Due in December 2014 - Jan/Feb 2015

I can't even come up with the right word for what I think about your situation, Bunny. Sad, frustrated, angry, scary....all seem to fit. I'm so sorry the tech wasn't more upfront with you about what these things might mean. I understand why you might feel like you are being punished, but I am POSITIVE that's not it. This is what it is and it's not because of anything you have or haven't done now or in the past. I hope whatever it is resolves by your next scan and hubby gets on board for future children. Give it some time, things may very well work out perfectly over time. Hugs to you!
Angie
P.S. I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your last pregnancy. What a heartbreaking decision to have to make.

Angie said it best! Everything she said.

Oh Bunny sorry to hear this news How horrible I really hope your little man improves and that by your next scan he'll be as right as rain


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I'm sorry I'm behind on this thread already.
Bunny I'm sorry. I would want another scan sooner than 1 month. Can you get one? I'm hoping that maybe the tech was wrong? Were you able to speak to your dr?
I'm also sorry about your losses. They are so devastating and heartbreaking.

Hotdogz- I'm still breast feeding ds 3 and he is 2. He is very attached and I've trying weaning several times with no luck. I'm not bothered by it and I know several ppl who breast fed through pregnancy.

Rosie I've having cramping pulling etc. figure it's normal for my sixth pregnancy (2 pregnancy losses)? Hope you and Hotdogz feel better.

Nausea hit me hard on Wednesday night and hasn't eased up much at all. I feel hung over like I drank way too much and I'm overall yucky feeling tired nauseous and just blah. I guess that's good. I hope so. Nothing helps. Food eating or not eating but I'm still gaining weight. Blah!!



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Yeah, I am a horrible judge of how painful things are. I get wicked period cramps during my cycle and have learned to manage them. And then three natural births, I guess maybe I'm not bothered by pain the same way as some people. It feels more uncomfortable than painful. But it's so consistant, ill have them check it out on Thursday at the sonogram. I love the tech, I have had her all along and she will answer my questions. I'm not sure what the do if it is a cyst. I've never actually had one.

Oh Bunny :( I am SO, so sorry for you. How horrible to be left in limbo. You must have so many questions and that must be a terrifying feeling. I hope you get some answers soon and can come to peace with your husband as to your decisions on having more children. I do hope your baby boy is okay and you find it's not as bad as you must be fearing.

Rosie, we will tell people after the 13 week mark too. My mom already knows. I see her almost daily and just can't hide things from her. But she is keeping it from my dad right now (he worries a lot about my health because of the blood clotting issues). So it's just my mom and hubby who know. I might tell my brothers after our scan next week. But, more likely, ill just wait a while, til I feel a little better about things. I will def keep the news within the close family until the second trimester. Unless my belly gives me away before that, but that is extremely unlikely, I show pretty late.

I do, somewhat, fear that folks aren't going to take to this pregnancy as "good news" or as excitedly. I don't know if its because its our fourth or if people think we "need" to be done because we have one of each gender. But it was always in our plans to have more than three. I'd even have one more after this if hubby was on board (he isn't). But I do think the reception of this one will be pretty lackluster. Hence wanting to keep it a secret longer. We can be happy about it in our own bubble (me, hubby, and my mom...who loves all things babies and grand babies).

I'm so sorry bunny 😔 I pray that ur little boy will be fine and hope that you are ok too xo

Hotdogz I agree that even after the first child, the 'novelty' and excitement of a new baby wears off on people apart from family and close friends. When we had DD1 we had constant calls, ******s of visitors and were so busy. With DD2, it was pretty much family and close friends. This time when we tell ppl they are like 'oh congratulations a third' and usually follow it with do I know what I'm in for, or are you sure u can handle three. Hahaha the lack of enthusiasm makes me laugh!

Bunny- I too agree, Angie said it best. I would be in a fit of rage and concern so I understand your feelings. I would also call the doctor to see what hey have to say and see about looking at the baby again sooner- just a thought. Hotdogz- you have one of each gender? Your photo looks like you have 3 boys?

Yup with ds3 the only one excited was my mom...everyone else could have cared less. I am assuming this one will be the same way. It's sad that people only care about 1st babies. My mil buys so much stuff for ds1 but nothing for the other two...it really angers me.

Thanks guys. I just feel so overwhelmed right now trying to process things. My doctor double-checked on ultrasound himself because the tech couldn't get clear enough views of what he needed to see. He also had a hard time getting clear pictures, but said he was finding the same results as the tech. The brain issues are worrying me more than the heart issues at this point. It seems to be something with one of the valves that's off and I know that can often be corrected by surgery or medications so it's less worrisome. I just don't know what to think or expect with the brain though. My first trimester screen came back normal range for risks, but they don't do a NT scan here normally unless you are 35 or have a previous child with chromosome issues, although I the scan with my last pregnancy. DS2 had what appeared to be heart abnormalities at around 14 weeks because one of his chambers was measuring much smaller than the others, although it caught up by the third trimester and things were fine. These are entirely different issues this time though and I wonder if my age is starting to come into play for abnormalities (I'm 33). DH hasn't really said anything one way or the other about it other than "well, you have one girl" and that's not the least bit comforting or helpful to me. I don't think he gets it because he's never really wanted girls anyway. I grew up with two brothers and always wanted a sister. I was always treated horribly by my brothers and felt outnumbered and alone. I always wanted to have two daughters to have that close sisterly bond I never got. As it is, my boys are already picking on and ostracizing DD and she gets very upset about it. I can only imagine it getting worse as she gets older and understands more about what's going on.

I'm so sorry bunny! I hope everything turns out well..
I understand you wanted a sister for your daughter. I'm the youngest sister with two brothers as well.
They weren't always sweet to me, but I love them dearly and they love me.
It's something belongs in brother/sister relationship. I know they would beat the crap out of my DH if he would hurt me in one way or another. LOL!

I think you need to be careful you don't let your fear become reality. My brothers felt left out because they thought my mom was placing me first because I was a girl.
And that was a reason for ruling me out sometimes (and sometimes some games weren't for girls period)
I would just be careful in that if i get a girl. I need to let the boys feel just as important as the girl. They would be all my kids.
Don't fear already. they are so small. they don't know what they're doing. Show them on how to play well together.
Show them Your DD also need to learn. that you also respect their feelings and place. Don't forget your boys are also very tiny! My youngest has your oldest sons age! he's not even 4! they need your guiding! make your lovely fam lovely! Honest it doesn't have to turn out the way you think!

I hope your husband adores your girl. or else that could be a reason too. that he let the boys feel girls aren't fun or important. That would be so sad.

I hope you get a quicker answer on you little bundle in there. and you can at least enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!
I understand you don't feel happy now :(
I wanted to give you a big hug!


I start to feel better already. sometimes I'm nausea out of the blue.. but it isn't often.
9,5 weeks I am. It seems to go slowly.. ugh! I can't wait to feel the baby kick.
I can't shake the feeling anymore that it will be another boy. I'm not depressed over it tough. Staying team green I hope I'm wrong.

As about telling ppl.
We told ppl after the first scan at 8 weeks. My mother knew right away. she kept silent too. My father can't keep a secret.
the responses were nicer then with DS3! so maybe it turns out ok for you guys too!