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New Here and due 11th April :)
Welcome Beckesuhh, did you sway and have you found out the babies gender or are you having a surprise? x
Hoping NC is ok, not seen her on here for ages. Fingers crossed she is just busy with it coming up to Christmas. x
I've been thinking about her too. We chatted so much, and now I don't see her on here at all. I hope all is well with her.
NC...WE MISS YOU!!!
3 days until the scan... oh my God.
Hugs Suregena I got butterflies for you when I read that! I remember all too well how the nerves feel! My fingers are firmly crossed that you hear girl. xxx
These stories of wrong gender scans are making me terrified. Lol. Mine really wasn't ambiguous, but I can't help but be paranoid!!
Welcome Beckysuhh. We always enjoy new faces around here. Jump right in, but this room moves quickly, so be warned! (I can't ever keep up!)
Does anyone else in here get really scared around week 15 thru week 25? I did this with my second son as well and it just is starting to hit me. Once I start to feel the baby and start to get attached emotionally...picking out a name, finding out the sex, starting to pull out clothes, buy new baby things...I start freaking out that something will happen to the baby. It's an uncontrollable fear. And I can't help but feel like I am too lucky...that I get pregnant so easily, that my babies are healthy, that my labors are easy, etc and that I am waiting for something to go terribly wrong. Am I alone in this? I do believe it started after I had losses between my first and second child and I got a taste of what that heartbreak feels like. And now I can manage in early pregnancy by staying pretty detached. I can even be okay around week 12, since it's a new "safe zone" (as if!). But once I start to develop that attachment, I start panicking. I can't talk myself out of it. I mostly just have to wait for a wave of it to pass. Buts it's hard.
Yeah that's why I won't buy anything or get attached yet this time. I hate this. I used to think 12 weeks was safe but after last time I just want to make it to 20 weeks and breathe
The wrong gender stories suck but if you look at the pics none are too clear IMO. Depends on the tech I think and how much fluid etc etc. I was told before 15 weeks last time girl by the same tech and she was right. She was also right about my boys at 15 weeks. And ds2 had that perfect snail looking potty shot lol
No there was no refund because the 12 and 18 week ultrasounds were not for gender, the tech just had a guess at them like she probably does at all of them (including mine). The one she paid for was specifically for gender and there it was revealed as a boy. I'd say at the earlier scans the tech may have said 70% or something like that, so really if its not 100% i think its not safe to buy anything and get attatched. I didnt ask about the techs response i would assume that it was an awkward conversation so i didnt want to pry any further because i dont actually know this lady personally. She did express her anger about it and said she would never go back there.Quote:
Originally Posted by spinningmadly
Same here! This past week has been hard. While I feel early movement, it's not as frequently as with my son... and I keep waking up on my back, over and over and over... and feel like it's going to do something bad to the baby (like cut its oxygen because of the bad nono for sleeping on your back.) I am NOT a back sleeper, so why is it happening all of a sudden?Quote:
Originally Posted by hotdogz&boyz
I'm pretty paranoid right now!
Yes... just realized how really soon that is. I mean, tomorrow (Monday) we're going out to lunch to have an early "Christmas" meet up with my mother in law (since we're spending Christmas in America) and I'm finishing up my packing. Tuesday is a regular work day. Then Wednesday is my work day before I leave for the US AND also the day of my scan! I'll be going to get my son from his childminder right after work and then going straight to the scan! It's really not far away at all. Geez, so much is going on this week...Quote:
Originally Posted by mummypink
I'm nervous about the flight as well! I always get like this before a flight... especially long, epic, transatlantic ones!
Really don't worry about that, i had it all the time with ds3 and was that worried i asked the midwife. I would cut off your air supply and make you pass out long before it would do any damage to your baby, it would be the last one to notice. I you feel fine then she will no worries and you will move if your not (even if you don't realise it)Quote:
Originally Posted by suregena
I used to work in a NICU... so, ever since then, I don't relax until I get to 24 weeks and beyond. :/Quote:
Originally Posted by spinningmadly
There was the very odd 23 weeker who would actually end up in the NICU because it was fighting so hard, and I do remember one who managed to survive (with a ton of problems... necrotizing enterocolitis and all sorts... )
I saw the same parents every single day, for the most part, for months on end. I felt almost attached to them and their babies and those babies' recoveries and eventually being discharged from the hospital. It was the best job I've had to date but also...
working in that place really affected me. I had my two miscarriages while I was working there! Which is why I left... because I desperately wanted a child and knew it might (the stress because I had three different jobs and worked crazy shift patterns and also traveled a far distance on my own which when it's at night can be scary on the trains) be why I kept having losses. I switched to the nearby hospital to a boring desk job (where I am now) in a Radiology department, and I was pregnant with my son within a month.
I do miss that job constantly. Isn't that strange?
Hey ladies! I am so wiped, been shoveling all day. We got about 8 inches of snow so far! Probably shouldn't shovel while pregnant though huh? Oops!
I am suddenly in the Christmas mood because of the snow so that's good! Last year we didn't have snow, a first for me. Living in Minnesota we always have snow for Christmas so it's nice to have it back. I am now ready to wrap some presents!
Rosie- Where in minnesota are you?
surgena- I think seeing all of that stuff has probably changed how you react in pregnancy. I know a lot of my friends, after seeing my loss happen with no warning, are on pins and needles now during their pregnancies
I am an hour north of Minneapolis
Yes, most likely, then to have two early losses back to back... it just left me feeling like pregnancy is far more complex then most realize. I don't even know why I would have two losses in a row, being young and apparently fertile. So it just raises questions, you know? Pregnancy is an intense experience but I do look forward to the days I can feel proper movement... that certainly helps a lot. I've not experienced anywhere near what you have but I think our fears are similar.Quote:
Originally Posted by spinningmadly
Even with my son, if he was having a quiet day, I'd seriously annoy him (like prod him to get him to move) to make sure he was all right!
Rosie- our puppy came from Mora, MN..
not sure where that is in relation to you lol
Suregena its good you will be busy with things leading up to your scan, gosh i know how nerve wracking it is the day or 2 before :) but i really really really think your baby is a girl, so try to be more excited than nervous :)
Rosie let your DH do the shoveling please. Wow a white Xmas is something i have never experienced, it must be really special!
Our weekend was fun we had an early xmas get together with DP's 2 brothers and their families, we got the kids a slip n slide and they had hours and hours of fun on that. Heres some piccys of our 3 :)
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Gorgeous pics Cinss, your girls look like they're having a ball! I was just thinking how it would be lovely to see snow this time of year after reading the others posts but then I saw your pics and realised how much fun we have this time of year, so thanks for that ;) (I still would love to see snow though)
Oh I could have written the post about anxiety - I have it soooo bad right now. Im only feeling bubs maybe once every couple of days if Im lucky and this morning I woke up and my tummy has gone. I know I shouldnt but i listen for the heartbeat on my doppler every day (literally only for 5 seconds) and that helps for the day but I wish I could feel baby but even then I am constantly scared. I read all the posts on losing their babies and I automatically think that will happen to me, its crazy and totally irrational.. I had a dream last night I was bleeding and instantly had to run to the toilet when I woke up. I wish I wasnt such a worrier, it really takes up too much time and energy ugh!
Surgena I can imagine the nerves but it sounds like you are pretty busy over the next few days so hopefully that will help with the nerves. Also how exciting that you are going on your holiday so soon!!! I had to drop hubby off at the airport yesterday and I was so jealous of all the people travelling.
Mora is about 45 minutes from here actually :-)Quote:
Originally Posted by spinningmadly
haha too funny Rosie!!
bimby - I have been doing the same thing with the doppler. my midwife said try not to do it everyday but I get too nervous. logically I know theres nothing I can do to prevent anything but my best friend just told me to use it, its better than being stressed out about it.
I talked to my midwife about the doppler (and when I could hear the heartbeat on their doppler) and she said they actually changed protocol since I was pregnant with my son and they don't offer anymore, because it is not clinical at all and offers no real clues to how the baby is doing (gee, thanks!) That they rely more on movement and often the heartbeat is the last thing to tell you that something is wrong. Certainly didn't make me feel better about using my doppler at home... but I'm still using it for reassurance! Figures.Quote:
Originally Posted by spinningmadly
Well If the heartbeat is gone its probably too late obviously
I don't feel movement yet though... So I don't know how I could tell with that?
I know... kind of frustrating. I'm still glad I've got my Doppler despite her telling me that. :/
Even though I feel movement I still freak out daily because sometimes he will go hours and hours without moving. Drives me bonkers. My other boys moved all the time as soon as I felt them for the first time. I could count on at least a kick an hour. Now...it can go 6 hours without any movement. So scary to me! He doesn't wake easily either, I try all sorts of things to get him to move and he doesn't.
Very cute Cinss! :)
Aww, a white Christmas sounds lovely. I'd love for my boys to see snow one of these days but I'm too chicken to drive up to the snowy areas.
Wishing you a very safe flight to the US, Suregena! xx
I would rather have the Doppler than stress out, too. I am stressed enough as it is and I know from past pregnancies that I won't stop worrying until the baby is safely in my arms. And then I'll worry about other stuff lol. It just makes me feel better to hear the hb.
I didn't get any good pics of this baby yesterday because of his position, but here is the potty shot.
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Rosie my Ds2 never moved much. I could go days and not feel him. This was before I would freak out so i just assumed he was ok and he was. anyway he was a very sleepy baby and he still sleeps all the time.. Lol
Ahh Lassie! Those wrong gender posts have me questioning again lol!
Congratulations on your little boy Shell, I really thought you were having a girl too... But I'm sure he will be much loved!!
Good luck with your scan and your flight suregena, I'm not a fan of transatlantic flights. I flew from Turkey to the US by myself with my (at the time) 7 month old, and then back to Turkey, and I was terrified. Not a good day for me lol.
How is everyone else doing? I can't believe I only have around 16 weeks left until we meet this little guy!
Spinning, I am so very happy for you!
Jark, thinking of you and hoping you find some peace very soon.
I have my anatomy scan on Friday and part of me is still convinced I'll hear girl, although my 15+6 week scan pics were pretty clear boy. I too am finding myself constantly searching for stories of wrong gender determinations, I really need to stop!
3M, was your Basset hard to housebreak? I'm having a bit if trouble with that and whining. Our pup whines constantly when I leave the room. I'm a sahm so it's almost like she hasn't figured out it's OK to be alone. We live in a townhome and I'm sure between the pup and ds3 waking at night due to one year molars, my neighbor must hate us! I can't leave pup to cry it out when my neighbor is home, which is almost always! I forgot how much work puppies are!
I think my ticker is wrong, baby can't possibly be the size of a cantaloupe right??
Winngrin our puppy is a lot of work too lol. Thankfully she loves the crate and doesnt whine... But I hate house training. Sometimes she gets it and waits by the door but other times she just goes near our door and if we don't get her right away she just finds a spot inside. She's constantly sniffing the floor, I think bc everything smells like food from the kids, so it's hard to tell when she's sniffing to go
hehe maybe if you cut it in 4 length wise ;) and is that an onion next? Ive never had an onion bigger than a cantalope!Quote:
Originally Posted by Winngrin
I hope I finally get a baby that sleeps well Spinning! You don't even know what I went through with my other two! haha
So wrapping christmas gifts at 23 weeks pregnant is kind of not very fun...it hurts! hahaha
Lol Rosie... I discovered how bad 'Santa' is at wrapping gifts a few days ago, especially while pregnant lol!! I sat on the floor and could barely get up when I was done. But luckily I got it all done in one sitting!
Ive been so bad this year and I havent even started my Xmas shopping.. I know what Im going to get I just have to get off my butt and do it. So Im going to be extra cranky wrapping pressies this year as I have to tackle the masses to buy the pressies first.. note to self: be organised next year!!! Usually Im done in the mid season sales but a money was tight we held off this year. At least I know I wont over buy like I usually do. Ive decided Santa is getting the kids board games, books and a popcorn maker and perhaps a cd player for their bedroom (they share) - They got so many cars/trucks/toys for their birthdays which was only last week so we have enough around the house already. Any of you have any good ideas for board games for 3-5 y/o?? They have Uno, Yahtzee and connect 4 already. Ive got Mousetrap for them and thinking of getting Guess Who and Operation??
Oh and I had a thought about the doppler thing and I can hear bubs moving in the doppler so at least that is comforting too right?
Bimby we have the same issue with Xmas and birthdays. They are so close to each other I just get a mess of presents and divide it up lol
Lol rosie my first never slept so when number 2 came along I was thrilled he was sleeping. Well he slept so much he wouldn't get up to even nurse lol and the dr and my Mw were like u need to wake him up!! Anyway not the smartest mom moment