Originally Posted by
zanacal
First of all - OMG Melinda, what a cow! I'm sure you've read tonnes more than her on the subject anyway, no doubt she was repeating whatever was written in her one text book on the subject ... and you're absolutely right, who said you didn't want another boy?! I can't believe she tried to offer you a 'permanent' contraceptive. What an assumption! That was very unprofessional and I'd complain about it (unless I was trying to keep my testosterone low :D). Big {hugs}. There are plenty of women who have several of one sex before having one or more of another. WE know that so you just ignore that insensitive job's worth ok? {hugs} P.S. If you should find yourself pregnant with twin girls make sure you have to go back and see her and rub it in!!
Thanks all for letting me know what you're doing with frequent BDing. I'm not concerned about timing either but I am concerned with lowering sperm count because I got pregnant so quickly with each of the boys. I'm not confident that I'll get pregnant with one BD but I feel like if I got pregnant straight away with another boy and I'd BD'd several times then I'll assume our sperm count was still too high, so I'll give it a couple of months then forget about the condoms. I decided we'll use regular condoms (not spermicidal) and Rephresh. Right now, getting pregnant with a girl is more important to me than getting pregnant all together. Don't get me wrong, I'll take (and love!) another boy if that's what's to be but we wouldn't actually be trying again if we already had a mixture of sexes. That sounds terrible and I doubt myself all the time because I'm sure we WILL end up with that 4th boy but when I think that I do actually get excited at the thought of it so I know it will be ok. I love something DoulaMama (I think!) said once, that the third boy was sent because he was meant to be hers and if #3 had been a girl she wouldn't have tried again and he wouldn't have come. I think this is such a beautiful idea :D