Swaying - my thoughts on what you should consider going in - you should want an opposite (!)
Hi ladies swaying, expecting and otherwise :)
I'm currently waiting to sway sometime in the future (DD is eight months old, I am breastfeeding her and have yet to see my period show its ugly face again - not that I'm complaining ;) and in general obviously I want to feel like my body and health are all back on track before going in for number two :)
That being said, I do pop on and follow what everyone else is up to from time to time, living vicariously so to speak. I am very happy for everyone who has successfully conceived and is expecting as of this moment :) Safe pregnancies all around <3
I have a bit of a thought I'd like to share though. Hopefully no one will take this the wrong way, and, if it is inappropriate, Atomic can always snip the thread, no problem.
Anyway, ladies: you know how Atomic says that the best way to fight disappointment and possible GD following a 'failed' sway is to go in thinking you might have gotten an opposite till you know? I will push this further: I believe you need to want a gender opposite, at least a little bit, when you go in.
In my opinion, Atomic and the team are perfectly helpful, always prompt and very transparent about the techniques and expected outcomes. You are swaying to increase the probability that you will end up with a child of your DG. BUT! This is the whole thing with probability, even IF you have a picture perfect sway and do EVERYTHING 'right', you might still have a kid of the opposite gender than what you swayed for. The probability is lower, and frankly, speaking as someone with scientific training, the team here at GD have done a great job at budging the odds. Increasing the odds from fifty fifty to anywhere at sixty forty or even seventy thirty is HUGE. But, but, but, I seem to detect some expectations that people have where they go in, like, 'I will sway great and then I MUST get my DG for sure, period'.
No. Statistically, seventy-thirty odds mean that out of ten girls swaying, three will get an opposite and seven will get the desired result. Or it means that if you have ten kids, you will probably end up with three of one and seven of the other if you follow the sway each time. And you have equal chances of being one of the three and one of the seven each time. I believe realising this early on and sort of letting go a bit of your obsession with your DG can be a very good thing. You can sway away with a clear conscience then, give it your best shot and go with the flow, knowing that even if the dice rolls the other way, you will be ok. You won't go through a kaleidoscope of denial, anger, blaming yourself and the people here who were helping you with your sway.
In short - you have to be a hundred percent ok with a kid of the opposite gender. They even have that in their questionnaire. Don't freak out if you feel you are not yet 'there', but definitely consider this if you are swaying or planning to sway. And - this shouldn't stop you from putting in your absolute best effort for the sway; Good luck :)
