I would want you in with e4d plus one more at positive OPK or even SMEP if you're willing to go that route.

I think it is probably time to give in and go for a laparoscopy to see if i have endometriosis like my sister and my mum, as wonder if that is causing the problems. Going to see the doctor tomorrow.

Good luck and keep us posted!!