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You don't know what I'm doing in people's plans, Burkoam. I have dozens of blue swayers all with different needs and I work with them for months and in some cases years. Many of the plans are dramatically different from each other and I tweak them very much over the course of time as things and circumstances change.

I believe that some very great assumptions are being made and I realize in the here and now that nothing I say will be heard by anyone. I think I'm veering into "the lady doth protest too much" land here and I'm done.

I've tried, I've failed, moving on.

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Brandles while I hate that she seems to pop up and always rub in anyone's face she can that she has no problem getting what she wants it seems sway or not, is a good example. Her body is quite obviously in a state of 50/50. She nudges a bit this way she gets a boy.. she goes the opposite, gets a girl. Someone with 3 boys is not going to be in that same state. Brandles admitted for 2 of her boys she swayed so you can't use her as an example of a mom that has 3 boys then gets a girl. Instead the example should be Jen, who is on her 4th I can tell from her belly pictures she still has a lot muscle mass. I think what you are looking at is in what sway cases is there an individual who needs a more extreme sway from you vs someone who may only need a nudge one way or the other.

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And then that perspective is complicated, too, it seems since XX was mentioning extreme sways seeming to be an issue, whereas looser sways work better -- I mean, we have several women on here who had "surprise" babies that did end up being their desired gender, right? Even after several of one? Even for blue, I wonder if people just followed looser changes (so weight gain was minimized, if at all) if that would be preferable, just as the "relaxed sway" has been recommended for girl sways?

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A good example of why women with dominant strong genes doesn't mean boys are easy to make.

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I knew you were pretty ;) your girls look just like you! A little jealous because none of my boys look anything like me. They are all mini versions of my dh

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I'm not implying you're making things up, since you quoted my notion of rhetoric. I, and others, do feel that questioning some recommendations and/or bringing up other points is not well received. Which is uncomfortable. And if you take that as a potshot, I'm at a loss as to how to convey any inquiry.

We're all in here because we're desperate. Many of us pay you in some way or other for a reason. But it's hard to say anything it seems lately.

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Panther, you've implied quite a few things in your recent posts and I don't think I'm misreading them.

That is probably partially down to the shortcomings of communications of forums. You guys have to expect that I will reply to the things you say giving my opinion (which is really all I have to give - my opinion and my experience). Some of the things you in particular have said over the course of the last few days have been unfair and untrue, and when I try to explain further, this has now become drummed up into me being defensive. Or something. I'm sure that's how it comes off. I don't have time to edit LOL. Answering people's questions is not being defensive, nor is trying to explain it further when someone is seeming to misunderstand a point I'm making. That's all.

Anyway, done now.

Oh God, I so totally know better, but again an assumption that some people may have, about what I am recommending that is possibly not correct.

I do not ever tell people to gain bundles of weight for blue. I know people have that misconception but the most I ever have anyone gain in sway plans is 10-15 lbs for women who are very underweight, 3-5 or even 1-3 lbs for most, and then overweight swayers I have them gain nothing if possible and just hold steady. This is not something I can change - that's already how I have it in the blue plans. I agree, completely and totally, excess weight gain is not a good idea (even just for having a healthy pregnancy)

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

Panther, you've implied quite a few things in your recent posts and I don't think I'm misreading them.

That is probably partially down to the shortcomings of communications of forums. You guys have to expect that I will reply to the things you say giving my opinion (which is really all I have to give - my opinion and my experience). Some of the things you in particular have said over the course of the last few days have been unfair and untrue, and when I try to explain further, this has now become drummed up into me being defensive. Or something. I'm sure that's how it comes off. I don't have time to edit LOL. Answering people's questions is not being defensive, nor is trying to explain it further when someone is seeming to misunderstand a point I'm making. That's all.

Anyway, done now.

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I don't know what you think I'm implying though, and I've already said you are inferring something from me that I'm not intending! I've tried so, so hard to try and play peace here while still trying to contribute to discussion. I am only here because I want the same thing as others on here; I came here too wanting a baby of a certain sex and finding the support over being depressed about the sex of my baby. I just feel at this point you dislike me and there's nothing I can possibly say to change this. And even if it doesn't matter if you like me or not, all I have ever tried to do on here was analyze everything we have at our fingertips to try and get our desire gendered babies, like you do for us.

I just don't know what else to say anymore, so I'll just stop.

If I tried to explain, then I would look like an asshole and just get sucked into a further debate about what you meant and how I didn't read it right, ok?? At some point, I think when a person wants to argue, they're gonna find something in anything a person tries, to continue it, and I don't wanna argue. So I am suggesting that we walk away whistling (that's what I am doing anyway) and I'm gonna keep doing what I'm doing to the best of my ability. Maybe there will be something in that that you can use. That would be my hope. :)

Am off to bed now but had to say burakoam what a gorgeous family you have!

I don't really know why we are all arguing, but I think we all want the same thing. Am not sure how may sway will turn out but whatever the outcome, no more babies for me. My decision, but I still am interested in gender swaying and although sorting out this information won't help me, I hope it could help others, I think that is our common goal. We are all here for an individual purpose but our common goal is to help and support each other. I am so grateful for this site because my goodness in the future if this does not work out am going need you guys. I will have no one to talk it through with in rl, my husband has made it clear he will not tolerate gender disappointment! I think it is really healthy for people to share their perspective on why they think it's not working because some helpful ideas might come from this. But it is also heart breaking when people don't get their gd, especially when it is their last shot. I have to say burakoam I have been so impressed with you trying to understand your sway and help others but everyone must remember that that is through a hurt position. That is just my opinion and don't want to upset anyone, so ignore my tired rambling, I don't even know what point I was trying to make. I suppose I don't know how your feeling burakoam just some pop psychology ideas on it!

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Originally Posted by jenren

Such a cute bump! I'm sorry about your dh :( I can't imagine how hard that would be. my dh was done after our second baby. Yet here we are on ds 4 and every pregnancy he has been so supportive and loving about. Even though I know he would have been done after two he has supported me in having more. I even believe he would let me go for a fifth if I wanted... but it would be just too much for me. I really hope dh comes around for you soon. Has he gone to an ultrasound with you??

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Thanks Jen! It's definitely been a tough pregnancy as far as DH is concerned. My black top today was tight and I went to sit on the couch near him... he looked at my belly and rolled his eyes. It really sucks. He did come to my NT scan with me, and asked a couple questions... I think he was a little disappointed hearing that everything was ok with the baby thus far.

So anyway back with thread topic...


Elective ultrasound is in 7 days. I will be 16 weeks and still praying for a miracle. Doubt at this point though..I know intelligender isn't reliable but even that gave a girl result.. was really mad at myself for wasting that 50.

Good luck with the scan burakoam! I'm keeping everything crossed that intelligender was wrong for you though ;) I'm still suffering with morning sickness, it's been worse in the 2nd tri than it was in the 1st?! I'm struggling with clothes now though as none of my normal trousers fit anymore but my mat stuff is on the big side so keep falling down!!! So many cute bump pics, still amazes me how much bumps vary in size even at the same stage of pregnancy!!!x

Oh 3, sorry you're still having awful morning sickness... hopefully it starts to taper off soon. My ms is more like an all day nausea feeling and this nasty taste in my mouth. I was hoping at 15 weeks it would be gone, but nope... still going strong. I got rid of all by baby stuff and mat clothes over this past year... so lately I've been using the trusty hair tie to keep my pants up and make room for my growing belly, but last week I finally broke down and bought some new maternity jeans.

Awe charm :( .. have you found anything that gives your stomach some relief nausea wise? Try a milkshake! I don't know what it is but it seems baby girls really love those shakes and a few people I know in real life that got very sick and also were having girls would rink shakes until the day they delivered cause something about it soothed the belly. My cousin was sick from her pregnancy test until delivery with her daughter :(

Actually, funnily enough yes milk shakes are and have been good! I was craving them early on and I'm never usually a milk drinker at all. It's more to do with an empty stomach though I think as its only in the morning, I lost my breakfast and more the other morning but proceeded to finish it off promptly after finishing in the toilet!!! Lol!

Brandles - I meant to say that my husband isn't overly supportive with this pregnancy either, I knew he'd be like this, in he's gradually getting better so I'm hopeful that by the time baby is here he'll be much better!x

Charm I think the fact he was worried it would be another boy and what that would mean is probably why yours has been kind of off. Now that you guys know you are getting your little girl I bet he warms up fast and she is a big daddy's girl :)

Haven't posted in here yet. Due March 1st. Swayed for a girl, but I having a boy. He will be my second boy. Really sad to see how many people's sways didn't work, especially those on their last baby :( I'm trying to accept having two boys(something I never wanted only wanted one boy) but anytime I see someone with a boy and girl or a family of two girls and boy, all the feelings come back. That could have been me. Why don't I get my dream family? My cousin used my girl name for his first and now he's having a second girl a month before my boy comes which really sucks. I hate going through this pregnancy not at all excited by the outcome. I also can't stop thinking what if. I had just gotten my prescription for metaformin and clomid and was ready to try in July or August only to find out I was already 7 weeks pregnant. Our stupid anniversary weekend ruined everything. I'd feel better if I had at least tried the medications and they didn't work then to not even get the chance..


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Originally Posted by 3'sacharm

Brandles - I meant to say that my husband isn't overly supportive with this pregnancy either, I knew he'd be like this, in he's gradually getting better so I'm hopeful that by the time baby is here he'll be much better!x

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I'm sorry! My hubby wasn't happy with our 1st daughter (or this baby... period). He was really hoping for another boy the 1st time. He warmed up eventually, but wasn't really ok with having a daughter until she was around 2 weeks old. He was holding and talking to her one day and said something along the lines of how he felt so bad for not wanting her and how he couldn't imagine not having her. I'm hoping the same will happen with this baby... and eventually he'll come around. I'm sure your hubby will come around and she'll be daddy's little girl!

lindz, welcome and congrats on your pregnancy- I'm sorry you didn't get your girl this time. Is this going to be your last baby? I would be so upset if my cousin took my girl name... It took me a long time to get her and there were times people (friends) broght her name up and were considering using it. Sending you my thoughts and prayers for your peace with this pregnancy. xoxo

I just wanted to be sure that this is posted everywhere the topic came up. Not trying to open any cans of worms or otherwise, I think it's important that any misconceptions are rectified. :)

I thought it might be helpful to everyone to see the breakdown of our success rates by year.

2011-2012 40 :DS: 22 :DD: - 62% success rate.

I have a further breakdown for 41 of these where I broke them down by IG/FGD vs. HE because HE was new then and we wanted to see if there was any difference - this thread is in the Dream Members section for anyone who wants to verify this.

41 total sways
15 opposites, 4 of which were HE, 11 of which were IG/FGD
26 success, 10 of which were IG, 16 of which were HE

2013 29 :DS: 7 :DD: - 80% success rate

2014 20 :DS: 8 :DD: - 71% success rate

2015 21 :DS: 15 :DD: 58% success rate

2016 So far 5 :DS: 5 :DD: 50% success rate.

Total success rates of the site:

172 total sways, 115 boys, 57 girls, success rate 66%

Welcome lindz! Congrats on your pregnancy! Sorry your sway didn't work, I remember my dissapointment finding out I was having a 2nd boy but eventually was able to get excited by thinking how nice it would be for DS1 to have a brother so I focused on that. It also wasn't what I originally wanted but two boys can be pretty sweet :)


Sorry you are still sick 3'sacharm :( hopefully it improves soon!

Welcome Lindz, sorry you didn't hear pink [emoji17]


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Haven't posted in here yet. Due March 1st. Swayed for a girl, but I having a boy. He will be my second boy. Really sad to see how many people's sways didn't work, especially those on their last baby :( I'm trying to accept having two boys(something I never wanted only wanted one boy) but anytime I see someone with a boy and girl or a family of two girls and boy, all the feelings come back. That could have been me. Why don't I get my dream family? My cousin used my girl name for his first and now he's having a second girl a month before my boy comes which really sucks. I hate going through this pregnancy not at all excited by the outcome. I also can't stop thinking what if. I had just gotten my prescription for metaformin and clomid and was ready to try in July or August only to find out I was already 7 weeks pregnant. Our stupid anniversary weekend ruined everything. I'd feel better if I had at least tried the medications and they didn't work then to not even get the chance..


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Welcome Lindz!!!! I'm so sorry your sway didn't work! We had a NT sono and I'm about 99% sure mine didn't work either, this will be DS#3. I have cried daily for the past 4 days since finding out. I am going to have a very difficult time with anyone having girls around the same time as me, so I can totally relate to you having a difficult time with your cousin having a girl so close to your due date! Will you have more kids? The thing that sucks is that the more boys you have the lower your chances of getting a girl is (at least I think I remember reading that somewhere). When people tell me that we will just have to have a 4th I want to punch them lol. They don't understand that at that rate my 4th is practically guaranteed to be a boy also. Plus, after doing all this I wouldn't sway again. I feel like I did a complete 180 from when I got pregnant with my boys, and if that didn't work for me to get a girl then nothing will.

Also-if it makes you feel any better, I had done 3 cycles of Clomid and the cycle that I got my BFP was right off Clomid and I took Femara that cycle instead. I really thought I would have a good chance at a DD since I was hoping I had a little Clomid left in my system and the Femara would sway for me also. So don't beat yourself up about not getting the chance to take Clomid. It isn't the magic bullet I thought it would be[emoji20][emoji20]


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Like JDD I'm also on my Ds3 I'm 13 weeks and struggling to be excited about this pregnancy. And yes if it makes you feel better I made DS2 while on clomid. We have been ttc for years also did HT which was unsuccessful, I have frozen embryos ready to go from low cost ivf here in Australia I was ready to put one back in November but then accidentally fell.....well not trying not preventing since naturally trying hasn't worked for us for so long and fell pregnant. I keep wondering what my 2 frozen embryos are maybe they where my girls and I fell with this boy first. This is definitely our last I pushed DH for this one so no daughter for me ever. The only reason I wanted a third was for a daughter.


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Hi Lindz, welcome 🌸 you and I are due date buddies 😀

For all of the sway opposites.

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I think i have finally hit the stage of acceptance, but its coming with a really strong depression. I am sorry for my behavior to anyone who felt i was rude, cruel, or unsupportive. At my heart i am not a nasty and rude person.

I hope everyone struggling with their opposites will find healing throughout the pregnancy or after their baby's birth.

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lindz, welcome and congrats on your pregnancy- I'm sorry you didn't get your girl this time. Is this going to be your last baby? I would be so upset if my cousin took my girl name... It took me a long time to get her and there were times people (friends) broght her name up and were considering using it. Sending you my thoughts and prayers for your peace with this pregnancy. xoxo

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No we plan on having one more. Always saw myself with 2 girls and a boy or even 3 girls. I just need to adjust to my new reality. It was always so important to me that my daughter had a sister, but now I'd be perfectly content with just getting a daughter. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers! If I do end up with a daughter, I know she will be worth the long wait and no one better use my new girl name in the meantime!


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Welcome lindz! Congrats on your pregnancy! Sorry your sway didn't work, I remember my dissapointment finding out I was having a 2nd boy but eventually was able to get excited by thinking how nice it would be for DS1 to have a brother so I focused on that. It also wasn't what I originally wanted but two boys can be pretty sweet :)


Sorry you are still sick 3'sacharm :( hopefully it improves soon!

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I never had a brother, so the world of boys is still pretty new to me. My son is the sweetest baby boy, and I'm sure this new baby will be too. I'm glad I can give him a brother(and hopefully friend) even if it isn't my dream


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Welcome Lindz!!!! I'm so sorry your sway didn't work! We had a NT sono and I'm about 99% sure mine didn't work either, this will be DS#3. I have cried daily for the past 4 days since finding out. I am going to have a very difficult time with anyone having girls around the same time as me, so I can totally relate to you having a difficult time with your cousin having a girl so close to your due date! Will you have more kids? The thing that sucks is that the more boys you have the lower your chances of getting a girl is (at least I think I remember reading that somewhere). When people tell me that we will just have to have a 4th I want to punch them lol. They don't understand that at that rate my 4th is practically guaranteed to be a boy also. Plus, after doing all this I wouldn't sway again. I feel like I did a complete 180 from when I got pregnant with my boys, and if that didn't work for me to get a girl then nothing will.

Also-if it makes you feel any better, I had done 3 cycles of Clomid and the cycle that I got my BFP was right off Clomid and I took Femara that cycle instead. I really thought I would have a good chance at a DD since I was hoping I had a little Clomid left in my system and the Femara would sway for me also. So don't beat yourself up about not getting the chance to take Clomid. It isn't the magic bullet I thought it would be[emoji20][emoji20]


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I'm sorry your sway didn't work either :( It's hard because you always hope you're the exception everyone talks about who had a girl after two boys or 3 boys, but in reality it seems so unlikely. My husband and I decided we will go HT for a girl for our third. I can't risk the heartbreak of hearing boy again after having so much hope that it could be a daughter. I only want 3 kids, so I can't just keep trying and hope for the best. It does make me feel better that clomid isn't a magic bullet because I was so sure it was exactly what I needed. Are you able to go HT for a fourth or is it out of the question?


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Like JDD I'm also on my Ds3 I'm 13 weeks and struggling to be excited about this pregnancy. And yes if it makes you feel better I made DS2 while on clomid. We have been ttc for years also did HT which was unsuccessful, I have frozen embryos ready to go from low cost ivf here in Australia I was ready to put one back in November but then accidentally fell.....well not trying not preventing since naturally trying hasn't worked for us for so long and fell pregnant. I keep wondering what my 2 frozen embryos are maybe they where my girls and I fell with this boy first. This is definitely our last I pushed DH for this one so no daughter for me ever. The only reason I wanted a third was for a daughter.


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I'm so sorry :( it's hard to have more children than you were planning on and still not get your daughter. How frustrating to not know if those embryos are girls or boys. I know everyone says things happen for a reason but when you're going through it it's not so easy to have that viewpoint. I hope you're able to find peace when your son is born


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Hi Lindz, welcome [emoji254] you and I are due date buddies [emoji3]

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Yay for being due date buddies! My son was 4 days late so it should be interesting to see when this baby comes


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I think i have finally hit the stage of acceptance, but its coming with a really strong depression. I am sorry for my behavior to anyone who felt i was rude, cruel, or unsupportive. At my heart i am not a nasty and rude person.

I hope everyone struggling with their opposites will find healing throughout the pregnancy or after their baby's birth.

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Omg Burakoam, I absolutely LOVE this!!! It made me cry but it perfectly describes how I have been feeling! I have a nursery, name, etc....all picked out for a daughter. You spend so much time dreaming about what your dream gender baby will look like and then to have it not happen is so painful. I'm glad you are finally accepting your little girl. It gives me hope that someday, I might end up being happy with this baby. It's funny/cruel how your family of 4 girls is my dream family and you want a boy and that's all I keep getting. Life just isn't freaking fair sometimes[emoji37][emoji37].
My husband pointed out to me that if we decide not to have a 4th, this is my last pregnancy and I really need to enjoy it. He's right, I do, but I'm just not sure how. I feel like I will always think back with sadness about this pregnancy.

Lindz-I don't think it's in our budget to go HT. I have enormous student loans and we don't live anywhere near a HT clinic. We have talked about doing foster to adopt for a little girl. I'm not convinced I want to do that either. Even if we do I don't think it will be the same as having my own flesh and blood. I'm jealous you are going HT next time! I hope and pray it works for you!!!!!


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JDD a lot of high tech clinics offer loans for services. We got a loan for my tubal reversal at the clinic I was seeing for 7000 total and with only a credit score at the time of 615. we paid it off with a tax refund.


If you were to decide you could have one more I would 100% go the high tech route. Just so you know that you would for sure get your girl and not risk any more heart break. Take a loan out for the really expensive stuff and save money for the lesser costs like possible hotel stays etc.. they have long term stay hotels that give really good rates like 100-200 for a week or something like that. Most states have them somewhere I think.

It's a debt and the biggest thing to worry about is if it won't work for you. There are women who go in and once their eggs are fertilized they find out the only usable ones are the opposite sex of what they want. The good news is most clinics give you 3-4 tries with the amount you pay. That's actually why I've is so expensive.. they estimate it will take more than one cycle so they offer cheaper services ultimately to those who need all the tries to get pregnant, while making it more expensive to someone who could get it with that first try.

Well ladies, my all day nausea seems to be tapering down a little- yay, but now I've gained some pretty severe lower back pain... and today I woke up with my legs feeling like I did a million squats. It hurts to come down to a sitting position and hurts upon standing. I'm calling my chiropractor first thing tomorrow am for an adjustment. Anyone else having lower back pain already? I think it might be time to pull out some pregnancy pillows.

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Yay for being due date buddies! My son was 4 days late so it should be interesting to see when this baby comes


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Yes should be interesting to see, it is rare for them to come on their Dd, mine have been a little early each time so hoping this one follows suit

Brandles any chance it's SI pain? I had it brutal with my DD3.. whenever I would squat or bend it would be enough to bring tears to my eyes. Once it was bad enough my legs buckled beneath me and luckily hubby caught me before I fell it always felt like it was my low back or tailbone

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Brandles any chance it's SI pain? I had it brutal with my DD3.. whenever I would squat or bend it would be enough to bring tears to my eyes. Once it was bad enough my legs buckled beneath me and luckily hubby caught me before I fell it always felt like it was my low back or tailbone

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Ooooh, ouch... No, this is more like mid-lower back pain... and my legs literally feel like I've been squatting or lifting weights- both totally seem unrelated. Definitely not looking forward to any SI pain though.

It feels like my body is literally falling apart. I possibly broke my right foot just days before finding out I was pregnant, but knew I was so never went for an xray- that is still giving me problems. Then yesterday, a kid with cleats on stepped on my other foot and now that foot is hurting almost as bad as the right side. Lol! A kid stepped on my foot just days before I delivered ds3 and he broke the top of my foot back then. I guess I need to start upping my calcium intake. Lol!

Ouch... I hope your chiropractor helps your back Brandles. Not good about your feet either!

So far I have been pretty lucky avoiding back pain but with DS2 I got some pubic pain so I think I had a bit of SPD. I have noticed a few days since 14 wks where I have had some SPD like pain so I'm hoping it doesn't get worse. I have a better mattress now so I think it should help as it improved last time after using more padding in bed.

I found out today I am accepted in the hospital midwife group practice so I was happy about that. Sometimes it can be hard to get a place. Now I just need everything to stay low risk with my pregnancy so I can have another home birth.

Does anyone know if there is a safe time to have surgery when pregnant? Just wondering when it's safe with anaesthetic? I have gotten gallstones in the last week and they are painful. Prob meeting with a surgeon in the next week or two but just thought I'd ask you guys also. Can't believe I have gallstones I'm an athletic looking person, tall skinny, fit, eat well it's crazy!

Ouch brandles sounds like we are in some pain together.

Great news purple.


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Oh that is awful Magical!!! I hope they can figure something out for you!!!!


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Not a doctor, But id think any time after baby is viable would 100% be safe because then in case of emergency they can always get baby out.

But I think a doctor is going to tell you to go until you cant take the pain any more and then you NEED the surgery..they always wanna put mom first because if anything serious is up with you it can cause complications with baby. I would think the pain associated with gallstones could initiate labor if severe enough because its stress in your body.. I hope you get relief soon magical...