Originally Posted by
suregena
I'm from Arizona. But I live in the UK. I'm used to my big, loud American family and I've been in the UK since the beginning of 2007 and it's NEVER gotten any easier. My husband's family is small, awkward, disjointed, and NOT close OR affectionate at all. His mother is from the pre-war era of Britain so tends to be very reserved, very unemotional, and very unmotherly (which I only REALLY took notice of when I became a mother myself. She doesn't and never outwardly said or showed my husband or his brothers any sort of verbal or affectionate sort of parental love, ever... and that's just strange to me... like saying, "I love you" or cuddling them when they're sick. She never did that with them at all. I remember when my father in law passed away in 2010, and my husband tried to coax her feelings out and she dropped us off at home after we helped her plan the funeral, and my husband said to her, "Love ya" and she very awkwardly was silent then said, "... okay!")