newbie here, any suggestions to add to my low-stress girl sway
Hi all! I have been looking all over this website for several months thinking about having a girl. I have two boys, one is 2.5 and one was born to heaven 11 months ago (at 34 weeks, fatal diagnosis). So to say I have a lot of feelings about ttc again is an understatement. My husband and I would really love a girl--but we ultimately want a healthy babe of course. My oldest is my mamas boy, and he is also our "gender ultrasound opposite"--we found out with him we were having a healthy girl at the 20-week ultrasound. Good pregnancy and no more ultrasounds, and then our little boy was born! Thankfully I really didn't have any gender disappointment after he was born, was thrilled and in love and just had to redecorate the nursery;) but i do have lots of precious girl things in storage i'm itching to use.
So I want to sway, but really want to concentrate on a few things I can do and not tons of different strategies to stress over (yes, this is my boy-mom, anxious tendancy). Have a couple of questions and really just wanted to get any opinions and introduce myself, hi!!
I am 34, husband is 36, and planning on ttc starting in April, possibly March. I am on an antidepressant and synthroid generic (had radioactive iodine in my teens after being diagnosed with Graves Disease) and have a super stable dose.
Plan (for the last two weeks):
-Regular Low Everything Diet--Overweight from two closeish pregnancies. Had lost about 10 pounds in the last 6 months and still have about 25 to go. Been on LE diet two weeks and have lost 4 poundsish. Staying right around 1500-1600 cals. Limiting meat but it's hard--my husband is a big Paleo guy (he's lost about 50 pounds over the last 4 years and is in great shape), but we've decided we'll do several vegetarian dinners per week.
-Walking about 6 days a week, 45-60 min. In the past I have done strength training off and on, but my nightly walks after my son is in bed have become a highlight the past few weeks (and keep me away from night snacking)
-Taking folic acid, 1600 mg
-Coffee drinker and have always been--have several cups in the morning with a little milk and usually one in afternoons (and occasional decaf in evenings:)
-Pretty much eating 3 meals a day (or two and a snack), and trying to delay breakfast but I've always been a breakfast girl, eating as soon as I can! About half the days I eat at 7 am (previously ate at 5:30) and skip lunch and have early dinner about 5 pm. This is a work in progress but I have stopped snacking!
-Have a nightly glass of wine (switching to white, but red's my fav)
-My husband has quite a large sex drive, so our compromise has been when we start ttc, we will do the trying every 4 day thing (and not worry about opk), and I will "help" him frequent release in between.
Anything big or obvious that I am leaving out that we should add to the sway or something we should concentrate on? I feel like this is pretty manageable. It took us a year to conceive my oldest son at age 31, and a month with our angel at 33.
Questions--
-Should I consider the PCOS type diet (or other alternate diet) since I have higher weight to lose? I'm going to try to add in a little more high carb veg to replace the quickburn stuff because I feel sooo tired on this diet. Is that normal? I'm definitely getting enough cals, but definitely embracing the eat-what-you-want within the limits (ie, more junk food than i'm used to)
-How important is the no-prenatal vitamin? Or could I take one a few times a week? I'm taking folic acid 1600 mg. It feels so counter-intuitive not to take one after a loss--I"m trying to logically wrap my head around it.
I want to make this as simple as I can, while still feeling like I gave it my best shot for a girl, and be at peace if we end up having another precious boy. Appreciate any thoughts:)
