Aw sorry you don't feel so hot. I'm taking advantage of the next week or two and eating all the meat I can because I know I will probably hate the thought of it pretty soon lol
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Aw sorry you don't feel so hot. I'm taking advantage of the next week or two and eating all the meat I can because I know I will probably hate the thought of it pretty soon lol
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Quinn thats interesting that they suspect twins but only saw one. What made the dr say twins? How exciting, my dh would die!
2xblue I'd feel the same way. I'm hoping to have it written down and find out privately but right now dh is being a little insensitive about it.... he doesn't see what the big deal is which is annoying. I cried in the ultrasound when we found out ds3 was a boy. It was embarrassing but I couldn't help it. Another boy will be deeply loved but I'd like to process it alone.
Lauren I agree I never understood the 2 week thing but hey if it makes me sound closer to my due date I'll take it!
So I am in a Facebook group for women ttc and swaying and we are starting to get BFP's so I created a spin off group for women who swayed and are due in the fall. It is brand new so only a hand full of members so far but if you're on fb I'd be happy for anyone to join !
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1534.../?notif_t=like
My first ultrasound isn't for two weeks. I hate waiting, especially after my losses. I just want to see that little pumpkin on the screen. Anyone else have to wait?
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My DH is still concerned the triplet didn't actually vanish. LOL
DH doesn't really have a preference. He's happy with either one. Though he hopes for a girl for my sake. He's concerned how I will react if it's a boy. I was really nauseous this time but also was nauseous in my other pregnancies aswell. DH says I've been more sick this time but I'm not sure. Have been having less breakouts this time. But nothing significantly different.Quote:
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I can understand how nervous you are because you swayed for your DH. It makes the whole swaying thing different when you are doing it for someone else. You would be happy with either one? Really hoping it's a boy for your DH.
Kmom, I understand you don't want to experience finding out the gender at the scan again. I hope your DH will understand your point of view. I want to find out privately too, with DH. I want our boys to be asleep then so I can react how ever I will react.
Are you planning a homebirth? That will make 3 of us in the group!Quote:
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DS2 was born at home with a private midwife. This time I'm planning to use the hospital program that wasn't around 4 years ago, unless my previous mudwife becomes available again (she can't work at the moment unfortunately).
I has some ms with my boys. DS2 was the worst so it is what I keep comparing too as I can't remember DS1 as well. I don't know if weight makes a difference as I was my heaviest with DS2 so I think everything was harder with that pregnancy.Quote:
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Yes ma'am :) home birth here too. Midwife.Quote:
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Have you guys done home births before?
My last 2 births were at hospital but with midwives and all natural. One time I had to get out of the tub because baby heart rate was going down and then the other time I never made it past the room they take your vitals in :-/
This time, since my last birth was so fast I don't feel comfortable driving the 40 minutes to that hospital and the one in my town doesn't work with midwives. So I'm still dr shopping. There is a midwife in town who does home births but I just can't decide.... I don't know why the thought makes me a little nervous :-/ It sounds amazing given that nothing goes wrong. What sold you on going for it?
My last birth was in a hospital and is was the most traumatic thing I can ever remember. So much pressure and rushing and poking and prodding. Me and the baby got so little rest that it was hard to bond and learn how to nurse. Once we got home we could relax and everything was so much better. After lots of research and speaking with lots of friends whom have had home births I decided it was right for me. I've been so passionate about it since my last birth 4 years ago... I'm so ready.
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I'm sorry about your last experience. That's great that you are so sure. My first birth I was very uneducated about the whole process. I was young, 20. My OB said she wanted to induce me at 39 weeks. I agreed because I didn't know any better. It went ok but I hated the feeling of being stuck in the bed. I made a feeble attempt at a birth plan that got tossed aside. She gave me an episiotomy even though I had in my plan that I wanted to tear naturally. My son was only 6 lbs 7 oz and clearly could've cooked a little longer. It could have been worse but it definitely wasn't what I'd hoped.Quote:
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My last 2 births with the midwives were amazing. Even the hospital is a small one and very natural birth friendly. Nurses were amazing. They listened to everything I wished. Delayed cord clamping, delayed bath, gave him the vaccines and pokes that I consented to and left out the ones I didnt. Just so amazing all around. I'm going to have a hard time not going back :-/
I've had pretty easy pregnancies in the past with minimal symptoms. This time I have absolutely none. Do you think this could mean boy? I'm already getting nervous as I know dh wants one so bad.
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I honestly have no clue. I've had three boy pregnancies and one I was puking all day every day the first trimester, the second I felt fantastic... never felt even the slightest bit sick- it was great, my third I was nauseous but never actually threw up. I swear this time I'm going to try not to read into symptoms because each of my pregnancies has been so different.Quote:
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Well... here is my experience but don't take it as gospel. My pregs with my first 3 ( all boys, 2 healthy term deliveries 1 late loss) were nearly identical varying only in DEGREE of ms. I was going to be sick, that was a given, it was just a matter of am I gonna toss my cookies 1-2 times a day (youngest), 4-5 times a day (late loss) or 10+ times a day (oldest). With my 4th pregnancy (DD) I had like zero symptoms except the non-stop headache BUT that preg was doomed from the word go. This time, compared to my boys, I have no ms. Don't get me wrong... I feel like crap on a cracker (fatigue, headaches, feeling like I'll be sick if I don't eat then feeling sick when I do but I typically don't ACTUALLY get sick, etc). I have no idea what I am having yet... gut says boy but I think that is more my mind trying not to get my hopes up than anything. But time will tell.Quote:
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I'm very pro hospital birth, but I also require monitoring be ause of my diabetes and blood clotting disorder (puts me at risk for life threatening complications). My first two deliveries were relatively easy, no real issues except a few with #2 due to blood sugar mostly. Then #3 was going along great until she decided to flip at 8 cm dilated. Before they could do the ultrasound to see if she was deliverable breech, version, or c-section my water broke and she shot out feet first. She got stuck at her hip level, cord compressed, heart rate plummeted. The nurse jumped on the foot of the bed to shove her back in and hold her to decompress the cord. I was rushed for an emergency c-section. Despite being out in under 5 minutes she was suffering birth trauma, struggling to breathe and very low Apgars. She stabilized and came off the vent by evening, but needed a 10-day stay in the NICU under the lights because of severe bruising. She was purple from foot to butt. I would never risk a home birth after my experience with DD. when something goes wrong every second counts.
Aw Bunnygirl your poor babe! And that is why I hesitate. I know those situations aren't real likely but you just don't know. As irritating as hospitals can be when trying to birth naturally I almost think at home I'd be worried which isn't really productive when you're supposed to be relaxed. Hm... I guess I have a while to think about it. :-)
Hospitals have their place when women are higher risk or they just prefer to be at one. If I was having twins I would probably go to hospital because I would be unlikely to find a midwife to care for me at home and I wouldn't do it without some assistance.
My first was born at the hospital, overall I had a pretty good birth although last minute complications (mild PE) meant I couldn't use the birth centre rooms which as I was induced (just gels, no pictocin luckily!)
My 2nd was a nice calm waterbirth at home. My midwife is the most amazing person ever so I'm still super hopeful I can have her again. My husband said he was so much more comfortable at home too as he didn't get bossed around like at the hospital :) My eldest was there but for the actual birth he went outside to play as he wasn't really interested.
I completely understand it not being for everyone though!
I wasn't worried in the slightest but I trusted my body and my midwife. After he was born he was a little stunned and needed some puffs of air to get going but I was amazingly calm when that was happening. He had come out a little fast and had is cord around his neck and body but it was fine. Probably helped I had all the oxytocin released in my body to make me calm. My mum admits she was a little worried.Quote:
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I really appreciate everyone's points of view. I intend to do a lot of reading and thinking on it. The reason I went to the out of town hospital for my last two was because I heard that the hospital in town is so intervention happy. I'll probably meet with a couple of prospective OB's and the midwife in town and just see.
I've had two home births now after my first was a hospital intervention filled eventual c/s that I consented to because I couldn't keep fighting them off. I knew I wasn't goi to suddenly not be compliant in labour so I wanted to get different care in labour and birth. As the private hospitals locally can't guarantee the dr you pick won't be away or off call and you get a complete stranger with you and since you never know who the midwife would be I chose homebirth so that I could pick who would care for me. I have never been homebirth at all costs and if my midwife had advised me to go to hospital I wouldn't have wasted time arguing because the trust was there and I was comfortable that we were on the same page. They have been beautiful births that left me well physically as well as emotionally and mentally, something my first birth didn't provide. You have to birth where you feel safe tho and that's why homebirth isn't for everyone.
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Do you have a hospital near you that works with midwives or promotes natural birthing? I went to a hospital but used a midwife who helped me be as natural as possible. She was phenomenal and told the nurses what they should do. It was such a better birthing experience than my first when I had to lay in the bed so I didn't make a mess for the nurses. My last pregnancy was high risk because of an umbilical chord issue so I was thankful for the hospital.Quote:
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The constant disruptions are really annoying though.
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I feel like I'm having a boy but I know intuition is out the window when you have a preference. I had a feeling my first was a girl but wanted a boy for dh. I was sure dd2 was a boy but after coming back to this site I realized how much I had slipped back to my LE ways. This time around I've been on HE diet for the most part since July. I fell off a bit around Christmas because of the holidays and I was briefly pregnant. I know the diet, weights, and supplements aren't the magic answer but I feel like I did my best. Unfortunately , I gained 13 pounds even though I did my best to eat as clean as possible. Thankfully I'm still in the healthy range of weight but I'll be moving into maternity clothes pretty fast I'm sure!
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It is about 40 minutes away..... I birthed there with the midwives for my last 2 births and it was amazing. But this time I think they no longer take my health insurance and I'm also worried about the drive as my last labor was so quick. Also now that we have 3 children to leave in some one else's care I feel like it'd be easier to be right in town so my dh can run home and back to the hospital.Quote:
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The hospital I use is great about not pushing interventions and is certified baby friendly. Regardless, I don't qualify for unmonitored or intermittently monitored labor. Because of my clotting disorder there is a much higher risk of abruption or cord rupture in labor so monitors are kept on all the time. They do have wireless monitors though, so I can get up and walk and also waterproof ones so I can sit in the tub (allowed until 8 cm and no birthing in it). I am hooked up on IV fluids and insulin/glucose drip machine for my gestational diabetes as well. I've had good experiences overall with my births. I think a big part of it is that I'm not rigid about how I expect it to go and what I want done throughout labor. Things change and I go with the flow. I actually do not even make a birth plan because I think it sets you up for disappointment if something needs to change along the way.Quote:
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I like the idea of birth centers, attached to the hospital, because you get the best of both worlds. You are able to get immediate intervention if something goes wrong, but it's less "medical" overall. No midwife would ever agree to treat me with my clotting disorder though. As it is, I'm considered too complicated for a regular OB as well. I automatically start with and continue with perinatology. He's never been the one to deliver my babies due to the hospital using rotations of doctors, but maybe this time he will since the perinatology clinic got moved to the hospital attached to L&D and the NICU. There is also a decent chance of needing a c-section with the twins. It's not common for both babies to end up in the correct position. If it's safe I'd like my twins to be my second VBAC, but that will be determined much closer to delivery or during labor.
Hi girls, I've been following this thread for a while. I've been nervous to post as I told a friend about this site and (regrettably) told her my username. I've been worried she'd find out my big news before family.
Anyway, I'd love to join this group with an EDD of the 19th September!
I have 3 beautiful and spirited sons already and results from my Harmony Test came back yesterday, and after having to ask the Dr "...and the gender", he said "oh... Um...female".
*squeal*
I was shaking all day yesterday, absolutely in shock. I will post my sway when I have some time to sit at the pc, as I only seem to hop on this forum on my phone, in bed.
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Congratulations Am3a! How exciting!!Quote:
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I asked to join your group, I'm Catherine Dougherty on FB. ;)
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Ahhhhhh, so exciting Am3a!!! Do you feel any different this time around? I have two boys and am hoping for a girl this time around but will be over the moon for the new baby, regardless! :happy: So glad you are joining our group!!
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We share a lot in common 2xblue!! So, I am really trying to work through this gender knowledge. I can't decide if I should know or not know. I can have my Harmony test in 1.5 weeks. I can find out the gender then but DH would like to wait until the birth. He has wanted to with each baby but I always outweighed him and needed to know. I cried on our way home when I found out Baby #2 was a boy. :sad: I swore we would do HT for our #3 to ensure it was a girl but the cost was too much for me to feel like we really should. I desperately want a girl and so does DH and the rest of our immediate and extended family. I honestly feel like I will let everyone down if it's not a girl. :sad: I know that sounds silly but its how I feel especially since my in-laws are not at all happy about us having 3 kids, they think anyone with more than 2 are crazy.:sigh:Quote:
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A part of me thinks I should wait until the birth because how could I possibly be sad with a new little baby in my arms?? I know I wouldn't be. I try to picture myself finding out early especially if it's a boy and I worry that I will spend the rest of my pregnancy a little too sad and disappointed. I worry about how I'll react and process things if it's another boy, which I'm so embarrassed to admit. A friend of mine had her baby yesterday (she didn't know what she was having) and its a girl. My heart actually sank a little when I found out because I want it so bad but it truly may not be in the cards for me which is so hard to accept. I'm so frustrated at myself for not just being happy for her! Anyway, thanks for "listening". I feel like this is the only place I can truly say how I feel about it without sounding ungrateful. :worry:
My in-laws are the same. Two kids is fine, maybe a third if the first two are the same gender, but that better be the max. They had such a fit over #4 that DH is going out of his way to hide this pregnancy and covering me up in big, sloppy hoodies when they are around. I'm kind of sad because I want to announce the twins. DH is just too afraid of their bad reactions to allow it yet.
My blood test said I'm having girls, but it's not as accurate for twins so we're waiting for ultrasound to confirm it. Praying at least one is pink.
Bunny girl- I can't imagine the anxiety having to hide it is giving you. Twins! That's huge news! If the bloodwork came back girl, surely there is one pink in there!
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Isn't it so sad Bunny Girl that they can impact your lives so much? Mine told my DH, " I don't know why you want a girl, they're so much more trouble to raise." That was their reaction when he told them we were expecting again. Grrrr....I long for the day that we no longer live in the same state as them. It's our life, they should hold their tongues and show happiness for another baby to be born into a loving family. What's not to be happy about when it comes to a baby?? Once this horrible 24/7 nausea lifts I'll be ecstatic about whatever this baby is!!
Hi crd5ed, thank you, we're so excited but already the doubt has crept in to whether I heard the dr right or even if the test is right! Gah!Quote:
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I feel just the same as my boys: sick, tired and craving carbs! In fact, I was convinced bub was another boy because I feel the same.
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Am, huge congrats on your girl! So exciting!
crd, it's a though decision wether to find out or not. I've been thinking about it alot. If I hear boy now before birth I'm little worried how sad I will be the rest of the pregnancy. I don't want to be sad, I want to be happy about the new baby. But I'm sure I will be ok, atleast I have time to prepare before birth. I've been thinking if I would find out at birth it's a boy I would probably be little disappointed. I don't want to feel that way with a newborn. But I understand your point of view and everyone has to make their own decisions and what's best for them. I would love to experience team green as we've never done that before but I think I can't wait that long.
crd, it's so hard when someone is having your dg. Hugs! People have been really nice when we have told we are having a third child. Two people have asked if it was an accident. Other was MIL! She is really nice person, I think she was just so surprised. She is really happy for us. So is my mom and everyone else we have told. I think it's horrible when people don't feel happy about the new baby. Especially when it's your relatives. So big hugs to you and hopefully your inlaws will be happier once the baby is hear.
My NIPT results are in!!! I called them today. Baby's chromosomes are fine so I'm really happy he/she is healthy. Didn't ask the gender. I will pick the letter up tomorrow and we will probably find out the gender tomorrow evening! Omg I'm so nervous.
Can't wait to hear! I still can't get myself to believe mine were correct and am waiting on ultrasound confirmation first.
I'm scared to get my gender results early. I'm doing Progenity and having them call dh. I'm hoping he will keep the results of the sex from me so I can just enjoy this pregnancy since it's my last one. I'll be ten weeks on 3/31 so I think I can technically take the test then. I'm already nervous about it. After swaying for 7 months, I don't want it to be for nothing. Plus I told dh boy sways had good results and I don't want to be wrong. I would just feel so broken-hearted for him if it's another girl.
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My hcg test from exactly 4 weeks came back today and it was 203. Is that normal? I haven't had any issues such as bleeding or anything so I'm assuming it's all good. This was through my family dr... Haven't picked a midwife yet.
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Yup. Perfectly good #! Congrats!Quote:
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