Now what?

So.....it's probably girl#3 for us :sad:

I feel confused, ashamed, sad, betrayed, exposed, vulnerable and most of all I feel and pray it can't be true.

Lots of lovely ladies here told me how great is to have 3 girls and I know I'll have somebody's dream family, but the thing is-I don't know NOBODY irl who thinks 3 girls are great. 3 or more girls - you get the treatment like you're cursed.

3 boys - now that's a blessing and moms are getting all kind of compliments and congratulations on their succesfull mission as mothers.

I feel like a lesser mom, worthless, like I failed. All the nasty comments I'll be getting. We tell everyone we don't know the gender yet, how pathetic is that?

My poor DH will be an easy target :sad: He still hopes baby might be a boy although he told me he would love another girl. He is a good man and a loving dad to our daughters.

The support I'm getting here means a lot to me, because i'll be getting none irl. Thank you all again!!!! :heart:

Well.......I don't know where you live but here multiple boys is NOT a blessing!
I get stupid comments also and people pitty me because I can't do mother-daughter stuff (like talking, shopping etc) Plus getting a grandchild from your own daughter is so different then getting a grandchild from your son. Around here is a blessing to have more then 1 daughter.

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Originally Posted by wilma_five

Plus getting a grandchild from your own daughter is so different then getting a grandchild from your son. Around here is a blessing to have more then 1 daughter.

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Agreed. I don't think it's the same at all either Wilma. Though I will the best MIL I can be to my future DIL, I know that it probably won't be the same as a bond with my own dd.

Zivic, I'm so sorry you're hurting hun x
I know how you feel about people surrounding not wanting girls; most of my own family/friends prefer sons (which actually ticked me off more than it made me feel better about my GD, because I wanted all girls/or more girls than boys).
Please don't feel inferior, I love love love (3x the love for 3 girls :D) everything about little girls and I would have 10 of them if I could! I love my boys to pieces, but I'll stick with having two only thanks :). I feel like you're the lucky mum here.

I get shitty comments either way - before I had my daughter people would comment on when I was going to have a girl, and 'didn't you want a daughter? Why don't you have one?' As if I can choose the gender of my kids!:mad:
Or I would even more annoying comments from family, saying that I shouldn't have anymore in-case I ruined my perfect 'boy' family, even though they knew I wished for a girl.

with my girl, I am told 'she will be lonely', or 'lucky you only had one girl (from my stupid Inlaws who I don't talk to anymore)', or even 'she MUST have a sister or she'll be 'stuck' with brothers for life!'. That last one was from my cousin to which I said, 'sure, she'll be 'stuck' with the best brothers on earth!' That shut her up real quick.

Trust me, boy mama's get annoying comments too.

And btw, your DH is a lucky man! He'll have three girls who will adore him. Girls love their dads too!

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Originally Posted by wilma_five

Around here is a blessing to have more then 1 daughter.

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Netherlands, here I come!
I hope you get your :XX: ASAP!

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Zivic, I'm so sorry you're hurting hun x

I get shitty comments either way - before I had my daughter people would comment on when I was going to have a girl, and 'didn't you want a daughter? Why don't you have one?' As if I can choose the gender of my kids!:mad:
Or I would even more annoying comments from family, saying that I shouldn't have anymore in-case I ruined my perfect 'boy' family, even though they knew I wished for a girl.

with my girl, I am told 'she will be lonely', or 'lucky you only had one girl (from my stupid Inlaws who I don't talk to anymore)', or even 'she MUST have a sister or she'll be 'stuck' with brothers for life!'. That last one was from my cousin to which I said, 'sure, she'll be 'stuck' with the best brothers on earth!' That shut her up real quick.

And btw, your DH is a lucky man! He'll have three girls who will adore him. Girls love their dads too!

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Thank you for kind words! :HH:

Z-Im sorry you feel sad I know how is that and I think I will join you again soon...That is so nice of your DH to say for sure he will love his baby girl. But really your pic is not showing a girl 100% it may be the cord . I hope you will get another u/s with a clear pic. And to think 3 boys is a blessing and 3 girls not that's just mean. maybe those ppl are jealous of you and your DH?
Others also make some comment to my DH sometimes .I don't know I think guys are so stupid thinking making a boy show you are a big man or something. But he got 1 friend with 2 boys and he is jealous of DH because he wanted a baby girl.
And you really don't know what is the baby yet for sure so don't feel that way.

Z, I know it is hard to think about this right now. Just try to remember how much you wanted to get pg and how we were in the long-timers club together for so long! This little one is a blessing! And you know what, just like every mom here with 3+ of the same gender, you will have a lovely family and everything will be just fine. You can't worry about what other people think.....who gives a S&%T really what they think? Your DH is a champ and will be so proud no matter what, and you know it doesn't make you either of you less of a man or a woman to have 3 girls. You will love this little lady just as much as your other 2 gals, and I think it's important to just try to push yourself away from feeling badly about it the best you can. I know you are disappointed, but in my eyes, you are SO lucky to have a healthy little baby on the way, honey!!!! I hope you can come to terms and feel good about all of this. She will be awesome, if it even is still a she!

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3 boys - now that's a blessing and moms are getting all kind of compliments and congratulations on their succesfull mission as mothers.

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Totally not true. I got rude comments with three boys, and now that I have four boys, I get downright mean comments all the freakin' time. Ranging from, "poor you, you will never get to do mother-daugther stuff" to "sons will leave you, daughters are forever" to someone who actually said having so many boys was a punishment from God!

I think no matter whether its boys or girls, having a few in a row makes people judemental and rude. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Fun family, that is just awful. I cannot imagine ever saying anything to anyone like that. In my opinion, children are who you raise them to be, with a good dose of their own personalities in there, of course. It is so not true that one gender stays and one leaves.....good grief. It depends on the family. I have friends IRL with 4 boys and they are awesome!!!! I think their kids are just precious and they have a darling family, just like everyone I know. Kids are such a blessing, I can't say that enough. I wish people would shut their mouths with the comments unless they are saying something nice like "your kids are so cute!"