If you need me, I'll be under my rock

Things did not go well today :,(

First, I was right about my "echo", it is a twin, but she wouldn't measure him cuz she couldn't see anything in the sac. But there it was, fully visible on the screen next to his brother.

The first sac now only has a yolk sac but has only grown 3 days in the last 8. I was told he was 5w4d last week, now she said last week he was 5w3d, so which was it??? Either way, he's very much behind, no fetal pole, no heartbeat.

To top things off, there is a bleed in my uterus and she had the nerve to ask if I was spotting!! I told her last week I was! Don't they write anything down? Wtf! Her reaction was so aloof like "oh well, call us if you bleed"

So needless to say, I'm pissed and beyond upset, and waiting to see if my real ob-gyn will see me, I don't trust the clinic nor do I want to go back there! Ever! They didn't even have my appointment scheduled today!

I'm no longer hopeful this pregnancy and am leaving it now in God's hands.

I just want to crawl under a rock and stay there! Everything started out so great! This isn't fair! The wind is out of my sails even though I should stay positive that it ain't over til it's over...

Update: I just talked to my favorite nurse at my ob-gyn's and she said the bleed is normal and common and doesn't necessarily mean miscarriage (phew)

She is annoyed that they are giving me conflicting info on both sacs and that it's still too soon to tell, that there's no way I can be 7 weeks if the embryos were only created 5 weeks ago.

Needless to say, my ob-gyn is doing my next u/s next Wednesday and I'm done with the clinic!

Keep us updated, I'm following your story. Good luck hun!

What was your transfer date?

You can use an online IVF due date calculator- if you ET was Jan 20th, then you are 7 weeks, 2 days today.

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Originally Posted by nuthinbutpink

What was your transfer date?

You can use an online IVF due date calculator- if you ET was Jan 20th, then you are 7 weeks, 2 days today.

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My ER date was the 15, 5 day transfer on the 20th. Could they have really screwed dates up? Aren't they supposed to know? One would think... They tell me I'm 7w2d based on my lmp. My ob-gyn calculates differently, that the sacs are right on schedule. Why would sac #2 continue to grow if it's empty?

I don't know who is telling dates- your LMP doesn't matter or count at all because there was no LMP. You use your transfer date to figure out how far along you are- this is a site I refer to- IVFConnections.com - IVF Due Date Calculator by Date of Transfer, Retrieval, Ovulation or Insemination

I believe you are 7 weeks, 2 days based on your transfer date. Your due date is October 7, 2012. You need to ask your RE how far along they say you are not your OB. IVF dates are based on ER/ET and what day you transfer- day 3 embryo or day 5 embryo.

That's how it's figured. I guess at this point we wait til next week and pray for the best.

Could an empty sac continue to grow? That one still has me stumped!

There was talk of late implantation, but I tested bfp so soon.

Did the main one that has been there have a heartbeat? When was your last scan?

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Did the main one that has been there have a heartbeat? When was your last scan?

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Scan this morning, no hb, just a yolk, only 3 days growth over the last 8. Last week was just a sac, no yolk. At this point 2 years ago, we saw the hb even though he was measuring behind. Not too hopeful.

Did you go today? Where is your RE? Are they advising you on this? What do they say? 6 weeks is when you hope to see a heartbeat. Later is okay but your RE really needs to take a look at your results and see what is going on at this point. I'm sorry things are not going like you hoped but I really hope they are talking with you about what is expected.