I am sorry you are hurting. I am here if you want to talk.
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I am sorry you are hurting. I am here if you want to talk.
Oh I'm so sorry, Ive been exactly there and it's just awful to hear the opposite of what you wanted and feel guilty for feeling like that. Like lucky lass said, its ok to mourn not having a dd, it's not the same as not wanting your son. I promise it will get easier over the weeks and by the time he is due (if not way earlier) you will be so excited to meet him. I always said never another, but number 4 here we go! Take care
I am really sorry you are feeling so sad. Give yourself time to mourn your visions. I think it's probably smarter for either OH to tell his folks alone or to hold off entirely. It's not fair to you to have to deal with their emotions when you are so raw yourself. Big hugs. I hope you feel better soon.
Thank you so much. Your kind words mean so much! X
I'm so sorry. My heart aches for you. Many of us have been there. My family knew I wanted a boy but they handled it very graciously.
Perhaps if you are open with your feelings they will comfort you in your time of need. There's no shame in wanting to raise both genders. If they have a little GD that's understandable. I'm sure we can all relate!
It's hard to keep this bottled up. I'm glad he looks healthy!
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Retrolove,
Oh how I feel your pain! It is awful. I am pregnant with DS#4, and just KNEW he was a girl. Have felt incredibly heartbroken...found out about a month ago, and after a couple of weeks, I can say I am feeling much better now. I know I will love him the moment I lay eyes on him, but in the meantime, I am grieving the vision I had for my perfect little family. I know you are going through the same thing, and it is SO hard. But you will get there...let yourself grieve. It's okay! Huge hugs!!
I know it will all be OK in the end and like you've all said it will get easier. I'm going to be even more envious of people who have one of each now. All the old wife tales said girl, everything was pointing in that direction. X
oh no! I was waiting for this update, i'm so sorry you didn't hear pink. all of my old wives tales said girl and i'm having a boy, too. so i feel ya!
where is that opposites thread, i'd like to join!?
I'm sorry you didn't hear girl retrolove, I was really hoping you would get your DG. So so pleased baby is healthy though and congratulations on your little boy. You know yourself that boys are great, this one will be too.
This may or may not help, but I had a few days of feeling really disappointed when we found out DS2 was a boy ( I was adamant he would be our last!).. it did get better and once he was born I felt so so guilty for feeling like that because he is just wonderful and would not have him any other way. I hope when we find out a week on friday that if this one is indeed another boy, I will hopefully remember how I felt when DS2 was born.
I hope the reactions of family members don't make you feel any worse. I too am dreading telling people - we are toying with the idea of not telling anyone if we find out. Could you do that? Or maybe wait until you are feeling stronger?
Sending you lots of hugs and strength.