Bee hun you can have a girl. Dont lose hope.
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Bee hun you can have a girl. Dont lose hope.
Hitme- I am hoping and praying that everything turns out ok. Early pregnancy is so damn tough! I'll be checking back often.
Huge hugs sweetie [emoji8]!!
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Big hugs hitme. We are all here for you when you want to talk.
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Oh Hitme, I'm sorry your going through a tough time right now.... Huge hugs & prayers to you!
Welcome Three stars & Bee!
How would you all handle this. You are all so supportive - I hope I'm not making any mistakes being forthcoming with this. I really don't want judgement.
I've been with my husband for 8 years. Before that I was with my ex for nearly 15 years. Totally monogamous relationship. Yesterday my midwife calls telling me I screened positive for chlamydia via a urine sample. I've done nothing but pace the halls, toss and turn and Google the shit out of this bc HOW THE HELL DID IT GET IT????? I have zero symptoms. Zero. I went in for a retest - as someone mentioned false positives happen. So I went and had urine and swab redone and now I wait. I asked if it was possible that him or I had it before we met and carried it into our marriage and she said it is possible. I called my family doctor then. To find out if I've ever been tested before (to see if us routine in pregnancy) and he said no, only if we ask for it. So could I have had this for years and years and neither done of us had any symptoms?
He's out of the country and so I have not approached him. I've bawled my eyes out at the possibility of an affair. He's not the "type"... But what else can I think?
My midwife said if we're in a trusting and honest relationship with good dialogue this shouldn't be a big deal. She also said false positive is highly unlikely, and that it's very likely one of us had it forever. But it is a big deal. I'm mortified. An absolute mess. I can't stop crying and thinking about this.
My doctor also said its possible that one of us had it but his tone was that it was very unlikely...
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Hitme - Definitely no judgement here at all. I can't imagine how upset and torn you are - I can imagine that is devastating to you.
If it were possible, do you think your husband could have had it for years and not known it before finally passing it on to you? I know for example, my DH has only been STD tested ONCE in his life, and that was only because he had a UTI, and that was back in high school. So to me, it's much more likely that he's had it forever with no symptoms and without symptoms, why would he be swabbed and checked for it? And I think you're right - if neither of you has been checked for it, it seems very possible to me you could have had it for years before realizing it.
I hope if nothing else you're able to talk to your DH and he gets swabbed as well. I know that doesn't ease your fears as I'm sure there will be something in the back of your mind, but to me, it does seem possible that you could have had it for years without symptoms. I mean hell, you didn't even have symptoms now, right? It was just a routine screening since you're pregnant.
So sorry you are going through this hitme. I would first wait for the second results and if its the same. I have also read that most people who have chlamydia don't have any symptoms and that you could have it for years and not know. Especially if you have never been tested which is your case. Speak to your husband when you are ready, I wouldn't assume that cheating is 100% the cause and try to stay calm which is easier said then done ..I hope it all works out [emoji1]
So sorry hun. U r going thru this. I can imagine. I would hve been mad as well. But plz b easy on urself n dont cry. U r strong hun
Never any judgement here! Like everyone else said, you know your husband best.... If you've never been tested or your husband, it's totally possible that one of you got it from a previous relationship..... Take some time & talk to your hubby.... Still praying for you..:hugs:
If your mind is thinking the worst I would talk to your husband as soon as possible. You don't want to be upset like this during your pregnancy.
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