ttc thread - swaying again in 2017 :)

:wave: excited to be back again to sway for the second time after a successful pink sway last year :) thought id do this in case any other 2017 swayers want somewhere to chat before getting onto the tww and due date posts!

anyone thinking of swaying, planning a sway, actively swaying etc :XX: or :xy: all welcome!!

abit about me..

im 4blue2pink or at least i was when i first joined this site.. thanks to gender dreaming i had a successful pink sway last year so im now 4blue3pink :) and hoping to be 4blue4pink in the not too distant future *fingers crossed* im all about big families and small age gaps!! many think im crazy but i wouldnt have it any other way :)

my family so far is:
boy 2010
girl 2011 (mid pregnancy loss)
boy 2011 (different pregnancy after the loss)
boy 2012
boy 2014
girl 2015
girl 2016 (successful GD sway)

i didnt sway for any of my children except my youngest but from being on this site i can clearly see why i had the 4 boys and then my youngest non-sway girl.

last time i did LE diet, one attempt and i also drank diet coke, i didnt do alcohol, coffee or exercise, it was a very laid back and easy to cope with sway which is exactly what i wanted.

this time i plan to keep things very similar, LE diet, one attempt and diet coke again but im weighing up weather or not to add alcohol and/or coffee.. im currently having one alcoholic drink at tea time and will carry that on as long as i can but im not a big fan if im honest!! im going to try coffee but im not sure il be able to drink the recommended 3-4 cups a day in which case i might just scrap it and go without like last time, i also wont be exercising again this time because i cant commit to it with 6 kids to look after.

i hope everyone had a good Christmas and New Year and my fingers are crossed that everyone on here gets their desired pink or blue beans in 2017!! and look forward to hearing from any other fellow swayers who want to chat :)

im currently on day 2 of my LE diet and have started using opk's this month to try and get an idea of when to plan the 1 attempt for when we are ready, last time i got a positive opk on day 17 each month so im hoping this time it will be the same day each month again to make life easier!! Bring on round 2!! xx

Hi hun... ive started swaying hopefully for my first girl �� im on day 2 of diet today.. i got a plan from atomic also so sticking to that as much as possible..im finding it hard getting my head around what i can and cant eat so im sticking to 1500 cals a day..no meat.fish and only 4 eggs a weeks.. and trying to get 40g of protein a day but only managed 28 yesterday as i dont like meat anyway since the birth of my last baby 9 months ago.. im having 3 coffees a day which i dont normally have and diet coke..also started metformin yesterday and got clomid ready for my attempt in march..im excited but after 6 boys i cant ever imagine having a girl but il give it my best shot..lets hope we both get some lucky pink dust xx

Hey girls this is a great post so thanks 4blue! And congratulations on your girls I really hope I'm as lucky as u one day.

I started my sway on 1st November - so I'm weighing up wether to have my first attempt in Jan or Feb . Over Xmas I prob cheated 3/4 days In a row not too bad but definatley went over in fat &I didn't exercise for those days either who does on Xmas day?!

so I can't decide - but one thing I now have going for me is I have had a sickness bug since the 30th and haven't eaten much other than toast for 3 days I've had awful cramps and nausea so dropped a few pounds so hoping if I try in 2 weeks time this could be a good thing ?? What do u think ?
I know I prob won't fall pg first time anyway so talking hyperthetically really!!

Five boys I remember following your journey last year when I was looking to go to your clinic then I changed to Cyprus then we moved house for the second time in one year so had no money to persue it nor mentally could I do it I was in a bad place - sow eve decided to sway for a little girl after 2 boys (5&2) really hoping it works !!
I'm on folic acid vitex and SP and aspirin still 3 days a week my husband has low sperm so Is not doing supps just having some soy now and again.

Anyway it's great to see some lovely ladies on here trying hoping we can all help eachother ! Xxx


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Hi hun..have you thought about the olive leaf for hubby...xx

He has got some will it help with a pink sway though ?
I don't want anything to sway blue !! Xx


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I think so hun..atomic done me a plan and its on there, my hubbys levels were so low he needed to attempts when we done ht �� he hates it though but takes it every morning x

Hi everyone! Great to hear your stories!
I'm swaying blue...I started HE diet beginning of october, so 3 months ago. We have one DD who will be 11 months in a week's time....that's going quick!!
I'm currently on cd10 but we aren't trying this cycle as DH leaves for a boy's trip tomorrow and we'll miss our window.
Doesn't bother me though as we said we'd start trying again when she turned 1. We are going to try next cycle, so end of the month.
I totally understand how I had a girl - lived a very LE lifestyle in regards to diet and my job as a dance teacher. Hoping that won't affect my boy sway too much. I've been lifting to get in some weights now too. Also was on clomid for her, so another huge sway. Good luck everyone!

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MrsTheatrical, I'm so sorry for your loss. That is devastating. Fingers crossed you get your precious pink bundle. How are you going with the LE diet?

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Hi hun... ive started swaying hopefully for my first girl �� im on day 2 of diet today.. i got a plan from atomic also so sticking to that as much as possible..im finding it hard getting my head around what i can and cant eat so im sticking to 1500 cals a day..no meat.fish and only 4 eggs a weeks.. and trying to get 40g of protein a day but only managed 28 yesterday as i dont like meat anyway since the birth of my last baby 9 months ago.. im having 3 coffees a day which i dont normally have and diet coke..also started metformin yesterday and got clomid ready for my attempt in march..im excited but after 6 boys i cant ever imagine having a girl but il give it my best shot..lets hope we both get some lucky pink dust xx

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hi fiveboys :) ive just had my 1st coffee and it wasnt as bad as i thought itd be :) so i'll keep on with it i think!! the idea of 3-4 cups seems abit daunting to me since i normally only drink water but im sure once i get into the habit of it it'll become normal!! ive got to admit i didnt count calories or fat totals etc last time i didnt want the stress and really cant get my head around the numbers!! for me i think LE is not so much what you eat but more how you eat if that makes sense? (though going veggie is the best option) i thought of it as having 2 sensible mainly veggie meals per day with no snacks in between, the girl mums i know in real life dont stick to specific foods but they do seem to fast for long periods between meals. there are no banned foods on LE diet so i wouldnt get too consumed with what you are or arent allowed in your meals, the only things i personally dont allow myself is red meat and snacks!! atomic is amazing she will put you on the right track!! a girl after 6 boys is completely possible ive seen women on this site with 6,7,8 boys get their girl <3 but i know how you feel, i was so convinced we would never have a girl after having 4 boys and losing our only girl, i knew i could conceive girls but totally believed they would always pass away before birth.. but i was wrong! never give up hope! but also know that a large family of all boys is so rare and extremely special in its own way :awe: thankyou so much for replying and wishing you all the luck in the world with your sway :) xx

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Hey girls this is a great post so thanks 4blue! And congratulations on your girls I really hope I'm as lucky as u one day.

I started my sway on 1st November - so I'm weighing up wether to have my first attempt in Jan or Feb . Over Xmas I prob cheated 3/4 days In a row not too bad but definatley went over in fat &I didn't exercise for those days either who does on Xmas day?!

so I can't decide - but one thing I now have going for me is I have had a sickness bug since the 30th and haven't eaten much other than toast for 3 days I've had awful cramps and nausea so dropped a few pounds so hoping if I try in 2 weeks time this could be a good thing ?? What do u think ?
I know I prob won't fall pg first time anyway so talking hyperthetically really!!

Five boys I remember following your journey last year when I was looking to go to your clinic then I changed to Cyprus then we moved house for the second time in one year so had no money to persue it nor mentally could I do it I was in a bad place - sow eve decided to sway for a little girl after 2 boys (5&2) really hoping it works !!
I'm on folic acid vitex and SP and aspirin still 3 days a week my husband has low sperm so Is not doing supps just having some soy now and again.

Anyway it's great to see some lovely ladies on here trying hoping we can all help eachother ! Xxx


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hey BB! a sickness bug is how i got my 2nd daughter (1st was the loss) i wasnt swaying but as it worked out we did 1 attempt that month then i came down with gastro and was totally wiped out for 4 days (it was hideous!!) so i wrote that month off due to the illness (barely able to eat anything) and only having sex once but surprise surprise 2 weeks later bfp and a girl!! so last time i tried to re-create the differences (without the illness!!) through LE diet for prolonged periods of low blood sugar and only having 1 attempt.. i am convinced low blood sugar and 1 attempt are the key to getting girls :) best of luck with your sway my fingers are crossed for you!! personally id go for it in 2 weeks use the illness to your advantage and just stick to your LE diet once your able to eat again, if bfn then just keep plodding on till the next month.. whatever you decide keep us updated :) xx

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Hi everyone! Great to hear your stories!
I'm swaying blue...I started HE diet beginning of october, so 3 months ago. We have one DD who will be 11 months in a week's time....that's going quick!!
I'm currently on cd10 but we aren't trying this cycle as DH leaves for a boy's trip tomorrow and we'll miss our window.
Doesn't bother me though as we said we'd start trying again when she turned 1. We are going to try next cycle, so end of the month.
I totally understand how I had a girl - lived a very LE lifestyle in regards to diet and my job as a dance teacher. Hoping that won't affect my boy sway too much. I've been lifting to get in some weights now too. Also was on clomid for her, so another huge sway. Good luck everyone!

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hi dd :) its amazing how so many of us find this site and can immediately see why we have the genders we have isnt it!! it sounds like your doing everything to get the best chance at blue!! as a mum of 4 boys all im going to say is snack snack and snack some more!! never too many snacks!! haha im certain snacking and frequent bd got me my boys :) good luck and keep us updated!! you can have all my blue dust :xy: xx

Hey I'm with the snacking a lot ! And all I eat is whole grain toast avocados eggs cheese , bacon sausages chicken etc that's my normal diet which I do really miss I can't wait for a sausage lol!!

4blue thank u so much I think ur post has just given me the confidence I needed to give it a try his month ! I just read your reply to my husband and he's happy to go ahead too!
I'm now waiting for AF to turn up I'm on cd25 so waiting Impatiently !
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Hi Ladies, would love to join in. I'm swaying for a girl after two boys, and tentatively planning our first attempt for March 2017. Tragically, I lost a baby girl in October at 20 weeks pregnant (due to a retroplacental hematoma).

I hope & pray that I'll be lucky enough to get another chance Xxx


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hi MrsT i am so sorry for your loss <3 i lost my first girl mid-pregnancy too, though we never got an answer as to why it happened, it was so devastating.. but never give up hope! its terrifying trying again after such an experience :HH: but you have every chance at a healthy pregnancy with a happy outcome :) i'll share a quote that i found helped me.. "you know you are ready to try again when the desire for another baby outweighs the fear of another loss" this certainly rang true for me. my fingers are crossed for you for march or whenever you decide to try, best of luck with your pink sway and praying for a healthy pregnancy for you to help heal your family :XX: keep us updated xx

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Hey I'm with the snacking a lot ! And all I eat is whole grain toast avocados eggs cheese , bacon sausages chicken etc that's my normal diet which I do really miss I can't wait for a sausage lol!!

4blue thank u so much I think ur post has just given me the confidence I needed to give it a try his month ! I just read your reply to my husband and he's happy to go ahead too!
I'm now waiting for AF to turn up I'm on cd25 so waiting Impatiently !
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hahaha oh my god BB your literally me!! snack attack 24/7!! no wonder i have 4 boys!! i really miss my snacks *argh* but i know its worth it in the end!! just think how good that sausage will be when you get your bfp :bigsmile: bangers and mash for celebratory tea that night maybe?? aww im so glad my post helped :) i think your in with such a good shot at pink right now that it would be daft to waste it, you know? if it doesnt happen this month no worries just keep going till it does!! how many boys do you have? or is this your first? im so excited for you that your husband is on board for this next month!! come on AF hurry up so this show can get on the road!! xx

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Thank you for the lovely reply [emoji171] The quote is so very true.

I'm so sorry for your loss also, but it gives me hope to 'meet' other survivors like you. I'm so glad you went on to have healthy sons AND daughters! :)

My fingers are crossed for you too Xxx


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yes im with you on that, i find it helpful to meet/find others who have been through it as well and if me sharing my story can help in some small way then im glad :) so thankyou for letting me know it helped. for me it will be 6 years tomorrow since she was born silently into this world and though i cant go back and change what happened i do feel there is meaning to be made from the experience and knowing it can help others in even the smallest way helps me to find some purpose in it all.. and if it helps to know about successfull pregnancies after loss i have had 5 since my loss, 3 boys and 2 girls all full term and all healthy, i wont lie the fear is always there with each one and i think it always will be, but its mind over matter for me i find xx

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Hi Ladies, would love to join in. I'm swaying for a girl after two boys, and tentatively planning our first attempt for March 2017. Tragically, I lost a baby girl in October at 20 weeks pregnant (due to a retroplacental hematoma).

I hope & pray that I'll be lucky enough to get another chance Xxx


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Hi there I'm also so very sorry to hear what u have been through - I hope that you are able to have a baby girl again

I hope we can all help eachother on this journey :)
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hahaha oh my god BB your literally me!! snack attack 24/7!! no wonder i have 4 boys!! i really miss my snacks *argh* but i know its worth it in the end!! just think how good that sausage will be when you get your bfp :bigsmile: bangers and mash for celebratory tea that night maybe?? aww im so glad my post helped :) i think your in with such a good shot at pink right now that it would be daft to waste it, you know? if it doesnt happen this month no worries just keep going till it does!! how many boys do you have? or is this your first? im so excited for you that your husband is on board for this next month!! come on AF hurry up so this show can get on the road!! xx

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Haha this is brilliant dreaming of sausages I am lol!!
Yes I have two boys they are 5&2 and currently play fighting in my kitchen argh!!!
They are so lovely but I long for a girl as I have such a great relationship with my mum and my Nan were all very close so really hoping my sway works !

Il start exercising tommorow if I can manage it on the stationary bike and keep to LE and go from there !
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Haha this is brilliant dreaming of sausages I am lol!!
Yes I have two boys they are 5&2 and currently play fighting in my kitchen argh!!!
They are so lovely but I long for a girl as I have such a great relationship with my mum and my Nan were all very close so really hoping my sway works !

Il start exercising tommorow if I can manage it on the stationary bike and keep to LE and go from there !
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:rofl: when it gets tough just think of the sausages!! oh i hear you on the play fighting its non-stop in this house!! my boys are 6,5,4 and nearly 3 (i must be mad!!) but i do think there is something special about brothers, they are so close and have a very crazy (and hilarious) bond!! i just wish we didnt get so many things broken in the chaos.. or talk about farts, poo and willys quite so much :-/ haha oh the joys of boys!!

aww thats lovely that you are so close to your mum and nan :) fingers crossed you can have that same relationship with your own little girl(s) do you think you will have more than 3 or is this your last baby?

good luck with the exercise! im going couch potato i just cant commit to it 6-7 days a week and from what ive read any less sways blue which i want to avoid! just seen your in england me too!! :D xx

Hi 4blue2pink,

Thanks a lot for this thread! It had my attention immediately since we lost our precious daughter at 30 weeks gestation last June. So first of all, I'm very sorry for your loss. This is also for you Mrs Theatrical! I'm always amazed how many people need to go through this horrible pain of losing a child. It shouldn't be happening!
Since this was our first child and we were so ready to welcome a baby in our lives, we decided in September to try again (and now it was even more important that it's a girl).

I must say that the sway you described looks very much like mine, except for the exercise (I tried to do it 4x a week). I'm also not a fan of coffee and alcohol so that's been left out.
I'm actively swaying since September but I already had a very girlfriendly lifestile, and even more after the loss. I barely ate after the loss because I was feeling so terrible. So when I discovered this site and purchased a personal plan in September, I also started eating vegetarian (I didn't eat a lot of meat anyway so it's not hard for me). Apparently I got pregnant with the first try (but didn't know because AF arrived) but it became a mc at 7 weeks. But now, I took a pregnancy test last week and I got a BFP again :) I'm just worried because I don't have any symptoms yet and I'm going for a blood draw tomorrow.

How long did it take for you after your loss that you got pregnant again? Any more tips maybe?
I just really hope I can get a girl; I always wanted a girl and now with this loss it's even more important :(

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yes im with you on that, i find it helpful to meet/find others who have been through it as well and if me sharing my story can help in some small way then im glad :) so thankyou for letting me know it helped. for me it will be 6 years tomorrow since she was born silently into this world and though i cant go back and change what happened i do feel there is meaning to be made from the experience and knowing it can help others in even the smallest way helps me to find some purpose in it all.. and if it helps to know about successfull pregnancies after loss i have had 5 since my loss, 3 boys and 2 girls all full term and all healthy, i wont lie the fear is always there with each one and i think it always will be, but its mind over matter for me i find xx

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Thank you. 6 years tomorrow, I hope you are feeling ok? I'm sure it must be so hard each time the anniversary comes around :( Did you say you don't know why you lost her?

There's an increased chance I could get another hematoma with a subsequent pregnancy, but I can't live in fear. My first two pregnancies (with my boys) were very easy. Now I will be classed as super high risk if we do conceive again.


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Hi there I'm also so very sorry to hear what u have been through - I hope that you are able to have a baby girl again

I hope we can all help eachother on this journey :)
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Thank you so much, it means a lot [emoji171] Yes, it's nice to have found this lovely thread, I feel supported already :)


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Hi 4blue2pink,

Thanks a lot for this thread! It had my attention immediately since we lost our precious daughter at 30 weeks gestation last June. So first of all, I'm very sorry for your loss. This is also for you Mrs Theatrical! I'm always amazed how many people need to go through this horrible pain of losing a child. It shouldn't be happening!
Since this was our first child and we were so ready to welcome a baby in our lives, we decided in September to try again (and now it was even more important that it's a girl).

I must say that the sway you described looks very much like mine, except for the exercise (I tried to do it 4x a week). I'm also not a fan of coffee and alcohol so that's been left out.
I'm actively swaying since September but I already had a very girlfriendly lifestile, and even more after the loss. I barely ate after the loss because I was feeling so terrible. So when I discovered this site and purchased a personal plan in September, I also started eating vegetarian (I didn't eat a lot of meat anyway so it's not hard for me). Apparently I got pregnant with the first try (but didn't know because AF arrived) but it became a mc at 7 weeks. But now, I took a pregnancy test last week and I got a BFP again :) I'm just worried because I don't have any symptoms yet and I'm going for a blood draw tomorrow.

How long did it take for you after your loss that you got pregnant again? Any more tips maybe?
I just really hope I can get a girl; I always wanted a girl and now with this loss it's even more important :(

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Thought I'd pop in -- hoping to have a son. I've been actively "preswaying" for a boy since I found this site almost a year ago exactly! I started swaying more thoroughly after we had an oopsy pregnancy between 3-4 months postpartum which ended in a miscarriage. Not actively trying to get pregnant, mind you, but definitely don't want to get caught out again since it was a little ridiculous how we even got pregnant that time...

Before my DD, I was ultra LE. One meal a day, if that, tons of exercise, no red meat, lots of coffee and alcohol, etc. My DH and I are frequent BDers, so I'm the opposite of some -- I know more than 1 attempt can still get a girl if all other things are dotted and crossed!

Oh hello everyone, hope ye don't mind me joining this lovely thread ...day 2 of the le diet here too so nice to be part of a group who are all in it together! Had 3 attempts last Sep, Oct and Nov but didn't conceive, so technically I've been on the le diet on and off for 6 mths really. I've 3 wonderful little boys but everyday I long for a daughter .. the feeling just won't go away and every where I see little baby girls I get a Little bit jealous which I hate. Anyway going to attempt again in Feb and pls God we all get our desired gender. Sorry for everyone's loss, I can't relate but I feel your pain. Sending ye all virtual hugs ❤

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Wow so many of us so exciting ! Especially as it's the new year so feels like a new project to concerntrate on!
Sigrid what u went through just have been terrible I'm so sorry I have. A friend that lost a baby at 38 weeks it was awful it shouldn't happen to anyone :(

I am in the U.K. Yes down here in cold England! Looking forward to getting to know u all ! Xxx


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Wow so many of us so exciting ! Especially as it's the new year so feels like a new project to concerntrate on!
Sigrid what u went through just have been terrible I'm so sorry I have. A friend that lost a baby at 38 weeks it was awful it shouldn't happen to anyone :(

I am in the U.K. Yes down here in cold England! Looking forward to getting to know u all ! Xxx


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Thanks, that's really sweet of you to say! Indeed it shouldn't happen to anyone. Unfortunately it happens a lot more than we think. I'm just hoping 2017 will be a better year!
And I wish everyone here all the best for the new year with a baby of their desired gender :HH:

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Hi 4blue2pink,

Thanks a lot for this thread! It had my attention immediately since we lost our precious daughter at 30 weeks gestation last June. So first of all, I'm very sorry for your loss. This is also for you Mrs Theatrical! I'm always amazed how many people need to go through this horrible pain of losing a child. It shouldn't be happening!
Since this was our first child and we were so ready to welcome a baby in our lives, we decided in September to try again (and now it was even more important that it's a girl).

I must say that the sway you described looks very much like mine, except for the exercise (I tried to do it 4x a week). I'm also not a fan of coffee and alcohol so that's been left out.
I'm actively swaying since September but I already had a very girlfriendly lifestile, and even more after the loss. I barely ate after the loss because I was feeling so terrible. So when I discovered this site and purchased a personal plan in September, I also started eating vegetarian (I didn't eat a lot of meat anyway so it's not hard for me). Apparently I got pregnant with the first try (but didn't know because AF arrived) but it became a mc at 7 weeks. But now, I took a pregnancy test last week and I got a BFP again :) I'm just worried because I don't have any symptoms yet and I'm going for a blood draw tomorrow.

How long did it take for you after your loss that you got pregnant again? Any more tips maybe?
I just really hope I can get a girl; I always wanted a girl and now with this loss it's even more important :(

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sigrid i am so sorry to hear about your daughter, to have that happen in your first pregnancy just seems so much more cruel and horrific, i was lucky that when i lost my girl i already had a boy so i knew i could make it through a pregnancy i just had to face the fear.. in a morbid way its nice to see so many on this thread who have had losses, hopefully it will offer support being around people who understand <3

i absolutely understand the need for you to have another girl, i was in a very bad way for a long time after my loss too. your sway does seem very similar to mine! and mine was successful so i think your in with a great shot :) huge congratulations on your bfp!! my fingers are crossed for a healthy happy easy pregnancy for you with a beautiful baby girl at the end of it :)

after my loss i was pregnant again after only 5 weeks!! i had a straightforward full term pregnancy that resulted in my 2nd son :) my main tip for you now you have your bfp is to stay calm.. easier said than done i know.. but what will be, will be and you are powerless to control this pregnancy as terrifying as that thought is!! just because you had such a tragic outcome last time round does not mean it will happen again!! you can do this :) we are all here for you, having no symptoms is OK i had no symptoms early on with most of mine, stay positive and keep us all updated after your blood draw etc we will all be thinking of you xx

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Thank you. 6 years tomorrow, I hope you are feeling ok? I'm sure it must be so hard each time the anniversary comes around :( Did you say you don't know why you lost her?

There's an increased chance I could get another hematoma with a subsequent pregnancy, but I can't live in fear. My first two pregnancies (with my boys) were very easy. Now I will be classed as super high risk if we do conceive again.


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yes 6 years tomorrow since she was born.. the anniversaries have become easier but the pain will never fully go away if that makes sense?
yes we had a full post mortem including placenta tests and i had swabs and a million blood tests and everything came back normal, i was fine and baby was 100% normal and healthy as was the placenta and cord.. it seems her heart just stopped and we will never know why, which has made it harder to cope with i must admit.

is a hematoma like a large blood clot that forms behind the placenta and pushes it off the wall? or have i got that wrong? im not very medically minded im afraid!! would they scan you more frequently next time and is there anything they could do if another hematoma was detected?

i admire the courage it must take for you to try again, everything crossed you have a positive outcome xx

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Thought I'd pop in -- hoping to have a son. I've been actively "preswaying" for a boy since I found this site almost a year ago exactly! I started swaying more thoroughly after we had an oopsy pregnancy between 3-4 months postpartum which ended in a miscarriage. Not actively trying to get pregnant, mind you, but definitely don't want to get caught out again since it was a little ridiculous how we even got pregnant that time...

Before my DD, I was ultra LE. One meal a day, if that, tons of exercise, no red meat, lots of coffee and alcohol, etc. My DH and I are frequent BDers, so I'm the opposite of some -- I know more than 1 attempt can still get a girl if all other things are dotted and crossed!

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TP! :D how are you ive not seen you about for a while!! im so sorry to see that you have had a loss, life can be so cruel i hope you are ok? how is your little girl she must be getting big now!

i truly believe you will get your boy as long as you keep on track with your diet, you really do strike me as a boy mum and im not just saying that to blow smoke up your arse i really mean it!! sending you all my blue dust and hoping for a sticky blue bean for when you decide to try :)

your so right diet and lifestyle are key arent they!! but i do think 1 attempt is a strong tactic too xx

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Oh hello everyone, hope ye don't mind me joining this lovely thread ...day 2 of the le diet here too so nice to be part of a group who are all in it together! Had 3 attempts last Sep, Oct and Nov but didn't conceive, so technically I've been on the le diet on and off for 6 mths really. I've 3 wonderful little boys but everyday I long for a daughter .. the feeling just won't go away and every where I see little baby girls I get a Little bit jealous which I hate. Anyway going to attempt again in Feb and pls God we all get our desired gender. Sorry for everyone's loss, I can't relate but I feel your pain. Sending ye all virtual hugs ❤

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hi amelia :) all welcome to join the more the merrier!! im on day 3 of LE now and a couple of others are day 2/3 so theres a few of us all at the same point which is good!! i completely understand the desire for a daughter and also the jealousy.. i was exactly the same before having my 2 younger girls it was very difficult and quite upsetting when everyone else was getting girls and i had lost my only girl.. fingers crossed for you for feb!! good luck and keep us posted :D xx

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hi amelia :) all welcome to join the more the merrier!! im on day 3 of LE now and a couple of others are day 2/3 so theres a few of us all at the same point which is good!! i completely understand the desire for a daughter and also the jealousy.. i was exactly the same before having my 2 younger girls it was very difficult and quite upsetting when everyone else was getting girls and i had lost my only girl.. fingers crossed for you for feb!! good luck and keep us posted :D xx

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Thank you so much 4blue2pink .. absolutely everyone has girls apart from me, all my friends and family on my side and my husband's side. It would be like winning the lotto if it happened, I need to stay positive otherwise I get really down about it. I hope the last couple of months will stand to me even tho I broke it a few days, week here and there (like when I thought I was pregnant and resorted back to my old ways) so I hope Feb isn't too early which will be 6 weeks. And Xmas I might have overdid it on the choc but haven't gained any weight, have lost a stone over the last few months since starting le diet

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hi amelia :) all welcome to join the more the merrier!! im on day 3 of LE now and a couple of others are day 2/3 so theres a few of us all at the same point which is good!! i completely understand the desire for a daughter and also the jealousy.. i was exactly the same before having my 2 younger girls it was very difficult and quite upsetting when everyone else was getting girls and i had lost my only girl.. fingers crossed for you for feb!! good luck and keep us posted :D xx

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Thank you so much 4blue2pink .. absolutely everyone has girls apart from me, all my friends and family on my side and my husband's side. It would be like winning the lotto if it happened, I need to stay positive otherwise I get really down about it. I hope the last couple of months will stand to me even tho I broke it a few days, week here and there (like when I thought I was pregnant and resorted back to my old ways) so I hope Feb isn't too early which will be 6 weeks. And Xmas I might have overdid it on the choc but haven't gained any weight, have lost a stone over the last few months since starting le diet


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Amelia that sounds great what u have done so far losing that much weight well done!
I've lost about half a stone since November but haven't much to lose so it's better than nothing :-/

Try and keep positive I try even thoigh I wasn't good over Xmas and haven't got my exercise back together yet but will back tommorow after a sick bug and finally feeling better today xx


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TP! :D how are you ive not seen you about for a while!! im so sorry to see that you have had a loss, life can be so cruel i hope you are ok? how is your little girl she must be getting big now!

i truly believe you will get your boy as long as you keep on track with your diet, you really do strike me as a boy mum and im not just saying that to blow smoke up your arse i really mean it!! sending you all my blue dust and hoping for a sticky blue bean for when you decide to try :)

your so right diet and lifestyle are key arent they!! but i do think 1 attempt is a strong tactic too xx

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Thank you so much, that really means a lot to me! I'm so, so sorry the anniversary of your loss is coming up. Please share any feelings you want to here, I hope it can help <3 I'm certainly here for you.

And thank you for checking up on me despite it! I waffle back and forth -- I hate admitting it, but I might be dealing with a chemical pregnancy on top of it now. It seems like my body just loves to get pregnant but not necessarily stay pregnant -- even when we're not trying. I imagine I'd have been knocked up perpetually if I hadn't been on BC for so many years! It's hard to tell if my DD was a fluke, or if me being so close to having her is why this keeps happening... but according to my midwife and other resources, the body's way of showing you're not ready is by not ovulating, not by miscarrying :/

My DD is getting big though! She loves her solids, calls me mama, and is the happiest, cutest baby we've ever seen haha.

You're definitely right on the 1 attempt -- the sways keeps showing that's a good move. I just like to reassure the women swaying for girls who go, "Oops, we did more than one" or "I had so much CM!" that a girl can still be on the way for them -- look at me! Haha.

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sigrid i am so sorry to hear about your daughter, to have that happen in your first pregnancy just seems so much more cruel and horrific, i was lucky that when i lost my girl i already had a boy so i knew i could make it through a pregnancy i just had to face the fear.. in a morbid way its nice to see so many on this thread who have had losses, hopefully it will offer support being around people who understand <3

i absolutely understand the need for you to have another girl, i was in a very bad way for a long time after my loss too. your sway does seem very similar to mine! and mine was successful so i think your in with a great shot :) huge congratulations on your bfp!! my fingers are crossed for a healthy happy easy pregnancy for you with a beautiful baby girl at the end of it :)

after my loss i was pregnant again after only 5 weeks!! i had a straightforward full term pregnancy that resulted in my 2nd son :) my main tip for you now you have your bfp is to stay calm.. easier said than done i know.. but what will be, will be and you are powerless to control this pregnancy as terrifying as that thought is!! just because you had such a tragic outcome last time round does not mean it will happen again!! you can do this :) we are all here for you, having no symptoms is OK i had no symptoms early on with most of mine, stay positive and keep us all updated after your blood draw etc we will all be thinking of you xx

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Wow, what a sweet message, thank you so much :heart:. You describe it perfectly...I know the pain is equal with a second or third child, but like you said, you just know that you're capable of baring a living child. I'm not unfortunately. I really felt like I failed and my body isn't meant to carry a baby. I just hope it was really bad luck. That's at least what the specialist think (but they aren't 100% sure either). You're right, I'm glad I'm not alone in here. On the other hand, I don't wish this for anyone.

Good that you understand it :) I would just hate it if I lost my chance on having a daughter. And that seems double unfair since I 'had' a daughter.
The other thing with my sway is that I was/am also losing weight with it. But the problem is I'm already on low weight (always) and after the loss I didn't eat and now with this diet I lost another 2 kg's and I'm now on a BMI of 17,5 which is waaay too low :s So I really hope I stay pregnant this time because I'm having a very hard time gaining weight.

Ow 5 weeks!!! That must be very double, no? I totally wasn't ready for about 2 months after the loss.
That's a great tip thanks :) And you're actually very right...we just can't do anything about it. For the moment I'm really indifferent about my pregnancy. I think it's a sort of protection. How did you cope with it?
Great to hear that you didn't have any symptoms in the beginning. I had very soar and bigger boobs my last pregnancy, so it's a bit strange now...
Thank you so much for the support! I'm crossing my fingers for another pink bundle of joy XXX

28 g protein is not enough!! 40-50 minimum and those with PCOS need to do more like 50-60

Eggs, dairy, beans, nuts, grain products all good non-meat sources of protein