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Originally Posted by xokatietatie
Thank you Nachelle and Strawberry mom! I didn't find out the gender with the Harmony blood test, however it is a very advanced prenatal test that is capable of finding out the gender (much like the amnio yet it is completely noninvasive). I am curious if they have those results and simply didn't share them. The MFM nurse tried to tell me that the test CAN'T reveal gender but I had done my research and know better so I said, " Well actually it does, but I can see why your Maternal Fetal Medicine facility (MFM) wouldn't share that because the test is being done purely for diagnostic reasons." She nodded without looking me in the eyes. I see my OB/Gyn this Monday and he has the test results in writing so I will request a copy and will see if the gender is revealed. I am hoping the test is covered by my insurance due to my advanced maternal age (AMA). If think if it is paid for privately without the referral of a doctor then gender reveal can be requested in advance and is more common.
This test is nothing short of amazing and I think it may almost do away with the amnio since it is 99.9% accurate and eliminates the risk of miscarriage. It can be done any time after 10wks so if you are high risk for any reason or AMA like me, ask your OB/Gyn about it. MFM would not even hint at gender at my 13w4d nuchal (though they told me no doubt it's a boy 2 years ago with my son ~ different tech) and barely put the wand down there like they didn't even want us to get a peak though we expressed our extreme desire to know.
Strawberrymom~ My husband and I are dreaming of a girl. We want to continue to tell our perfect son that he is the best little boy in the world and we want to experience the differences in both genders. Due to my age, this is our last baby so it is my last chance at having a daughter; which I always imagined I would have.
I've been told by docs/surgeons that I'm infertile since early 20s (I always stayed optimistic and I never believed them so I waited until I was ready to try to become a mom). They think I got lucky twice by conceiving naturally. If I was younger and I had another boy, I know I would just keep trying for a 3rd or 4th until I got my girl.... but my husband says he is done, so if it's not a girl we will be very disappointed, unfortunately. I wish we didn't feel that way, but it is nice to have a site where gender desires can be discussed without judgment.
We've solved the issue by saying "what if we call him Seth and you can pick a nickname for him?" he was quite happy with this and by October will have probably forgotten all about giving him a nickname. Even if he hasn't as the only one using it, it wont stick for long LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by strawberrymom
It would be lovely if it did turn out to be swollen girl parts, BUT I just bought some really cute boys stuff and am starting to bond with him as a he so part of me thinks they better not be wrong. I'll take a girl next time thank you LOL
The more I watch the DVD of the scan the more obvious those boys bits become so I know they wasn't wrong for me. DH is such the proud Dad, he has shown EVERYONE the DVD and you know when you sit there thinking "we enjoy this but I they are bored" especially MIL in her 70s, I bet she couldn't make out half the stuff, and shes not too excited about the baby anyway. I was half expecting her to sigh when it wasn't over with in 5 minutes LOL
Oh wow to be told you are infertile and then have 2 separate babies "sneak" through is pretty amazing. Whatever gender this one is, they are truly special, but I hope it is a girl for you. One of the few benefits of AMA is it sways girl! I know what you mean about the push of time. I started at 34 with DS1( I turned 35 four days before he was born), DS2 at 36, and will turn 39 seven days after this babies due date. I probably would have spaced them out more if I had started earlier. I think the Harmony test just started checking gender recently and it seems that in many other countries it won't tell you. There are 2 of us on this forum which did the MaterniT21 test which is basically the same thing. It really is wonderful to have that info although the week of waiting was torture.Quote:
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Mob- Great idea with the nickname!
Strawberrymom ~ I had no idea that AMA sways girl!!! I didn't do any swaying techniques at all so that's hopeful to hear. Thanks! Also, your post really makes me wonder if my OB will have gender results from my Harmony to share with me on Monday. I thought maybe finding the absence or presence of Y was extra work for the lab so thought it was not necessarily looked for. MFM certainly wouldn't share it but if that info is present on report the OB will share because I know I can request a copy of the report from him.... Excited at the thought....
Kiara, what you said about wanting to keep telling your son he's the most perfect little boy in the world is exactly why I'm so scared about having another son-my little guy is perfect in my eyes and I just can't imagine another boy being so perfect. I just can't picture another little lad and really want a girl!!!
I'm sure I've heard that some 'birth defects' are much more common in one gender over another and for that reason they may look for the gender as standard. I know a lady on another site I use had the test done because her body fights off a boy pregnancy and she loses them but can hold a girl pregnancy.
I tell each of mine that they are special because they are which ever brother they are. Like my eldest is special because his the biggest boy and my first baby who made me a Mummy, my 2nd is special because his both a big brother and a little, I've started telling DS3 that he will be both just like DS2, but before he was special because he was my baby. You can still say "You and your brother are the 2 most special little boys in the whole world"