Thanks, Atomic! I wish it would be! My nips tend to do that anyway in the 2ww so I doubt it....my biggest tell-tale symptom has always been feeling dizzy and faint, isn't that odd?
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Thanks, Atomic! I wish it would be! My nips tend to do that anyway in the 2ww so I doubt it....my biggest tell-tale symptom has always been feeling dizzy and faint, isn't that odd?
Lola, big fingers crossed for you!! I still hope you can either concieve naturally or do IVF...I think it would be so awesome for you and your supportive man to have a baby together!
Try not to listen to horror stories! They just freak you out for probably no reason. I hope your dr. can shed some light on the spotting for you.
Thanks, gals. I hope everything is ok also.....I just hope whatever is wrong, if there is something wrong, is temporary and fixable. I just have this overwhelming irritation that we can't get pregnant naturally lately. It's really hard when it's not you, either. I keep having this recurrent thought that I could just order some sperm from a donor that looks like my DH and have an insemination on my lunch hour on O day and call it a wrap. Isn't that horrible???? I am just dreading the IVF thing....paying for it (even if it's less than in the US), the shots and meds and all, and just the whole thing. I am getting a little chicken about it lately. I feel like it would all rest on that one cycle, like it then or nothing, since we obviously can't do lots of cycles. Heck, we'll need a year to save up for that one, and it's less than half the cost of the US.
How much is donor sperm and artificial insemination? Is your DH at all into that option these days? I know he had rejected the idea initially, but maybe he would be more receptive to it now. It wouldn't be his bio child, but it would be HIS child, and you could find a donor that looks like him. Didn't someone else suggest mixing your DH's sperm with donor sperm, and then you would never really know if it was his bio baby or not? It seems like that would be a nice option too. Cheaper than IVF, and no traveling!
Honestly, Hobbs, I would love it if he would just say OK, let's do it. I worry that my eggs will go bad or my uterus become a crap environment before next July/August (which is when we would go to Prague) for one. The whole IUI/donor sperm shooting match would maybe be $2,000 at most, which would be way more affordable. The other thing is, with his sperm being 99% abnormal, I kinda don't even WANT his in there, kwim? I know, this is all super horrible crap I'm saying here, but I am so afraid of having more m/c because of bad sperm. And I don't even know for sure that it was the cause, but I just have this bad feeling that it was.
I know couples that use DS have to for many reasons, and this is definitely one of them. I know we should investigate IVF first, but I'm so afraid of there being no good sperm when we get there ready to go and having to use Czech donor sperm on the fly anyway. I mean, if you look up 1% morphology, the odds are BAD. And my DH has a low count to boot. This is how the urologist put it: if you have a count of 100 million but only 1% morphology, there are still like 1 million normal sperm present. If you only have 19million, there are a heck of a lot less and your odds of natural pregnancy go WAY down to like nothing. I guess we could try IUI with his sperm, but there will be so few, and they'd have to "wash" all the crappy ones out, but there would still be many that were abnormal that would probably make it through the wash.
I don't know, I would never say it to his face, but it's almost like I'm afraid for his sperm to get me pregnant whichever way we do it.
Well, can you really push the idea of donor sperm? Or is he really opposed? What are his reasons?
You have a GREAT chance at IVF, after all, he has got you pregnant before remember ;) x x
True, but they were all m/c and most likely abnormal since after testing me for every possible thing that could cause a m/c, nothing was found. I'm just mad that we have to do ivf, I guess. I'm going through a little pissed off phase about it all I think.Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
The only one time I mentioned DS, he just said he didn't want to think about that option. I've told him that it may need to be an option if we want a child at all, and he said yea, ok, although he wasn't real excited about that. I think it's the same thing a lot of guys feel (and women who need donor eggs, for that matter), that it's just a step away from perfect. But lots of people, including myself, get to the point where they don't care because having a baby is more important, and after all, it's just a couple of microscopic cells that you are using. In my opinion, it's no different than adopting a baby, except that it's half genetically linked to you and your partner, and you get to experience pregnancy and birth....and it's a hell of lot more affordable than adoption.
We'll see....I need to just think about it for a while. I need to talk to R also....I keep feeling mad at him, and I know it's just my disappointment in his sperm, and not his fault, but I can't help it. Part of me thinks it IS his fault, that if he would have taken better care of himself throughout his life (we only met when he was 35), he'd have normal sperm. I think it's a phase....hopefully. But I do wish we could just do the easiest thing. Not that I'm being lazy, but I have SO much on my plate with a demanding job, being the breadwinner, raising my girls, and currently taking care of R still since he had surgery. Easy is the name of my game lately. IVF is certainly not readily attainable or easy at all. I would much rather have a simple IUI with some super sperm that will make a healthy baby and be done with it right now.
Just {hugs} Lola x