Oh no! Well let's hope for no puppies and 1 human baby lol
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Oh no! Well let's hope for no puppies and 1 human baby lol
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Definitely!!!
Aw hope you both get preggers soon! I can't imagine the he diet but then by the sounds of it it's pretty much my diet before LE!
My foot feels like it's slowly healing but worried I'll put it out when I start exercising though. But will take it easy to begin with.
I've been good and tried to still not snack and have been skipping breakfast. Apart from today, today I am scoffing popcorn on the sofa with ds1 watching films! Love a rainy day!
I think it's so much harder when the kids are home. Things like watching films with snacks, or baking, or even when things get hectic or stressful first thing I do I open the cupboard.
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Definitely harder! Glad I'm not planning to sway till March at earliest in a way as atleast that way once ds1 is back at school I'll have 6 months to get in the groove again! Lol! Well....until October half term! Lol!
I have never skipped breakfast in my life, I would pass out lol always snacked too.
Wow! I'm so jealous of you! Lol! :)
Do you think you're a laid back person? I'm an organiser! I plan and organise everything! Think this is why I've had boys! Lol!
I have to have routine and I have ocd (organisational)
It's funny how it works isn't it. Seems unfair that we can eat in similar patterns and yet have opposite genders from each other. In a way it's discouraging to know that we are doing all this stuff to change and yet might not get what we want, but at the same time it's good to know that even if we are not perfect and slipped into old patterns we still have a chance ya know.
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Same here, I am a constant sugary snacker, sweets biscuits, cakes lol, sugar junky !!Quote:
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mobs :):wave: What snacks do you grab for usually? I had to switch to eating nuts and dried fruit for snacking when swaying for the boys.
How do people do it without swaying?!? Arrrggghhhh!!!!
I snack on junk usually. Although I do like those oaty cereal bars and like go ahead type biscuits and things full of nuts. But chocolate, cakes, sweets, are what I usually go for. But also with meals i would eat a lot of meat and in 2 meals I can exceed the days calories.
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Off topic but how annoying is it when people talk to you like you know nothing about babies. I put on Facebook about how I should have waited till after ds4 had eaten banana bread before getting dressed. My mums husband (I won't call him my step dad she married him about 5 years ago I've met him a handful of times and I can't say I've really taken to him) commented asking if it was a food fight so I just said no banana hands and dribble. And he replied about how he missed hienz chocolate rice pudding. So I said ds 4 only eats 'real' food now because he won't be spoon fed. He will spit out anything I put in his mouth so he can feed it to himself. He wrote "lol.....that's going to be interesting.....you do know he will start throwing it soon so the cats can try it"
Oh really? Babies throw food? I never knew! We actually did baby led weaning, so he has always had finger foods, same as ds3 but ds 1 and 2 were spoon fed and they both had a stage of not wanting me to feed them when they started finger foods.
I replied just saying he already does. It usually lands on ds2s plate, he has to be very vigilant. What I wanted to say was "good thing you warned me, I've never had a baby before!"
Urgh I know with Facebook you can't tell tone etc but he is a patronising git who always tries to make himself sound smarter than other people when my 8 year old could probably out smart him.
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I hate that. My best friend tried to tell me about babies when I had my 2nd. She has none :/ I think sometimes people just speak or comment as soon as the words come into their heads. I has someone absolutely astounded we had 4 girls, she kept repeating it and then said to dh I'm sure you feel let out. I could've happily slapped her and told her not to be so stupid.
I don't claim to know more than the next person on babies and children, but I think after 4 of them you know basic typical behaviour. I remember telling him that DS3 was in the smaller side, at least for my babies. 1 and 2 had been in larger sizes for their age ds3 was always in smaller sizes. He said "that'll be because the clothes were stretched when they others wore them" and laughed. Yeah or it could be that the others were on and above the 91st centile and ds3 was in the 25th.
I hate when people make out that you can't join in and bond with your children of a different gender. I sit and watch football, and marvel DVDs etc yes I'd love a girl but doesn't mean I get left out of boy things. Unless I choose not to take part and then it's so I can have a bit of peace lol
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Well he does sound like a bit of a nob lol
Kids love different things regardless of their gender don't they?
Yep, they are people after all arnt they. If adults can all have different interests and likes and dislikes then why can't children.
Gender desire is such a weird thing to experience and a weird place to be. I mean here we are saying how gender doesn't matter because each child is an individual, yet we still desperately want the opposite gender. Enough to change our diet and lifestyle to achieve that.
I get annoyed that people would assume I want a girl and would be disappointed to only have boys, because it's like saying my boys are second prize. Yet I was disappointed to hear I was having a 4th boy, and I do want a girl!
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Agree it's very confusing and difficult! You are so grateful and happy for what you have but still feel a bit.....I don't know maybe incomplete? Is that the right word?
But yes you're not allowed to show it in public otherwise people think you're a monster!!
Your mums DH sounds like a right sort! Very patronising by the sounds of it!
Yes I do finding worrying that we can seem to do the sane things but end up with opposites but then I suppose there is no magic bullet to mane that difference! It could just be the subtlest changes between that's let us have what we have bad all our swaying may just tip the odds in our favour....
I hope so. Surely one of us will get our turn soon.
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Facebook is flooded with pictures of my friends new baby boy, after 3 girls. He was born early yesterday morning. She brought him home today. She must be on cloud 9. She has a healthy baby, which is enough to be joyful about, but she also got her dream gender. He is her last as well so there were no more chances. I simply cannot imagine that feeling. I don't think its one I'm ever going to experience and its making me very tearful today. AND AF is STILL here. Day 6, its very light/spotting, but still thats longer than usual.
Oh Hun know what you mean! Hope you're ok it's so hard as you're happy for your friend but have this feeling defo down itll never be you feeling that delight! I'm the exact same! But why can't it be us!?! We could all fall pregnant soon and all have our DG! It could be the coin landing heads up for is next time who knows! At least were all going it our best shot!
Hope AF clears off soon! Maybe this is another step to you lp evening out?
I don't know why I let it bother me what other people get. I thought I was used to it by now, other people get girls, I don't. And she got a boy, so why is it effecting me so much?! I have boys. It should be the little pink bundles that upset me.
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I'm exactly the same it's like when someone has all the same gender you feel a sort of solidarity with them (or relief maybe that it's not just you) but then they get an opposite and it's like you are back to being the minority again. A friend of mine is having a girl after 2 boys and I was so pissed off when I found out. How bad is that?
Maybe that it. I know someone who had 2 boys, her 2nd exactly a month older than my 3rd, and we were ttc together. She really wanted a girl. She got pregnant and had her girl, before I even managed to conceive ds4. Knowing how much she had wanted her daughter and how she is always on about how much she loves the girly stuff with her. I tried to talk to her. But it's like she doesn't remember how desperately she wanted a girl now. Kinda like how old people look at a crying toddler and tut as if their child never cried.
I hate being like this. I just keep moaning about everything lately. Sorry guys.
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It's fine, I think everyone here understands. This is my last chance so I think it's hitting me harder when someone else gets their dg
I'm glad that we have this place to let it out. I feel horrible enough for feeling like this, and that genders important, I'd feel so much worse if I thought I was alone in this.
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We all understand. I don't think the want, need i suppose, or panic i felt knowing this was my very last shot, will ever leave me. The memory of the sadness might fade (hopefully) but after 10 years of longing I'll always remember the impact gd has, especially the past 7 years as that's when it wasn't guaranteed we would go for #3 or #4 xx
I love this website there is no judgement! Even for people that have their DG. They stay here as support girl others as they've been through it and remember it, which I truly appreciate!
In real life and on a other certain forum which I no longer use, not so much! As you say they forget the pain they went through and forget others are still going through it! I hope we all get our DG and I hope if I do I never forget writing this post and will still support and encourage people who are feeling the way I feel right now.
It's a horrible feeling you're feeling sad that we don't have what we want but guilty for having what others long for and not being content with just that. But you can't help feelings we are human after all and thankfully we have here to vent and realise we are not alone!
I really thought I was getting somewhere and working through it and accepting that that's how things will be. Because if I get another boy then I've just got to accept that that's how things are. I know dh said a possible 6th but I don't know if that will ever happen. And even if it does, it's not impossible to get 6 boys. And then what? And I thought I was getting there. But lately everything's just been wrong again. Why can't I just be happy?
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Aw I know what you mean sometimes it's just too hard. I'm feeling the same at the mo. FB doesn't help! Everyone I know is having a girl or if they don't know what they're having their 13 week scan pic screams girl nub BIG time so know it'll all be girls. Can't help but then think that all the girls will be taken and I won't get one.
It's ok to feel down Hun it's normal as it's feeling raw emotions and not even emotions you can show in public as people just don't get it!! But hey you might end up having a girl next, decide to have a sixth anyway and gave another girl! Anything is possible it could just be your turn for a little pink soon!
I just don't see it any more. I used to see it. Now it's just a dream.
I'm sure I'll get back in track and feel better soon. But I also know that no matter how hard I try and how many I have, I will always have boys.
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MOB, this is exactly how I've been feeling too ((hugs)) It's so tough isn't it? A lady I'm friends with is expecting dc5 & she already has my dream family of 2 DDs followed by 2DSs. I would never ask her but I envy that pure excitement that she must be feeling with no strong GD either way. My GD has been present for every pg and I resent that. I too feel that girls are some exotic species reserved for other people, not me. I have a friend with 5 boys, her youngest two are twins. I look at her & swing between feeling that the chances of us both having 5 boys must be slim or that I shouldn't ever expect to get a DD in 5 kids. I'm happy to go to 5 as I've always dreamed of a big family. I just wish this GD would bugger off!!Quote:
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Thanks for listening everyone. I feel so down right now, and I can't seem to pull myself out of it and carry on like I usually do. I can't even talk to DH about it as I don't think he really gets it. He wants a girl too, but I don't think enough to break his heart over. After we found out DS4 was a boy he thought it would be best to stop, he could obviously only make boys so what was the point in continuing, only to be disappointed each time. He came around in the end. And he said he would be happy with another 2. He even said he'd have as many as would make me happy, but he doesn't think more boys could make me happy.
Well I snuck off for a bit of a cry earlier. Then dh came home, we had wine and Chinese and I feel a bit better.
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Sending hugs Hun ((())) GD is a b*itch and a half and only those who have experienced it can ever understand; it's NOT about not loving the kids you do have (if anything I think GD makes us love and appreciate our kids more because of that early guilt) it's about feeling like there is still someone missing from your life.... We all understand Hun. I'm glad you are feeling better. X x
Glad you're feeling better Hun! Sometimes a cry and alcohol can make all the difference!
And vent away it's what were here for! We all understand!
Thanks. I don't want to be the one bringing everyone down.
I wish I could just be happy about the prospect of another baby, as dreamofpink says with out GD hanging over my head and tarnishing everything. It ruined my 12 week scan because I spent the whole time looking for a nub and came away feeling like I hadnt even seen my baby.
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Do you think it's better to find out the gender before the birth? I didn't with my first but did with the rest.
I dunno. I always have found out. Ds1 I was far too excited and impatient. The rest I wanted a surprise but kept convincing myself I needed to know in case I had a girl and had to re- buy some things. Ds4 I thought it would be best to know so that I could work through any disappointment I felt before he was born. I was worried I'd have trouble bonding. If the next one could possibly be my last I would like a surprise to be able to say I've experienced both. Then again how much of a surprise is it when you have 4 of the same already lol I know now that I will bond. But I do worry that it could drag out the hope to be disappointed, or drag out the misery only to find at the end you got what you wanted anyway. Maybe that's my problem, I'm greedy, I want to experience everything. Never satisfied. That's why I want a girl and can't just be satisfied with my boys lol
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